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Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder Paperback – July 1, 2011


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1st edition (July 1, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1608820254
  • ISBN-13: 978-1608820252
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.3 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (112 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #7,460 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Splitting provides concise, clear, and invaluable advice for strategically navigating a divorce from someone who has narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. Following the suggestions laid out in this book will greatly increase the readers’ odds of having a successful marital dissolution under these difficult circumstances.”
—Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, founder and executive director of the Transition Institute of Marin and author of Contemplating Divorce and Stronger Day by Day

From the Publisher

Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a "persuasive blamer": someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).


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If that sounds like you, get this book, it will save your life.
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This book offers valuable insight into how to deal with difficult persons in a difficult situation.
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10% of the U.S. population suffers from either borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.
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146 of 151 people found the following review helpful By ef on July 17, 2011
Format: Paperback
Does your partner have periods of uncontrollable rage? Bizarre behaviors? A truly astonishing ability to twist words and reinterpret reality around you? Wild mood swings? Hair trigger temper? Have you been desperate enough that you spend your free time surreptitiously Google-ing psychological disorders to try to "poor mans diagnose" what you're dealing with?

Clearly you have. If you're reading this, you're probably doing research Right Now in the vain hope of getting an answer to the one question you've been asking yourself night and day for as long as you can remember: What Do I Do?

If that sounds like you, get this book, it will save your life.

On second thought, clear your browser cache, erase cookies and search history, and beg a friend to buy this book for you so it does not get shipped to your home address. I'm not kidding. Read the title again.
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After having gone through the first years of post separation & divorce, I can definitely agree that PROTECTING YOURSELF is top priority when separating, especially if you have children. Educate yourself while quietly documenting the spouse's behaviors, quietly and confidentially seek the advice of a few family law attorneys who have experience with high conflict cases, carefully consider your options and prepare accordingly.

Decades ago the hot-button threats by disordered spouses were claiming you were a closet homosexual or having an affair. These days such allegations are ho-hum and ignored in most courts. What has replaced them? Claims of DV (against the spouse) and child neglect, abuse or molestation. Why? To unfairly gain advantage or keep the upper hand in the court's custody and parenting decisions. Those are extreme hot-button issues and agencies are just waiting for a call to jump into action, this is the one time where the allegation is presumed valid at first and the presumption of innocence is set aside at first. An innocent spouse or parent (you) can be arrested and charged with some very serious offenses.

If your spouse has threatened to make false allegations in the past, then that means it has been contemplated and therefore you are at heightened risk. DO NOT FOOL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE NOT AT RISK! William Eddy presents information that will help you to avoid many common presumptions, mistakes and pitfalls us Nice Guys and Nice Gals are likely to make when we first encounter the judicial (not justice) system. Sorry, but normal common sense does not apply in court and the truth does not always prevail.
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60 of 65 people found the following review helpful By Bint on July 23, 2011
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After ordering Splitting from Amazon I was thrilled to receive this sooner than I thought. I have read it with great interest. This book gives you great insight into all aspects of breaking free from a person with a personality disorder. It actually gave me the strength inside on just how to tackle things in an efficient and practical way. It takes away the emotions. Gives you a clear understanding of what you are dealing with and because of this book, I have conversed brilliantly with my Lawyer. Worked with him and found my straightforward approach with facts, have strengthened my relationship with him. Due to this, we have worked together trustingly to bring closure before court. Hopefully this will be happening within a few days. Brilliant book. Would recommend it to anyone in a difficult breakup with Narcissistic and Borderline personalities. After reading it I also recognised that my ex had both. Well done for writing this book. Wished there was more awareness of this problem.
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22 of 24 people found the following review helpful By Brooklyn Central on September 5, 2011
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This book can be a vital resource even after you've been divorced from a borderline or narcissist.

I recently read it when my husband was going through an extremely stressful period with his ex-wife, a woman whom we have suspected has been mentally ill for quite some time - and with whom he shares custody of a small child. Sad as this situation is, she is a terror when she turns to her lawyer and the family court system to solve her "problems" for her, problems which usually involve pegging her ex-husband as villain in the dramas she creates (she is very likely suffering from undiagnosed borderline personality disorder as well as diagnosed severe depression and post traumatic stress disorder).

With each successive section in Eddy's book, we would think, he's reading our minds, he knows exactly what we're going through! It's as if he wrote this book with the ex-wife in the forefront of his mind, his analysis of borderline behaviors is so spot on. In my husband's case, the divorce was a few years back, but because of the custody issue he has to deal with her for the foreseeable future. And we found the book so helpful in strategizing about how to deal with her disturbed legal shenanigans, which have had the potential to cause him serious financial and emotional damage. As Eddy explains, the divorce itself may be only the beginning of your woes. He strikes a fine balance - he avoids demonizing the borderline and narcissist, but lets the reader know very clearly the dangers he/she may face in allowing these people to run the show when it comes to issues of divorce and custody. Most importantly, he offers very specific ways to fight back.

I highly recommend it.
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