"Still Doing It: Women & Men Over 60 Write About Their Sexuality" expands our vision of sexuality beyond youth, deepening our understanding of how we grow sexually. These intimate accounts give all of us permission to seek lifelong sexual pleasure that can continue and get better indefinitely, and with infinite variety.
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On seeing a beautiful woman, a ninetysomething Oliver Wendell Holmes is said to have commented, "Oh, to be 70 again!" The writers (60-plus to 80-plus) of Still Doing It all enjoy a rich sexual life. Some write about sex with a longtime partner and how they use fantasy, costume, videos, and sex toys to keep their relationships new. Some have multiple partners (including a few who "swing"), or describe their search for partners. Some choose self-pleasuring.
Be forewarned that these erotic stories are extremely graphic, with take-no-prisoners descriptions of body parts, arousal techniques, connections, positions, and releases. The writers' sexual orientations are an assortment of straight, gay, and bisexual. Some are into bondage and discipline and sadomasochism. What makes these stories different from usual erotic literature is that age is a major player. Whether the writer is having sex after heart surgery, self-conscious about a wrinkly stomach hanging down, making love without an erection, experiencing leg cramps in certain positions, or worrying about the dentures ("What do I do with them when my lover's staying overnight?"), age is an unabashed participant in the sex act. Yet despite the challenges, most report that sex after 60 is the best they've ever had.
The stories are full of emotion, love, mature understanding, and consideration for self and partner, as well as descriptions of sex acts. "Most important, we love each other and still love doing it," writes an 81-year-old man. "I am getting hornier as I age, not less so," says a 60-year-old woman who discovered "crashing orgasms" at 55. "A day without sex is a mistake," insists a 66-year-old woman. Many of these writers treat their aging with humor: "We had to do it twice when we couldn't get out of the tub."
Editor Joani Blank (who's over 60 herself) is a sex therapist/educator who has been a sex-positive crusader since the early 1970s. She started Down There Press, wrote nine books on sexuality, and opened San Francisco's Good Vibrations sex-toy store for women. Open-minded readers over 60 will find a sense of camaraderie and plenty of good, erotic pleasure from these stories. Younger readers will see their elders in a new way, and look forward to their later years differently! --Joan Price
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If there was ever any doubt in my mind that sex does not wane as we grow older, this book has certainly put the matter to rest. -- About.com, November 16, 2000
If youre thinking about that getting older means giving up Eros, read this book. Bay Area Reporter -- Bay Area Reporter, October 26, 2000
If youre thinking about that getting older means giving up Eros, read this book. Bay Area Reporter -- Bay Area Reporter, October 26, 2000
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
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Still Doing It a winner,
By Dr Thomas Matola (san jose, ca USA) - See all my reviews
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I found the book inspiring. I am 70. My partner is 75 and we are still doing it and still find "it" exciting. We know that sexual activitiy hasn't decreased. In fact we get better. We are more imaginative. We are slower and deeper in touch with the here and now. The book shows we are not the only ones. The book is informative, but even more, it is fun to read.I am glad the word is out the the "elderly" are not only wise while still doing it, but, like fine wine, get better with age. My specialty in the field of psychology is sexology, so I speak both personally and professionally.Thomas Matola, Ph.D.
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
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Doing It Exuberantly,
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First, I'm one of the contributors to this lovely book, so I'm not entirely neutral. That said, I've read Still Doing It from cover to cover now, a little at breakfast every morning for a week, and enjoyed it immensely. It's a book I'll go back to. The individual accounts of sex, adventure, relationship, and erotic playfulness would do credit to 20 year-olds, but these writers are in their 60s, 70s and 80s. Perhaps what I liked best was the sense of easy truthfulness, a precious gift in any conversation about sex: nobody's straining to prove anything, and there's no prudish self-censorship, either. We hear from men and women who arrived at their erotic discoveries in older age (first orgasm decades after menopause) and those who carried an exceptional sense of sexual engagement into old age from early youth. We find swingers in their seventies and contented solitaries with vibrators, old marrieds and new sweethearts, the conventional and the kinky. Along with America's bizarre prudishness about sex comes our insistence that children and old folks have no sex at all. Maybe this playful book will disabuse us of part of that notion. Love and sex are an ocean we swim in, and some of us geezers are still happily splashing across the Channel. Here's a quote from one account, "My Night with Zorba:" "Confused, excited and dazed, I allowed Nikos to lead me behind the thick hedge. We would be well hidden, but I had never done anything like this before. My head was spinning. My body shook in spasms. My labia opened like a flower . . ." Many thanks to Joani Blank for yet another delicious contribution to the literature of honest, uninhibited sexuality!
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
beautiful, honest, erotic,
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A beautiful, honest, erotic book -- I was struck all the way through it by how well all of the writers know their sexuality, and how well they work at taking care of whatever their kind of sexuality may be. It made me wish to be older, to be free to know, and say, exactly what I want and do not want, to be willing to look less than perfect and young and still parade in the nude, and to recognize exactly what matters in taking care of myself and others.
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