Introduction
Women's rule of thumb:
If it has tires or testicles, you're going to have trouble with it.
-Sign in women's restroom at Dick's Resort, Dallas, Texas
Why are men so clueless? Take the case of Ed and Melissa Turner (not
their real names), the parents of four active young boys. Life was proceeding
at its usual hectic but normal pace until Melissa began having blackouts.
She was frightened, but extensive tests found nothing physically
wrong. The doctor told Melissa her blackouts were caused by stress. His
advice? Find ways to lessen the stress and/or learn how to cope with it.
Melissa began to think of how they might simplify things so their
lives would be less chaotic. She knew it wouldn't be easy and she was
prepared for that. What she wasn't prepared for was her husband's response:
he brought home a Golden Retriever puppy! Obviously, he believed
a puppy would be the perfect cheerer-upper. When Melissa told
her girlfriends about it, they laughed and nodded in sympathy. (By the
way, they found a good home for the dog.)
As much as we try to educate men, they can still be clueless about
things we think should be obvious. This much we know: men and
women speak different languages and have different approaches to life.
This holds true in astrology as well; a female Capricorn won't have exactly
the same traits as a male Capricorn.
Perhaps Ed Turner wasn't clueless as much as on a different wavelength.
Bringing home a puppy sounds like an idea hatched by an impetuous
Aries. If Melissa was familiar with his Sun sign, she might have
seen his gift for what it was-a sincere effort to help by an impulsive
Aries-and not just a thoughtless act by an insensitive husband.
When we use astrology to give us insight into personality, we are that much
further ahead in understanding ourselves . . . and men.
Can you live with him . . . should you try?
All too often, we women get emotionally involved with a man before
we know what we're getting into. It's possible to save yourself a lot of
trouble and heartbreak by checking out a man's astrological chart before
you get to your emotional point of no return.
By reading up on his Sun sign in Part One, you'll learn about his
negative traits, his good ones, his likes and dislikes, and, in general, what
makes him tick. Do his goals, desires, and personality complement yours
or will they cause friction? At the end of each male Sun sign description
are the "Dos and Don'ts" for living with that sign.
Find out more about you
Just as important as learning about him is learning about your relationship
needs and personality style. In Part Two, you can do just that.
When you are aware of your most important issues, you can determine if he's a
great guy for you, or just a great guy. Then look up any of the signs and
see how it goes with yours-just what you always wanted to know!
For the single woman
All women will spend part of their lives without a partner-that's a
given. With the high divorce rate and the way we outlive men, it could
be a big part. Do you know what your strengths and assets are when it
comes to being happy as a single woman? In Part Three, you can look
up your Sun sign and learn how it copes with being alone, and where
it excels. I hope it helps you in your approach to the single life, even if
it's merely an episode between relationships.
We all have the power to be happy, whether we have a man in our
life or not. When we enjoy loving relationships with others, pursue our
interests, and love ourselves enough to see that our needs are met-life
can be sweet, no matter what.
