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Staying Married...and Loving It!: How To Get What You Want From Your Man Without Asking

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My husband and I were on the verge of divorce a year ago, and now we can't get enough of each other.. all because of this book! The title is misleading because it's not a book for the wife.. the husband needs to read it as well for this to work. I recommend it to everyone struggling with marital roles and the confusion and frustration that comes with it. It's smart and realistic and it works! Skip the sexist comments - they aren't important to the theories - and learn from the rest.

I have read many books on communication, and many books on how to be even happier in interpersonal relationships, and I can honestly say that Staying Married... is the best, and most helpful, one I have ever read. Don't expect sweet-sounding advice that doesn't really work -- this book gives you the real deal. The section entitled "How To Get What You Want From Your Man Without Asking" is amazing. After reading it, I applied the principles... and they worked!

Whoever is reading these reviews will see some negative reviews. DO NOT BELIEVE THEM! This book has some VERY good "insights" into how male/female relations work. Thus you will learn "how to adjust" any relationship so that there will be greater harmony and compatibility in your relationship and/or marriage. Please read it with an open mind and with the idea that roles can be changed and "alternated"---the male/female "roles" are not "made in cement"----they can be changed, with mutual consent, depending on day to day circumstances. Please read with an open mind. You will help yourself and your marriage if you do. Email boland7214@aol.co

I borrowed this book from the library (thank goodness I didn't pay money for it) and it was a big let-down. This book may give some good guidance for couples who don't have any real problems, as the advice seems to only apply to people who's situations can be perfected by a little role-playing. I couldn't find a single example in the book that I could relate to my own relationship problems, and I also couldn't help but be insulted by some of the suggestions - if you are the passive female energy, let him decide where to go on vacation, how to raise the kids, how to decorate!!!! And they say shut-up, don't argue with him! And if you want to have an opinion, then you are the masculine and you'd better be the head of the family, etc. Oh, and when you don't get what you want from your spouse, deny sexual activity. It made me feel like the perfect marriage could be had if I just shut up, let him handle everything, kept myself up and never complained/second guessed his choices. And basically, it made me feel that if two people don't fit into the male/female energy roles, then there's no hope for your marriage. Basically, I can't recommend a book that made me feel sad, insulted and hopeless the entire time. This is not a book to help solve any real problems.

IF you listen to this woman (Pat Allen) you can save your marriage if you have one and not continue to repeat the mistakes of past relationships if you don't but would like one. I have worked "Pat Allen" techniques (poorly ) for the past eleven years (and have a wonderful life as a result!)and have given her books to countless girl friends who are DONE repeating the mistakes that bound them to savage marriages. This woman knows her stuff. I give it a five star because it works. IF you work it. IF you are ready to take the steps to actually do something different this book is the map/guide. Not new information girls, just valuable lost info from the sexual revolution. what do you have to lose?

This is a great book for anybody who wants to know how to hold a marriage together. I bought it to replace one I gave to a young couple recently who actually are not legally married but are emotionally. Which is part of what Pat's message is anyway.

I have been listening to Pat since 1992 and believe she is the absolute best at getting people on track if they want to have a happy life. When I first heard her I thought she was a nut case but once I paid attention to what she was saying I saw it fit me to a "T" and fit most everybody I have ever known.

I recommend all of her books. One of her latest being "The Truth about Men" being so dynamic I can't really say how great it is and will be for the dating/marriage world today.

Dr. Pat Allen's communication model ensures relationship success through the promotion and maintenance of intimacy. The model is usable regardless of gender.

Can't believe this sexist stuff--"Stay until you physically deteriorate." "Put on your prettiest makeup." (Oh, so THAT'S why my husband is a jerk? I'm not wearing enough makeup?) "Keep your weight in check." As if I've not been doing that all along? Then he complains about "a new diet this month." What drug did you guys smoke out there in California that helped you "create" this? Look, I know people worked hard for this book and the garbage before it, but really--after all these years to make marriage somewhat equal, do we have to go back to being Donna Reed and doing housework in high heels? Gimme a break! Thank heavens I got this on sale--I'd hate to think I paid full price for this cr!p.