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Stop Child Molestation Book

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I highly recommend this book. It presents a tremendous amount of valuable information that explains the causes of pedophilia and why child molesters do what they do. It is a hopeful book that presents concrete steps people can take to stop child molestation.

Unfortunately, the public may have trouble accepting its message, in spite of the strong credentials of its authors. The basic idea is that the ongoing sexual interest in younger children arises in boys during adolescence, and sometimes earlier. These boys can be identified and treated early, before they molest, and then they can be monitored for the reappearance of pedophilia, and controlled if necessary. Parents are in the best position to start this process. They can look for the warning signs of pedophilia in their sons, have them tested, take them in for treatment, and protect their other children from them. The problem is that society sees pedophiles as vile monsters, so that it's hard to imagine any parent is going to be willing to admit their child is one. I just can't imagine parents doing what the book recommends.

I thought I knew a lot about child sexual abuse until I read this book. As a child I survived sexual abuse. As an adult I am still dealing with the long range effects of severe sexual abuse perpetrated on my daughter. This book really opened my eyes and gave me hope. This is a book of facts, based on extensive research. Knowing these facts can save families from the devastating effects of abuse that can continue for generations.

Since most child sexual abuse happens in families or with close family associates, the key to stopping it is to let parents know that there is help available for the perpetrator as well as the victim of the abuse.

The Stop Child Molestation Book teaches ordinary people what to say and do to be heroes and save hundreds of children from becoming victims or from becoming abusers. It does that by providing concrete examples of converstations that parents can have with their children, and a good list of resources for action if needed.

The tone of the book is definitely sex positive. What I mean is that this is not a book that is against sex or pleasure. The harm that the book tries to prevent is that which comes from sex between an adult and young children, or between children when the younger one is pre-adolescent and the age difference is more than five years.

I am so convinced of the importance of this book that I have bought more than a dozen copies and have given them away to families with children and to professionals that I know.

"Many years ago, two groups of scientists educated in entirely different theoretical psychiatric orientations came independently to identical conclusions. One group, the analysts, including Sigmund Freud, and a second group, the behaviorists, both concluded that the fantasies coming from early childhood sexual experiences were critical to the child's development of adult sexual interest. It is a rare scientific occurrence for two groups of scientists from two different perspectives to come to identical conclusions. When this does occur, we say that the finding is of increased scientific validity. Our finding, that the older child's repeated sexual fantasies of much younger children shapes that child's adult sexual interest in children, is yet another confirmation of these earlier theories."

It seems to me that they have something here.

My having read this book has given me the ability to help people. I, for once, had truthful information, based on 16 thousand interviews. I had a clear and understandable resource to refer to regarding this tragic dilemma that faces our country. It needs to be read and kept close at hand. I recommend it highly.

This is the most comprehensive study I have read on the subject of Child Molestation and Pedophilia. This is a "MUST" read! I have found this to be most educational, and informative. The knowledge one will gain from reading this book is priceless.

This book is a godsend for families and professionals. Abel and Harlow have done a great service with this extensively researched and reader-friendly book. The care with which they have written and arranged their findings and suggestions makes the book useful and practical for anyone wanting to have better understanding of this difficult subject. Their humane and balanced point of view offers hope and help.

I picked up this book thinking I would read the introduction. Instead, I read all of it and was left with a sense of hope and possibility around a subject that previously had left me feeling hopeless and powerless. The chapter formats and the case histories make this a highly readable as well as informative book, which I enthusiastically recommend.