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Stop Struggling and Start Living: The Rules of the Game Paperback – March 30, 2007


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: DreamTime Publishing; 1st edition (March 30, 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1601660103
  • ISBN-13: 978-1601660107
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,150,365 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW!!!!!! I just went through The Rules of the Game again and made notes from all of the materials I had underlined. I could not believe how amazing it was all over again, and how you totally jumped the gun on those 'Secret' people. I have begun to read through the book again from front to back, knowing that I always have more, more, more to learn and that you have so much to give me. You amaze me - you amaze the world! --Susan Hayden, visual merchandising and marketing professor (ret.), and acclaimed artist and owner of PrimitiveFiguritive.com

About the Author

Elfreda Pretorius has been actively involved in training, professional coaching, and public speaking for more than twenty years. Elfreda's love for writing began in her childhood. She has been published in the Avatar magazine in the United States, the Bay Street Bull in Toronto, and Personal Excellent in the United States, but only recently decided to share her insights and perception with wider audiences by authoring Rules of the Game. A certified hypnotherapist and an expert in the functioning of the human psyche, she maintains that the average person can have far better control over the complexities of his or her personal and professional life. By understanding the Rules of the Game we can gain a measure of mastery previously thought impossible. Elfreda was born in Cape Town, South Africa, but has made her home in Ontario, Canada, since 1995, where she lives with her husband and three sons. She continues to write and teach.

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Elfreda Pretorius was born in South Africa, but has lived in Canada since 1994. An outspoken straight shooter, she does not support organized religion, gurus or "enlightened teachers." She is an exceptionally gifted storyteller whose first book, 'Stop Struggling and Start Living' became an Internet bestseller in 2008 and is ranked alongside the very best in its field. She is published in various magazines in the US and Canada and recently completed her second novel, 'The Meadow' with Mike O'Hare.

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If you're ready to get your stick on the ice then this is the book for you.
Rosanna Marano
The existential philosophy exhorts us that the responsibility to find meaning in our lives rests with each one of us.
Dr. James J. Kaikobad
I love how Elfreda uses humor and her own brilliant terminology to explain the meaning of each Rule along the way.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Dr. James J. Kaikobad on October 30, 2008
Format: Paperback
The existential philosophy exhorts us that the responsibility to find meaning in our lives rests with each one of us. Religion asserts that God helps those who help themselves. Unfortunately, beyond vague references to "free will" and "freedom of choice", neither specifically explains how to find our life's meaning or how to help ourselves. This philosophical mystery, thus, left us floundering in the Emersonian void of lives of quiet desperation - until now. Now, Elfreda Pretorius' book, Stop Struggling and Start Living: The Rules of the Game finally comes to us as a thinking person's Field Manual to life and living. This remarkable book is like a pair of corrective lenses for our blurry spiritual vision. It takes life's incredible complexities and questions and distils the answers into a sharply focused, practical, step-by-step guide to discover our ultimate purpose, to find an end to our struggle, and finally create an elegant life-by-design.

Elfreda's book is a deceptive paradox. It is not a spiritual, religious, or a metaphysical treatise per-se, yet, it blends the highest ideals of all three. It is an easy, user-friendly read, and yet, it embodies the most profound life altering truths within a poignant allegory. If you are looking for recycled, hackneyed, simplistic self-help solutions like repeating affirmations to attract wealth and the relationship of your dreams, then pass on this book. But, if you have the discipline, commitment, and an abiding curiosity to discover and understand once and for all the principles to elevate your life from a discouraging test of endurance to a life by choice, then, do what I did. Buy three copies of Stop Struggling and Start Living and three highlighters. Then, keep one set on your night stand, one in your car, and another at your office.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By January Jones on September 7, 2008
Format: Paperback
Now is the time to take the time to read a book that will give you some answers that will help you to stop whining and struggling and start winning big time! As an expert Whine Tester and Whine-ologist, I'm here to tell you that you can find some answers in this amazing book. Finally you can discover some of the rules of the game that others know but haven't shared. Now Elfreda has unlocked the door and you can enter into the wonderful world of winners. Thou Shalt Not Whine: The Eleventh Commandment: What We Whine About, Why We Do It and How to Stop
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on April 21, 2009
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Even though I have been a motivational speaker for nearly 40 years and am the author of my own motivational tome, Elfreda Pretorius' book, Stop Struggling and Start Living: The Rules of the Game, is something I needed to read to remind me of so much of what I have forgotten through the years about the principles that are so valuable to everyday existence.

Written in an allegorical style, this book is far from being just passive reading, but an interactive experience on paper. You will find yourself stopping frequently in the middle of a page, or even a paragraph, to absorb what has been said, and if you put the book down and walk away from it for a couple of days, you'll find yourself drifting back to what you read, like hitting the rewind button to see a scene over again on a DVD. But the paradox is you don't want to put the book down and walk away from it because you will find you are so engaged in it, you want to keep reading, taking yourself to the next level, just as you get engrossed playing an electronic game and want to get to the next level in it to find out what happens, and whether you are up for the challenge.

A small warning for sensitive readers: there is some adult language content in the text, so if you are easily offended by such you may want to reconsider reading it, but just remember this: you'll be sorry you missed one of the best inspirational books on the market today.

I am not the type of person who is easily impressed. But I am impressed by what this best seller has to say, and I truly believe you will to. The book is not expensive, but whatever price you pay, consider it a wise investment in your future. Your life depends on it.

Ric Morgan, businessman, professional speaker and the author of the Pulitzer-nominated book, The Keys: The Textbook to a Successful Life ([...]
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Patricia Kokinos on November 8, 2008
Format: Paperback
"Stop Struggling and Start Living" will resonate with every word you've ever read about improving your life, and it will take you that critical step forward that you've been seeking forever. Elfreda Pretorius has obviously distilled a lifetime of learning into this gem of a book. Through a story that asks and answers all the questions you have about how this "thinking thing" really works, you'll discover all the guidance you'll ever need about how to live a better life.

I love the author's no-nonsense style as well as her ability to ask the hard questions that we all harbor--and answer them as well. The dialogue that the story presents is filled with dramatic pauses that allow you to rethink what you have just read. Just when you are beginning to question a premise, both the exactly right example and the way to apply it suddenly appear. The book is a masterful example of teaching as it brings you a wonderful balance of lessons and descriptions, digressions and new perspectives, as well as the reinforcement to tie ideas together and grasp the "big picture."

Deceptively simple, "Stop Struggling and Start Living" is brilliantly constructed to draw you in and to show you how to use its concepts in your own life. Beautifully done, strongly stated, and especially, focused and clear! Let this be your guidebook to changing those old habits that keep us lost in the mentality of the tribe. With its dramatic power, this story is our golden key to our own freedom.
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