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Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family Paperback – February 26, 2002
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Different parenting styles, finances, relationships with ex-spouses, legal matters, and even seemingly simple issues such as the kinds of chores assigned to children can chisel away at your union if you don't always make your marriage a priority.
Stepcoupling offers advice for stepcouples on how to do just that--all the while strengthening their blended family with a healthy marriage. Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green provide tips and strategies on dealing with the issues remarried couples face, with a wealth of advice from real-life stepcouples, such as:
* Learning to tailor your expectations of your spouse or children and remembering that no family is perfect
* Knowing where your boundaries are, whether involving a hostile ex-spouse or a stepchild who demands too much attention
* Realizing that traits like flexibility, tolerance, forgiveness, and openness are especially essential in a stepfamily situation
* Making "us" time for talking, problem-solving, weekends away, and enjoying your marriage to constantly renew and strengthen your bond as a couple
Let this invaluable remarriage manual help you make your stepcouple the foundation of a strong, happy, and successful stepfamily.
About the Author
JENNIFER GREEN is a freelance writer who lives in Salem, Oregon.
Both authors have been part of successful stepcouples for the past twenty-five years.
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The entire book discusses various personal and family issues that can threaten a stepfamily marriage. Instead of a lot of hard to understand theory, you'll find accessible advice that hits home with so many common problems. Gray boxes throughout provide questions for yourself and for discussions to have with your spouse. Autonomous questions pepper the text, and the authors follow them with practical solutions. Real stepparents, too, contribute their stories and feelings. You'll probably see yourself in several places in these comforting pages.
The book discusses a stepparent's expections of herself and her family. And in the very helpful section on boundaries, the authors discuss not only physical boundaries but also boundaries on relationships, including the need to sever the ties with former spouses and how to expand your boundaries to include your stepchildren. The section on "family acrobatics" tackles the issue of finding everyone's place in the family. You'll also learn how to strike a balance when your styles and values on parenting, money or anything else differ from your spouse's.
The final chapter is one stepcouple's story in their words, how they've survived twenty-nine years to become the close family they are. You'll find encouragement, advice and compassion in this book that truly understands stepfamilies.
What I didn't like is that is seemed to have a "learn to just live with it" attitude. No, I don't think that children coming in and throwing their stuff all over the foor is "their way of making their mark on the house", I think it is disrespectful to do in anyone's home. If my step-children want to make a mark on our home, they can pick out pictures to hang on the walls or even draw pictures - I don't see how having to step over their stuff adds their mark. I surely don't see myself just learning to over-look such acts of disrespect for the rest of my married life.
I enjoyed the reassurance that feelings are normal - such as not immediatly falling in love with someone else's chidlren, but I also think that if you are a rational adult, you already know you can't love anyone's kids the way you love your own.
Most of the arguments described in this book could have been avoided had the step-couple discussed them BEFORE getting married. This book describes a world where you were so much in love that you ran into marriage (which not many divorced people do) and when the "love bubble" affect wears off you are stuck with disputes about money and disciplining chidlren rather than buiding a life together; simply unrealistic to me.
It also seems to encourage building seperate families within a family - I often feel like I expect more from my children than my step-children simply because my kids are here more; however, I think striving to make every child feel as if they are in the family, not just as temporary guests, is important.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Gives me more to think about as I ready myself to meet my S.O's kids. It brings up a lot of points that I didn't think about before. I feel better prepared.Published 22 hours ago by Amazon Customer
I haven't finished reading the book (yet) but that's because we decided to read and discuss the topics together. Read morePublished 5 days ago by rhampton
Best book I have read regarding Blended Families...too bad I'm just now reading this book. Had I read it sooner...it may have saved my Blended Family Marriage. Read morePublished 6 months ago by Nickolas R Clark
I found this book incredibly helpful in giving me a new perspective before entering into a blended family with my boyfriend and his son. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Heidi P.
Bought this for my daughter and her fiance' who have four girls between them. My daughter says it has been a great help and would reccomend it.Published 9 months ago by mary