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Squirms, Screams and Squirts: Going from Great Sex to Extraordinary Sex

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My wife is usually completely averse to reading anything like this. She loves romance novels and reads them all the time. When I brought this book home, she just wrinkled her nose at it, and said "Oh no, not another one of those sex books." I just left it in the drawer of the reading area table, where I could slowly read it, a chapter at a time. After a few days while I was in the office working, she came in with the book in her hand and a look of discovery and pleasure on her face. She had given the book a chance after all, and had not only read it through, but had used a purple hiliter marker to identify all the parts that she felt really spoke to her and best expressed her desires for me to put into practice in our lives. She focused on the parts about setting the scene, or mood, and about intimate communication, and about "reading" your partner to achieve extraordinary enjoyment. We both now feel this book is one of the very best books ever written about a man truly relating to his partner and becoming adept at assisting her to truly reach her potential pleasure peaks. You will benefit greatly from this book, as we did. Even if you think you are an expert now, this book will give you a better instinct and a higher level of appreciation for your partner.

I have to admit I was somewhat disappointed in this and very pleased at the same time. When it arrived, with other books I should mention, my wife took the tried and true stance, similar to the past 20 years, of "not again". She did not want to even look at the books. However, this book is designed on how to please the woman only and directed entirely to her pleasure. Which I must say is 99% of the way it should be anyway. So, my wife thought I should read this book only and return the others. I read it and was disappointed a little. I got 75% of the way through before it began to teach me anything I did not already know and I realy don't know anything.

I did like the chapter on shaving very much. In fact for the last few years I have been shaving my own face with the old shaving cream and brush and can attest to the closeness of the shave and it is best for sensitive skin, but I digress. I think only 2 of the 12 or 13 chapters had any information that was useful, but Oh how useful they were. I was able to try something new one evening and she said "did you get that from the book?" With a grin on her face and a shortness of breath not noticed in a few years.

I of coarse gave all the credit to the book. She then thought we should read it together and look at the other books as well. So, even though I think only 2 chapters had anything new they have served both of us old married folk well and that would be why it gets 5 stars. Not because I learned stuff from start to end, but because the book in general did what I was hoping for, renewed some fire into a couple middle aged, slightly pudgy, people who needed a spark.

Yes, he wrote it for the men. No, I'm not sure they'd read it. However, Squirms, Screams and Squirts is the perfect handbook to teach a woman about her own body, what pleases her and how to communicate her new-found desires to the man interested in pleasing her. It's even fun to read aloud with that special someone!

While there are things I would like to see expanded in this book and a poor choice of Wikipedia for some of the information, it is a good book that looks at sex as something far more than penis-vagina intercourse. The focus of this book is on making sexual intimacy primarily about female pleasure with the idea that penetration then may follow and indeed sexual encounters increase when the woman is very well pleased with her partner (male or female). The language of the book is more appealing for men I strongly suspect but then men are the target audience. As long as the reader does not see the book as a step by step list of activities he must do and considers the questions and underlining goals, he'll get good use of the book. Sadly as a scholar the use of Wikipedia instead of peer reviewed studies of human sexuality or anatomy automatically knocks off a star for me in the review.

I had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Rubel at a Fetish Convention in Dallas, Tx recently. This man MUST be a woman trapped in a man's body! His book is easy to read without pages of boring medical jargon. It explains simply, but in exquistite detail, how to utilize a woman's natural anatomy to enhance a couple's lovemaking WAAAAY above and beyond the usual. He also explains how to use toys to create different sensations for the woman. Also included, but not limited to, are sections about the uses of lubes, oral pleasure, and how to "ramp up" the sexual experience. I would recommend this book to single men AND women, as well as couples seeking to expland their knowledge in the art of lovemaking.

To say that this book can add *sizzle* to a couples lovemaking is a vast understatement!!!!! This is NOT some kind of "nasty porno", but a very tastefully written book that I would be proud to give to my own daughter and her husband. Women....learn more about your own body! Men...READ THIS! You will not be disappointed by the results from your partner if you apply what is learned from this excellent book!!!

My sexual journey in life as a woman has been one of self-exploration, reading and then experimentation, a path which few women ever take. Most men don't get to learn women's bodies because the majority of women don't know what to show them except their vibrators (which I will not use)..........I thought I was quite educated on the subject, but at the tender age of 54, I am not ashamed to say that I learned amazing things from this book..

I have just received an invitation to speak in front of a group of young women about female sensuality, eroticism and sexual techniques. Only your book will be offered at this workshop which will be presented as one of the most important books that they will ever read on the subject of her body and the many possibilities for pleasure besides intercourse.

So thanks for loving women enough to have taken the time to understand each one's unique needs (even when they don't) and to publish this vital information in a very detailed, well-researched and comprehensive tome that shows the ultimate respect for women. Hats off to you! I even ordered one signed copy of your book to keep in anticipation of my next lover......It will be MANDATORY READING....

Signed, Dominique

I bought this as a gift for my husband . I thumbed thru but my husband read it. Sorry but any tips in here were things we already knew did or had heard about. Not very much on female ejaculation as the title suggests. No offense to anyone but I guess it's all about "what you know and who you blow"!!! We will continue on our search for erotic info.

An enlightening and expansive perspective for male or female readers. The sensativity and integrity of the writer are evident. The intention is to create a fun, relaxing and satisfying experience for both participants. The friends I have gifted with this book are thrilled and have shared it with their friends.
Margaret

I've reviewed other books by Dr Robert Rubel (including his terrific Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice), as he's an acquaintance of mine. We often attend events as presenters and vendors, and I've always been impressed by his knowledge and openness. As with his other books, this one is extremely clearly written, easy to read and very informative - and I'm gay, so reading this was more an educational/technical exercise for me. But I did recently promise to give this particular book a read, and was impressed by it.

I found "Squirms, Screams and Squirts: Going from Great Sex to Extraordinary Sex" to be different than what I would've expected. While Dr Rubel certainly offers incredibly detailed ideas for a range of non-intercourse arousal techniques, I particularly enjoyed his ideas about the psychology of setting up romantic evenings to create an intimate mood. His descriptions are so clear that they are easy to adapt to your own personality and style. I would say that this is an outstanding book both for men - and for women, who can use it to coach their guys.

Another disappointment.. Again, this book is obviously for men who do not understand the role of oral play / cunnilingus with women. I thought the book was about advanced oral techniques.. This is far from the case... This book did not introduce me to anything new, and I am very disappointed. For experienced and committed cunnilingus lovers, this book is an insult..

Warning: If you are a man that is currently very active with cunnilingus, and is looking for improved techniques to bring your female lover to orgasm with cunnilingus (or other methods) this book is not for you..