Customer Reviews

Stop Getting Dumped!

5 star:		(33)
4 star:		(10)
3 star:		(4)
2 star:		(6)
1 star:		(19)

 

 

As a fellow relationship/self-help author I'm always curious what my colleagues are writing about in our unique genre of books. When I first saw this book I thought, "here's a book that the feminists are going to hate....a book about desperate women who have to have a man in order to feel happy and fulfilled."

But I was wrong.

Here's a book that rightfully (surprisingly based on the book title...but remember not to judge a book by its cover!) teaches enlightened women to take care of themselves, enjoy their relationships, and live the life they've imagined whether it's with a man or not. It's about feminine empowerment and there's nothing that is more feminist than that.

As a guy I realize that this book has a certain "girlfriend-to-girlfriend" tone and humor to it. But after all nearly 80% of all self-help books are purchased by women. This book is one that almost all women I'm sure will enjoy and find funny at times.

The core of this book is the concept of the "Dream Girl." Lisa Daily has made a major contribution in helping to redefine what a "Dream Girl" is not only for women, but for men as well. I guess she would say that it's about being a "kick-... chick" who's got it together and makes her life really happen in a lot of ways. And as a guy, I think she's right. More traditional guys like myself really want someone we respect, admire, adore, cherish, and value who is smart, sexy, funny, feminine, and in many ways, fearless.

I think women readers will find this book very inspirational in a modern "Sex and the City" kind of way. With the pointers in this book a women can have a fantastic job, spend a day each week helping out at a soup kitchen, have a sparkling clean apartment, have the right shoes for any occasion, and also attract the man of her dreams.

I'm happy to see that Lisa is teaching women to appreciate the "good guys" who do the traditional respectful things for those he loves and cherishes. We see eye-to-eye on most everything (although we say it in totally different voices and ways) and nowhere are we more aligned than the concept of intelligently separating the men from the boys.

For women in search of a great life as well as to attract a great guy as a husband for lifetime passion and intimacy, here's a truly enjoyable book that stands out in our relationship/self-help field. I give this book my highest rating with a big smile.

I read this book months ago and at first I thought it was pretty good but then after reading about how the author and her friends got their men to propose marriage on top of the Eiffel Tower and other "fantasy" places it seemed too unrealistic. Things like that happen but not for everyone. Lisa Daily is in a dreamland. She was lucky to find the man she did who keeps "after her" and she sits back and enjoys it. The tactics in this book work for some people but not for all. This book is similiar to "The Rules" which is unrealistic expectations and if every woman out there thought all of these ideas and manipulations could possibly work she's dreaming as well as Ms. Daily. Some of these authors who experience something fantastic find it helps others if they print about their experiences. Not true for normal people who want normal relationships. I would just like to have my guy spend more time with me and if he asked me to marry him it could be at a beach or on a picnic - he wouldn't have to go through the hassles of flying me across the country to do it. Nice but not necessary. However, this book provided fairytale entertainment that should be considered reading for fantasy wants and dreams.

Like 'The Rules', half of this book is common sense, and half is sexist claptrap. It's the 21st century. The idea that women need lives of their own is no longer revolutionary. If you need to be told this, you don't have a man problem, you have a major self-esteem problem.

As for the rest, it's basic game playing. I'm sure it works, but what kind of prize do you win? I don't know a single decent guy who would repeatedly call a woman who didn't return his overtures. There's a difference between gallantry and stalking.

That being said, the book is cute, so it deserves a star for the message's presentation.

I read the book believing it would give some sound advice.Some
advice stands out,look as though you have a life and respect
yourself.Ok,common advice but most of the book is about playing
a 1950's game of hard to get.Men today want a friend,someone
who shares common interests,who can be a real friend.Men want to know you care about them,so how can they know you care if you are playing hard to get?A man can tell when a woman isn't being herself and holding back.Fear of spontaneous affection for the man is a death sentence for the relationship.Men need as much love and attention as women do,infact maybe more because much too often men aren't given the love and
consideration they deserve.
It's risky and frightening to be yourself,you're putting yourself out there,but in the long run it's better to be real
than fake and end up in a fake and plastic relationship with the man doing all the work and the woman only being on the
receiving end.Women who do what they want to do when they want to do it are more interesting to a man.

