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The Story of Sandy

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"The Story of Sandy" should be revised and re-released in view of the popularity of books advocating a child-rearing method that distances parents and children. Sandy's mother was manic-depressive, and it seems that the saving grace for him was her periods of mania during which she showered him with love. During depressive periods, and because of her brother's suicide at the time of Sandy's birth, the mother believed that children are independant creatures who do not need the love and nurturing of their mother. She, therefore, left him alone to play for many periods of time, taught him to not explore on his own with food and toys and gave him limited cuddling and loving. He was very lucky that he had the love of his "grandparents" and their perserverence to do right by him. They were influenced by the times in that they felt a nanny was necessary, but Sandy fared well in spite of that. Attachment disorder research was in it's infancy then (50's) but maybe because it happened so rarely? After all, everyone *knew* that babies need loving and holding, and there were no "experts" telling them that babies need to "learn to be independent". Try to ignore the racist and uninformed comments about Down's Syndrome and remember that the author was a product of her times. I suspect she would be a very different person were she writing today. I would love to hear how Sandy has fared as an adult.