Q: How did the idea for Split-Second Persuasion come about?
A: I was in San Francisco at a conference, and the hotel I was staying in had seen better days. Outside, a whole load of homeless people had set up shop with their cardboard banners and placards ("Hungry & Homeless," "Vietnam Vet," "Six Months To Live," etc.) and during the course of the week I had made quite a few donations!
Towards the end of my stay, I resolved not to part with any more cash (by this stage they had more money than I did.) But then on my last day a new guy had joined the ranks. I took one look at the slogan he was holding up ("Why Lie? I Want Beer!") and, without even thinking about it, put my hand in my pocket (earlier this year, in Sydney, Australia, I saw an even better one: "Schizophrenic. Been On The Street Six Months. Both Of Us." It had the same effect!)
Up until then, as an expert in social influence, I’d regarded persuasion as a matter of due process and negotiation—as influence over time. But suddenly it dawned on me that there was clearly one strain of persuasion that short-circuited effortful processing and worked pretty much instantly.
Q: Would you say that persuasion is an instinct?
A: Yes. In the animal kingdom, courtship rituals, threat displays, and appeasement postures are all about persuasion: persuading another member of your species to mate with you, to back off, or to lay off—pretty much the same imperatives we face in our daily lives! Asking whether persuasion is an instinct is the same as asking whether getting our own way is an instinct. Of course it is—who doesn’t want to get their own way? And, as any parent will tell you, we start at a pretty young age!
Moreover, more subtle forms of influence have also been found in animals. In 2009, Alicia Melis, a psychologist at the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig, Germany, found evidence of negotiation in chimpanzees— suggesting that the basic capacity for arbitration probably emerged before we split from our last common ancestor with chimpanzees and bonobos.
And biologist Karen McComb at the University of Sussex has discovered something interesting about cats: they employ a special "solicitation purr"—an urgent, high-pitched cry embedded within a contented, low-pitch purr—which hotwires their owners to fill up their food bowls at dinnertime.
Q: Why do you say that babies are the best persuaders in the world?
A: Think about it. On our very first day on the planet, the influence task that faced us was immense. We had to persuade those around us, without language, without consciousness, without anything like the oratorical prowess that we possess as adults, to take care of us—to subjugate their own interests at the expense of ours. And we did it. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be here talking about it!
How? Well, certainly not through any provision of our own. If we’d had anything to do with it, we’d almost certainly have blown it! Instead, natural selection took care of things for us by equipping us with three features, fitted as standard, fiendishly calibrated to cut straight through our ozone layer of deliberation, to go pounding up the slippery steps of consciousness, and to hammer unrelentingly on the secret emotional chambers of our heart, which are:
1. A virtually unignorable soundtrack that figures at the top of nearly everyone’s list of aversive acoustic stimuli;
2. appallingly cute good looks, that prove pretty much irresistible to anyone caught in the spotlight;
3. and a hard-wired propensity to make eye-contact, to attend to the eye-regions of faces.
And boy, do these features work. In one study, a bunch of wallets were left on the streets of Edinburgh, each containing one of four photographs. A happy family. A cute puppy. An elderly couple. And a smiling baby. Which ones, the researchers wondered, would find their way back to their "owners" most often?
There was no doubting the answer. Of the 40 wallets of each type that were dropped, 28% of those containing the portrait of the elderly couple made it back successfully; 48%, the family snapshot; 53%, the photo of the cute puppy.
And a whopping 88%, the picture of the smiling baby!
Q: Can we all learn to become split-second persuaders?
A: Just as with many things in life, persuasion ability is subject to considerable variation. Some of us are going to be naturally better at it than others. And some of us—a vanishingly small minority—are destined to be persuasion A-listers. So just as it’s true that not everyone can run an Olympic qualifying time for, say, 100 metres, not everyone, I’m afraid, has the raw influence talent to become a split second persuader.
But that isn’t to say that we can’t become better persuaders. "We are what we repeatedly do," wrote Aristotle. "Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." In other words, one of the ways we can become a better persuader is by going out there and persuading people!
When I was writing Split-Second Persuasion, I spent some time with some of the world’s top con artists. These guys are influence black-belts, no doubt about it. Yet natural talent apart, the most striking difference between these evil- influence geniuses and the rest of us is this: persuasion, to them, is a lifestyle. It isn’t something that they suddenly turn on when they want something. Instead, it’s their whole demeanor.
Through a combination of knowledge and practice, we can all increase our influence potential. An example: one of the con artists who I interviewed told me an interesting stat: 99% of people make the same, fundamental error when it comes to persuasion—99% of people think that the secret of persuasion is getting someone to do something for you. It isn’t. The secret of persuasion is getting someone to do something for themselves—the principle of Perceived Self-Interest. Now, once you know that, you start to think in a completely different way. How can I frame my message so that it appears to benefit the other person and not me…?
"In this eminently readable book Dutton, avoiding pop-psychology, presents brilliant and highly original advice on how to get someone to do something. A handy skill in courtship, business, science and law but also useful to us in all our daily lives."
Author of Phantoms in the Brain and A Brief Tour of Human Consciousness
"Offers some powerful insights into the art and science of getting people to do what you want . . . The book contains plenty of tricks to help you get your own way or turn around a sticky situation."
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"Kevin Dutton is not the Messiah. But he's got a whole bunch of stories and parables that shed new light on how we are persuaded."
--TERRY JONES and MICHAEL PALIN
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Well written, humorous at times, heavy on the medical terminology at times, but lacking in applicability, leaving me with the thought that I know more now why, but don't know much... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Jane Gyorgy
Originally published with the decidedly more manipulative title of "Flipnosis" in the UK, the US version of this book was slightly adapted. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Rohit Bhargava - Author | Speaker | Nice Guy
This is an interesting book. There are incursions off into subjects I feel don't matter. I wouldn't buy it again.Published 11 months ago by Jane Doe
I struggled with this book, page by page, in an attempt to find value for time spent. Sorry, what could have been said in a few pages took an eternity. Read morePublished 13 months ago by Amazon Customer
This book is excellent for politicians, salesmen, social dragons, and anyone else who needs to dominate in a legal way his audience and get what one wants. Read morePublished 19 months ago by BadOldBear
Innovative and witty insight on the very relevant subject of influence; I would put it up there with books as Cialdini's Influence, Robert Greene's Art Of Seduction and Neil... Read morePublished 23 months ago by albatros
I've always been a highly persuasive person - or at have least maintained my ability to a high degree since infancy. According to Dr. Read morePublished on July 6, 2013 by rlewisd
It irritates me that a star rating is not enough for you people. This demand on your part will prevent me from rating in the future. Read morePublished on June 30, 2013 by Susan French