Please check the published date and you will find that some of the references to dating are a bit outdated. With the help of online dating these days, I think you tend to meet half way when it comes to a first date! The book references alot of 'when you see him in a bar...' today, my girlfriends and I are using online dating sites so rules apply a bit differently. I certainly would not give my address out to someone I had just met in a bar or online to pick me up at my place, I think it's perfectly acceptable in this day and age to meet out!

The 3 stars were given because I found the book to be quite amusing...the Author does have a way with words!

Haha, it's just amazing how women have made an industry out of the weird tricks that are necessary when dating lying, cheating jerks who use them and dump them. I'll tell you the real deal for free:

1 - Men are not into monogamy until they've sowed the oats. I don't care how cute that 25 year old boy is in his new car, he will do you and dump you, that's what we do at that age. If you just want to get laid, fine, otherwise find a grown up man.

2 - These books are self-perpetuating; acting like this will make a kind, decent, intelligent man run for his life, because we don't want to make it a game full of lies and manipulation. Don't return calls? Pretend total disinterest? A polite, respectful man will respond by writing you off as disinterested and will not want to harass you. Then guess what you're left with? The kind of guy you need to manipulate and lie to. Enjoy.

3 - Playing games with sex. Losing battle, ladies. If a man's truly in love with you you're just lowering something sacred to the level of currency; if he's not, he can certainly find someone easier to get what he wants from.

I saw Lisa Daily explain the Stop Getting Dumped! method on The Other Half and while the audience members tended to disagree with her ideas I was thinking to myself "I totally agree!" everytime she said something. So I had to read the book. Lisa's advice is practical, logical, and it really works. I liken dating with dieting. We know what works, it's just that many of us lack the willpower to follow through. We tend to take the "instant gratification" path, i.e. eating that piece of chocolate cake, or calling that guy. I decided to suck it up and really stick to Lisa's advice and by simply not returning a couple of phone calls, the guy I like is practically putty in my hands. It's THAT SIMPLE. But remember, it's easy to become complacent so you have to stick with it. Even if you think you've already screwed up in the relationship, it's not too late. Please read this book and follow Lisa's advice.

I as a man picked up this book because I wanted to know what kinds of tricks malicious women might throw at me, and finished it feeling sorry for any woman who might read it. Much of the advice given in here will backfire with today's man--at least with me. The author assumes men today are traditional, and they are not. In fact they are tired of women's games, and fully cognizant of the fact that the traditional role model she espouses is a raw deal for men. Part of her advice is sound--be somebody people can respect. But today's man knows that he cannot get a good woman unless SHE does part of the chasing and initiating herself. If she never, ever makes a first move then how on earth is he supposed to know she's interested in him and not just playing him for a fool? If you as a woman want to know what REALLY works, I'd suggest you go to askmen.com and check out what the men are saying--today's man is no longer interested in projecting his own interest level on a woman--he wants HARD EVIDENCE that you are really interested in him.

Disappointing book. I agree with the previous reviewer who said the good thing about this book is it is short and easy to read.
If you have already read "The Rules" you don't need this book. While it makes some good if rehashed points, it is overly simplified. According to the author, if you never call a man, date 3 men at one time, and pamper yourself, you will soon be married to a wealthy, handsome romantic man who treats you like a princess and calls you daily while you still aren't calling him. Good Grief! Save your money.

Stop Getting Dumped! by dating expert Lisa Daily is a very practical advice book for women of any age or background who seriously desire to find someone to fall in love with and marry in 3 years or less. Daily stresses the importance of not making oneself "too easy" to obtain, and letting the man have enjoy the ingrained desire to pursue and win female affection. Therefore, among the most stringent rules for a an eligible woman are: never ask a man out on a date, never call a man, and never so much as say the word "marriage" to him until he is the one ready to say it. Perhaps the most crucial advice in Stop Getting Dumped! is the importance of building and maintaining one's own life, instead of trying to live "through" a boyfriend or making one's existence dependent on him - which is powerful, sound, and appropriate principle for people of both genders. Written in clear and straightforward language, Stop Getting Dumped! may have some controversial advice, but its core foundation is quite solid and highly worthy of extended consideration.