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One "Push" Forward, One Giant "Leap" For This Reviewer!, March 29, 2011
This review is from: Stop Being Pushed Around!: A Practical Guide (10-Step Empowerment) (Paperback)
This book made me realize I'd been letting people walk all over me and that I fell into a pattern that needed to stop. "Stop Being Pushed Around" contains a lot of useful tips on how to respond to situations and realize you don't always have to let people tell you what to do.
In fact, I wish I had this book when I was with my ex-wife. Throughout her affair, I hardly had the guts to confront her about it. When I finally did, she "pushed" me out of the house and made me sleep on the porch. Not only did I respond poorly to this criticism, but I encouraged it by eating the ground beef that she set out for my supper. I didn't even say a word back. Now I realize that was a "self-defeating behavior" and I should have reacted better or at least said "no" when she told me to let our dog Bugsy eat the bigger plate of beef. Also, this book shows me that I had a right to speak up for myself - or at least pound on the door - when she would lock me in the linen closet each time we had company over.
The book proves that I was NOT in a "50/50" relationship, and with future relationships I have a right to "wear the pants" everyday - not just soil them. It also has a helpful section about not getting "pushed around" in the workplace. Finally, I have the tools I need to respond when Ray from accounting mistreat me at work. According to the book, it was a lack of self esteem that kept me from saying "NO WAY" each time Ray sold my lunch to the janitor or put pancake syrup all over my keyboard. Little does he know, I am finally ready to "Push Back" and eat my own lunches!
I have made great personal strides since reading "Stop Being Pushed Around". I am now able to do things such as make eye contact while ordering at a taco stand, stop referring to the paperboy as "Sir", and say "No" to telemarketers (saving me hundreds of dollars in the process). I would recommend this book to anybody who is looking to improve and tell the people around them - whether it's an ex-wife or the Pizza Hut phone operator - "Stop Pushing Me Around!"
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Push Back!, February 24, 2010
This review is from: Stop Being Pushed Around!: A Practical Guide (10-Step Empowerment) (Paperback)
Stop Being Pushed Around by Lynda Bevan is essentially a guide to building self-esteem. The majority of it focuses on romantic relationships, which makes sense because most self-esteem issues only become apparent when one is in a relationship or is just coming out of one.
It should be noted that the book is merely a guide.The most effective practice is self-examination as is shown throughout the book by the questions Bevan poses to the reader. Stop Being Pushed Around does eventually does give a few examples of negative and positive ways to respond to criticism, disrespect, and other tools that are used to pick away at a person's confidence. Also, throughout the book are several quotes sprinkled in just the right places to inspire the reader.
Overall, the book is a great guide on how to build one's esteem. It presents several realistic scenarios and gives the pros and cons to different responses. I feel this is the most effective in showing the reader the most efficient way to counter those who are making them feel inferior.
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Sometimes just developing the fortitude to do things can make a world of difference in itself, September 3, 2008
This review is from: Stop Being Pushed Around!: A Practical Guide (10-Step Empowerment) (Paperback)
Sometimes just developing the fortitude to do things can make a world of difference in itself. "Stop Being Pushed Around! A Practical Guide" is a guide to building self esteem, self confidence, and in general just standing up for oneself when it comes to relationships. Encouraging readers to stand up to that boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, and attempting to make a relationship as it should be, a fifty-fifty affair. "Stop Being Pushed Around!" is what you can do to make your relationships happier for you - and why you shouldn't feel selfish about it.
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