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The 7 Steps to Passionate Love: Why Men Are Not From Mars and Women Are Not From Venus

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Having read Men Are From Mars; Women Are From Venus, John Gray misses the mark where really intimate, loving relationships are concerned. His perception of the dynamics involved in relationships between men and women brings to mind the movie The Stepford Wives. In the movie, women are merely automotons, meeting the basic needs and desires of men, never needing to relate intimately with them or get involved in their lives. Rather than offering a hollow substitute, Dr. William Van Horn's book, The Seven Steps to Passionate Love, teaches couples how to enjoy a relationship of satisfying substance built on a solid foundation. You will not only learn what skills and tools are necessary to build and maintain true intimacy and passion in your relationship, but also how to heal the pain each partner brings into it. You will also learn how to break the destructive patterns that prevent lovers from effectively communicating. If this book had been available ten years ago, my husband and I would not have wasted so much time, money and energy on other ineffective books, tapes, videos and marriage councelling. We have literally fallen in love again and enjoy a truly intimate,loving,passionate relationship we never dreamed possible. Learning The Seven Steps to Passionate Love helped a dream become a reality. Thank you, Dr. Van Horn!

My wife and I read this book together and love it. A few years ago we read the Mars Venus one and felt like we had to act in serotypical ways, it was very limiting. This book goes way beyond that stupid cave theory and helps you understand love is something that you can get if you have the capability to love. Our love is now rekindled and better than ever. If you can use help with your love life, you and your spouse should read this.

I wanted to learn how to energize my marriage, but I couldn't find any book that offered real solutions. When I read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", I had trouble relating to the women John Gray described, so it was difficult to apply any of his teachings (most of which, by the way, seemed very sexist to me).

Dr. Van Horn talks about experiencing love on a whole new level and that's exactly what my marriage needed. Now, my husband and I are even closer to each other than we were when we first met. It feels good to share this love again and it spills out into our relationship with our children and friends. After reading this book, I feel WHOLE.

This book helps people to understand what is required in a healthy relationship and how to go about achieving such a relationsihp, but be aware that it has a strong religious bent. This is not a bad thing, but if you don't have strong religious feelings this book may not resonate with you.

I would agree that it is a better guide to building a lasting relationship than the Mars and Venus book. However, for me "Keeping the Love you Find" by Harville Hendrix was even more valuable than this book.

My husband and I both have professional degrees from Ivy League universities. About 20 years into our lonely, workaholic marriage, I was seriously thinking about leaving him. Yet because I did not want to subject our son to the anguish of divorce, I started to search for books that could help us learn how to improve our relationship and deepen our love for one another.

Two books helped tremendously: David Schnarch's Passionate Marriage, and William Van Horn's 7 Steps to Passionate Love. Each is brilliant in a different way. Schnarch's book helped us to see that "emotional gridlock" was inevitable in a longterm relationship, but that there were ways to grow individually and collectively into a much more fulfilling relationship. Van Horn's book has helped us to see what we must do day-to-day to create a more satisfyingly loving experience. Van Horn's book is lacking re design, editing, and proofing, but these are minor complaints. Today, we are a far happier couple because of the things that we learned from these two wise books.

I started seeing Dr. Van Horn in the summer of 1996 at a time in my life when I was severely depressed. I continue to see him today. In all honesty, coming from a true skeptic, the process outlined in this book completely changed my life. In a society that wants to drug away their problems and a psychiatric community that keeps people on the counseling bandwagon for years, this book is SO needed. Dr. Van Horn teaches you the the truth about why you feel the feelings you do, and why you act the way you do and how to change! These are principles that I have for life to utilize for life based on a foundation of love. If I could I would buy it for every person I know. The skeptic says,"Get it"!

This book is amazing. It is too bad that Dr. Van Horn no longer conducts the love and intimacy workshops. I am in the process of putting these principles to practice in my own marriage. Like Dr. Horn states it takes a lot of time and pains...but the results and healing are worth it.

This is not easy quick fix. He helps a person deal with root causes of lack of intimacy and passionate live.

The title is kind of cheesy but it contains invaluable information.

We all have our own unique individual needs and this wonderful book acknowledges the truth that men and women are not from different planets,but are each a unique human being with their own set of baggage not related to "innate gender differences" as John Gray would have us believing,but how we bring our own background and set of beliefs about relationships and how to apply or change them.YES! You can change your behavior,which you have been socialized into by a culture bent on seperating the genders into emotional catagories,you can learn to discard behaviors which are harming the relationship and apply new ways and open minded thinking to your relationship mishaps.

Wonderful. I can't tell you how much this has meant to, not only my marriage, but relationships with my kids and extended family as well. How wonderful to accept people as they are without feeling you must change them to meet your expectations. Freeing, liberating, sobering. It takes a lot of work, but you can get there.

This is the best book I've ever read dealing with relationships. I recommend it highly if you want to have a wonderful marriage!