Do I Stay or Do I Go? How to Make a Wise Decision About Your Relationship [Paperback]

Dianne R. Occhetti (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 1, 1999

Unlike other books that deal with broken relationships or mending fences Do I Stay or Do I Go? is truly unique in its true nuts-and-bolts, down-to-earth approaches to facing problems within existing relationships. In a highly practical format, Dr. Occhetti works the reader through a series of steps that place heavy emphasis on accepting one's own responsibility for bad relationships -- making personal accountability key to coming to a decision. Replete with actual case studies, the book provides real word examples that will assist the reader in unraveling their own personal strengths which will enable the steps necessary for resolution --as well as the weaknesses that could hold one back. Complete with checklists and surveys that aid the reader in selecting alternative ways of working through problems prior to deciding upon dissolving a relationship, the book is very easy to read and put to work. Not letting any stone unturned, the author even addresses one of the most scary aspects of today's Internet: cybersex. In addition, there is coverage of other very contemporary topics such as adultery, second marriages, and stepchildren. Learn how to deal with negotiations and how to handle depression. As one reviewer wrote: "The book is fair, unbiased, and stimulates readers to take responsibility for their own choices, whatever they may be."

Editorial Reviews

Review

"...interesting, easily read, and very valuable to anyone wondering whether to stay or go. The book is fair, unbiased, and stimulates readers to ttake responsibility for their own choices, whatever they may be." -- Mary Goulding, MSW, Co-founder, Western Institute for Group and Family Therapy, Watsonville, CA; author of "Sweet Love Remembered" and "A Time to Say Good Bye;" co-author of "Changing Lives Through Redecision Therapy," "The Power is in the Patient," and "Not to Worry."

"A clear understanding of the conflicts couples face in deciding to end relationships comes through clearly and with compasssion in this volume. The author's wise counsel, as she explores the issues, makes a special contribution to the literature. Her use of personal stories and case histories is especially welcome making the book both insightful and enjoyable reading." -- Marcia Lassell, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology/Clinical Professor of Marriage and Family; Past President of the American Association for Marriage and Family

"As a practicing psychiatrist and psychiatric researcher, I am confronted multiples times a day with men and women strugling with relationships, or even career related decisions. The key question that has them in conflict of such a profound dimension that it produces both psychological and biological distress is "Do I stay or do I go?" Dr. Occhetti has skillfully woven practical clinical wisdeom into an entertaining and instructive book. I cannot imagine readers or concerned friends and family of readers who are in the midst of sucha dilemma not benefiting immensely from the yers of knowledge that Dr. Occhetti has shared in this book. Once people understand what makes them tick and whta motivates their partners, most are able to make more intellegent decisions about the most important thing in our lives -- meanigful relationships. "Do I Stay or Do I Go?" is a must read for mental health professionals and healthcare professonals who see countless patients each day in emotional distress from relationship crises. Regrettably, it is not just the two parties involved that are torn apart by the dilemma of whether to end relationships. Children, stepchildren, parents, grandparents, co-workers, and society all suffer from the emotional drain and anger that occurs when relationships are struggling, flawed or ending. Congratulations to Dr. occhetti for a masterful and entertaining book, dealing with one of life's greatest problems. -- Richard H. Weisler, M.D., Psychiatric Reaseach/Private Practice, Duke University

"I found "Do I Stay or Do I Go?" rich in its practical information...warm and personal. The stories are riveting. The realnessof the cases made the interventions more real, reasonable and workable." -- Joan Reed, Ph.D., Fielding Institute, Santa Barbara, CA

"I look forward to recommending this book to my patients and colleagues." -- Rich Adelman, M.D., Family pratice, Raleigh, NC

About the Author

Dianne Reavis Occhetti, Ph.D. is a family psychologist, marital and family therapist, and clinical social worker in private practice in Raliegh, NC. With more than two decades of practical, hands-on experience working with individuals and families, she has established a reputation for her knowledge in treating dysfunctional relationships. Dr. Occhetti has been a popular speaker and is frequently seen on television and in newpapers in the greater North Carolina area. She has been interviewed and quoted numerous times on such topics as: the Clinton sex scandals, Munchousan's by Proxy and infant deaths due to abuse, violent shootings in our nation's schools, and violence that has manifested itself in the workplace -- such as the 1999 Atlanta day-trading office shootings. She resides with her husband in Raleigh.

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: InSync Communications; 1 edition (October 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0967343917
• ISBN-13: 978-0967343914
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #480,926 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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