Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart [Paperback]

Stephen M. Judah (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 9, 2006

Affairs happen, and when a marriage is threatened by infidelity, all parties involved can become desperate. The air gets pretty thin, and our ability to look past our immediate needs is compromised. We're tempted to look out only for ourselves, and the marital relationship is left hanging on for dear life. How did we get here? Where do we go from here? Can this relationship survive? Steve Judah explores the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage. Your marriage can survive and even thrive after infidelity has been confronted. This book provides a savvy, practical and hopeful guide for couples to navigate this turbulent terrain and find their way back to one another.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"This book reflects a deep understanding of the anatomy of affairs and how to survive them. Judah is a good writer, detailed and clear. Clinicians will find much to assist them in working with couples, and sophisticated readers will find excellent guidance in repairing their relationship." (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples )

"This wonderful book provides hope--the most important ingredient for recovery after infidelity. The hope rests on five essential disciplines: practical, step-by-step guidelines that help couples navigate the broken terrain and rebuild trust. I highly recommend it." (Diane Sollee, M.S.W., founder and director, SmartMarriages.com )

"Dr. Judah's experience and training reveal the need for high character to inform our marriages when infidelity breaches have occurred. This book can and will help those who desire to reconcile with their spouse and be restored to their family." (Ken Blackwell, Ohio Secretary of State )

"Stephen M. Judah could have become a distinguished research scholar and settled down in the academy as a teacher. Instead, he writes as a lieutenant wrestling in the frontlines of marriages coming unglued. His persistent, careful observation of human experience and his dedication to establish a model of triage for the wounded have given him visible wisdom and an authority unlike anyone I know who writes on healing for broken relationships. Look no further: this is the premier treatment of 'the affair,' and all of us will find ways to incorporate the wisdom the author offers." (Donald M. Joy, Ph.D., Professor of Human Development and Family Studies, Asbury Theological Seminary )

From the Publisher

Features & Benefits

* Systematic insights into affair conditions and how to guard against them

* Practical, honest guidance into confronting and overcoming infidelity

* Forward-looking guidance into rebuilding trust and restoring love and commitment to a relationship

* Many hope-filled client stories

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Product Details

• Paperback: 197 pages
• Publisher: IVP Books (June 9, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0830833994
• ISBN-13: 978-0830833993
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #352,749 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The most positive and uplifting advice I've read, May 2, 2007

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Anonymous "Anonymous" (Virginia) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart (Paperback)

Stephen Judah offers sincere, easy to understand, practical advice for both partners to lean on in handling the disclosure of an affair. I went to the library to find resources to help me understand my confusion and pain when my husband's affair was revealed to me. I came home with 7 books. Only "Staying Together" made sense to me. He clearly defined my hurt and expressed my outrage in words that helped me take the edge off. He led me to understand the grief and process of steps that many, many couples have been through with rewarding results. The best feeling I came away with after reading Staying Together is that it is worth the journey to heal, to stay in the life the two of you have built together, to eventually be in a more fulfilling partnership. I have only read it twice, but am starting it again. There is so much to glean from each chapter. Thank you, Dr. Judah.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart, September 7, 2007

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Roosevelt Adams Jr. - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart (Paperback)

I heard about this book while listening to a Christian Radio program (Family Life Today). I was so impressed with the interview of the author that I ordered the book for my wife's Christian counseling practice. This is a good book for anyone, Christians and non-Christians alike, professional counselors, ministers, and the general population. It is an excellent resource book with great spiritual and secular insights. I recommend it for married and non-married persons. It is now a part to the business library and when be checked out by many people.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Van in Saratoga, February 19, 2009

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Van "Van in Saratoga" (Saratoga Springs, NY) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart (Paperback)

Excellent and comprehensive. Explored all issues related to infidelity with rational ways to deal/think about them. Very helpful, and even encouraging when feeling like things were hopeless. "We" are currently doing well as we work through this heartbreaking experience.