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Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams

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A CAUTIONARY TALE: PLEASE READ THE BOOK BEFORE YOU COMMENT

Dear "Reader from Los Angeles",

I think you'll feel a lot better about my research if you actually DO read Soulmates, and I know you'll be relieved to learn that the material to which you object does NOT appear in it. Nor did this material appear in an early raw manuscript of the book that you purportedly read sometime ago. I will quote for you here in its entirety the only passage I actually used based upon my research interviews that you referred to. (The woman to whom you refer is called "Carmen," and your husband - the man Carmen called "Joseph" in an early manuscript of the book - is referred to as "Adam.")

SECOND CHANCES (Excerpt from: SOULMATES: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams, pp. 99-100.)

"I am convinced that we can have soulmate relationships with a number of different people. The loss of one ideal partner doesn't mean that we cannot have the wonderful relationship our soul desires - it just means that we can't have it with him or her. For example, here's what my friend Carmen's guide replied when she asked if a man who interested her was her soulmate: 'You want to know if Adam is "The One". I say he is a total possibility. But there are other men around who could join you on your path of holiness. You are nesting, and various holy friends who are, so to speak, at your level, will approach you. No matter who you choose, or who takes you as a partner, you both will be joyous in the same measure.'

"'Carmen' shared her experiments with guidance with me several years ago as they were unfolding. I felt - indeed, I still feel - that there was a lot of wisdom in some of the responses she received in meditation. There is nothing in my notes that recalls Carmen's guide ever saying that Adam was her 'one and only,' but simply that he was a good man who shared her values and interests, and who might make a good partner for her if he chose to do so." [End of Excerpt]

As events continued to unfold, it became apparent that Adam had not chosen to consider Carmen as a romantic partner, and, at her guide's urging, she did begin a relationship with someone else. Since nothing had come of Carmen's interest in Adam, I decided not to include the material related to her inner process in the book, except for the excerpt above.

In retrospect, it does seem like a shame that Carmen decided to share her meditations regarding Adam with him, and that he then decided to share them with you. I can understand that it would be upsetting to think other people were being led to believe that your husband was "meant for" someone else. However, if you do decide to read Soulmates, you'll see that I argue vigorously against the idea that each of us has only one ideal mate, or that anyone is intended for some specific individual by God, or fate, or whatever. It is my belief that these are matters of individual choice, and since you and the man I've called "Adam" have chosen one another, I wish you much happiness!

That's the question I want to ask this wonderful guidebook to soulmate relationships! Soulmates answers so many important questions about the real nature of fulfilling partnerships. It is easy to read, and filled with true-life examples of the principles that it teaches. Each chapter ends with a clear summary of its most valuable points. As a psychotherapist, I have recommended Soulmates to many of my clients, who have also found it to be an extremely valuable guide to a complex subject.

I was pleasantly surprised to find that "Soulmates" is not New Age pablum, but a delightful mixture of solid psychology and ... and what? Warm mysticism? Course in Miracles wisdom? Whatever the second part, the first part, solid psychology, is undeniable, and the author's wit, honesty, modesty and self-disclosure make the book a great read. Believe it or not, it may even help you find (or create) a soulmate.

Wonderful, wonderful book!!!! It provided me the insights and tools that I needed to recognize my future soulmate. I am now involved in a fabulous relationship that probably would never have evolved without the help and guidance that I gained from this book. I've since ordered copies for my two best friends who, like me, have struggled with relationships in the past.

Soulmates is a fascinating and extremely well-written book that expresses profound universal truths about love relationships in a clear, simple, and concise manner. As an English teacher I appreciate its reader-friendliness and warm style. As a woman who for many years has sought love and romance, it opened my eyes to the way to finding a SOULmate rather than the succession of egomates I've been used to. Dr. Miller, a psychologist, shares the amazing stories of dozens of people from all walks of life who succeeded in finding their special someone. Her research reveals what these people did and why. Specific guidelines are presented at the end of each chapter so that you may do the same. Highly recommended to all seeking TRUE love after trying all the rest.

Miller dispels the myths and false beliefs about soul mates. Her approach is practical yet enlightening, comprehensive and heartening in the way she gently leads you to transcend your ego demands and find the relationship of your highest dreams. If you've ever been curious about soul mates, read it.

In my 22 years of floundering about in relationships, including one divorce, I must have read nearly every popular book on relationships. They promised everything, but after each hopeful adventure, I wound up alone still longing for my true soulmate. What a surprise it was to me as an experienced romantic when I discovered that I really had no idea about how to go about finding one. In fact, I really didn't understand what a "soulmate" really was until I came across this wonderful book.

Dr. Miller, a psychologist, presents a totally new view of love and soulmate relationships and how to find your own. She illustrates her very practical approach with numerous tales from her research and interviews over many years. What a relief to finally see what I have been doing wrong and to have clear guidelines on how to do it right. The best part is that I don't need to become anything more than I have already been all these years to make this work. I just have to know how to utilize what I've always had. It all comes from within us, and this book tells us how to access it.

I am thrilled with the changes that I have already made and my dating activities have shown marked benefits. I feel more certain of what I am doing, more insightful, and that sense of anxiety has been replaced with a calming peacefulness. I connect better and now know when to and when not to! For all of you yearning for soulmate love, I urge you to try this better way!

Dr. Miller addresses in a frank, high-spirited style the over-romanticized subject of soulmates. Leaving nothing to chance (sorry, kids), she thoroughly demystifies the search for true love. Despite her refreshingly practical skepticism of "fairy-tale romance," Miller is unflagging in her belief that there's someone out there for everyone. The strength of some of Miller's assertions may offend-or radically challenge-our assumptions about love and partnering, but when fairly weighed, her suggestions are right on the money for spiritual integrity and emotional health.-MTB

While reading this book, I felt that the author, Carolyn Miller, was speaking directly to me. In the first few pages of reading, it was as if she knew my thoughts about being without a companion and getting used to the idea that I may be alone for the rest of my life. She was able to convey this concept as a fact and not as an emotional situation to be depressed about.

She also covered the area of EGO versus true feelings. Sometimes it is very difficult to understand why I act emotionally the way I do. Her work clarified and lead me to the understanding that it's my ego. Now I am able to take action from the right position and for the right reasons.

Ultimately, the best part of the "Soulmate" book is the feeling of empowerment I felt at the end. Because of this book, I am able to recognize and rely on my intuition or inner voice and to move more positively.

Carolyn Godschild Miller

Summer Book Review

Looking for Ms or Mr. Right?

Coming out of a relationship and you don't want to make the same mistakes -- again?

Dr. Carolyn Godschild Miller's new book Soulmates' is a must read for the summer or any season. This thoroughly modern book guides the reader to a level of self-understanding that enables clear thinking and rational choice in what is perhaps life's most important decision.

Though erudite, Soulmates' is not a scholarly treatise on love. Soulmates' deals with the rational issues of choosing a mate but it deals also with the spiritual and emotional context of human dynamics and needs. For those who see our present life as part of a continuum, Soulmates' provides a guide to learning about one's self in this context and moving to higher understandings of one' s issues. These understandings permit true self-awareness and thus a path toward positive life choices that free one of past mistakes and the baggage of earlier failed relationships.

This is a book of real life experience. Dr. Miller is a clinical psychologist practicing in Los Angeles. She shares the insights of many years of practice and a full life of experience. Dr. Miller has helped others to a better understanding of themselves and their true needs. Her book is filled with a wisdom that provides invaluable assistance in life's most important quest.

Grace Gerardi