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Stranger Among Friends [Kindle Edition]

David Mixner
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)

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Book Description

"From my fear of coming out to coming on strong in the struggle for human rights, this is my American journey, the story of an outsider on the inside, a gay man proudly committed to a life of standing up for freedom.

"President Clinton and I were born three days apart.  We had both dreamed of serving our country.  There was one difference:  He could pursue his dream, while I felt I could not.  The President was born straight and I was born gay."

In this stirring personal history, one of America's most influential gay rights advocates recounts his extraordinary career as a policy maker and adviser to the major political leaders of our time, and his own often anguishing, ultimately triumphant life as a gay man.  A longtime personal friend of Bill Clinton, in Stranger Among Friends David Mixner offers an insider's look at the power struggles that occur every day in our nation's capital and candid insights on the Clinton administration's successes and failures.  Spanning three decades of human rights activism--from the behind-the-scenes negotiations to the painful betrayals to the hard-won victories--his forthright story unflinchingly explores what it means to be an outsider on the inside, and sends a message of hope to all who have ever stood up for what they believe.

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Editorial Reviews Review

In the sixties, David Mixner became an activist in the civil rights and anti-war movements, then emerged in the seventies as an influential Washington insider. Unknown to his comrades, he was also a closet homosexual, so scared of exposure he let hardly anyone know his secret. With good reason: when he came out in 1977 he lost a lot of his political clout. Undeterred he marched on a new crusade--gay liberation. He returned to national prominence as a political activist when he led a hugely successful drive in the gay community to elect his long-time friend Bill Clinton. That relationship, which has been bittersweet through Clinton's presidency, is one of the fascinating sidelights in this memoir of a radical life.

From Publishers Weekly

Mixner, an openly gay campaign strategist and fund-raiser for Bill Clinton, mobilized gay and lesbian support for Clinton's presidential race, so he felt a deep sense of betrayal when the President, his longtime friend, abandoned his promise to lift the ban on homosexuals in the military. This impassioned, absorbing memoir charts the gay and lesbian community's deteriorating relationship with the Clinton administration, as Mixner reveals how, as a senior adviser to the president, his public opposition on national television to Clinton's "Don't ask, don't tell" policy on gays in the military made him a pariah to the White House staff. Mixner, who grew up poor on a New Jersey farm, was active in the civil rights movement and was a leading anti-Vietnam War activist. His coming out, a long, difficult process, culminated in 1976 when, at age 30, he told his horrified parents he was gay. He writes movingly of his lover/business partner's death from AIDS, discusses his work as AIDS activist and campaign strategist for Clinton and George McGovern and muses on the pressures of being gay in a homophobic straight world.
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  • File Size: 4409 KB
  • Print Length: 384 pages
  • Publisher: Bantam (November 25, 2009)
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B002YFVJU4
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A timelessly inspirational, extraordinary life September 24, 1999
I have always admired David's courage and dedication to his causes. I recently re-read this book and found it to be just as inspirational now as it was in 1996. It gives a deep sense of perspective to the political movements of the '60s and '70 that is just fascinating. It then paints a spellbinding portrait of the Gay Rights Movement. Most important, however, "Stranger" is a Profile in Courage of an extraordinary man who has helped all Americans who pursue "Liberty and Justice for ALL. I re-read "Stranger Among Friends" as I was completing my most recent book "Pathways to Inner Peace" and it gave me just what I was looking for -- a dose of courage to continue helping others. (Rev. Jim Webb, author of "Pathways to Inner Peace").
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Worth Reading March 25, 1997
By A Customer
A very interesting account of a political activist who staked his hopes on the Clinton presidency to write the executive order permitting gays in the military. He was instrumental in organizing the gay community
in support of the Clinton campaign. Intertwined in the political activism is Mixner's account of his own homophobia and his difficult times in coming to terms with his sexual orientation. A long time friend of Clinton, Mixner belived he would keep his promise to overturn the ban on gays in the military. The rest is history, including their former
rather close relationship.
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6 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I really enjoyed and would reccomend this book July 28, 2003
By Kate
I must say, this was one of the best books I've read in a while. It was just fascinating. It starts out describing David's childhood, goes onto his time in college, his antiwar activism, his many struggles with his homosexuality, finally with his coming out and becoming a gay activist, and then to his time spent working on the Clinton campaign all the way up to Clinton's innaguration. It's a very readable book, it draws you in from the first few pages and really keeps you wanting to know what will happen next in David's very exciting activist life. Another thing that kept me reading was I was dying to find out when he would finally come out. It is easy to relate to David's pain and I was inspired to see what he did with that pain and to read about the many remarkable things he has done with this life. I finished this book in a little over a week and wished there was more. I loved learning more about the political and activist worlds while at the same time learning about him. If you have any interest in politics, activism, AIDS, or gay and lesbian issues, or just like a good memoir, read this book. You'll like it :)
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5 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Fascinating April 22, 2006
In this day of the modern Gay Rights Movement, no biography captures the true story of someone moderately simple, becoming the voice of a fantastic mission with true, heartfelt passion for the equality of gays and lesbians. Full of pathos, life lessons, screw-ups, ironies and inspiration that truly reflects the dichotomy of living as an evolving gay man during the sexual revolution, Reagan-Era AIDS, and the Clinton Era of Inclusion against the backdrop of a hidden sex life. I was glad to know this story!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Robin's Ribbons Review March 4, 2002
A Kid's Review
Ribbons is a really good book. The only problem I had was that it ended really quickly. I mean out of nowhere it just ended. The book left me wondering "Is that all?" I think that Laurence Yep should write a sequel to Ribbons because the readers should know what happened to Robin after the story ended.
Ribbons is about a Chinese ballerina, Robin, whose family is poor. Her family is poor because Robin's mother paid for her two brothers to come to America and go through college. Now Robin's mother feels like she has to pay for Robin's grandmother to come to the United States by herself. Robin's family doesn't have enough money to pay for her grandmother and her ballet lessons, so they make her quit ballet lessons. When her grandmother arrives in the United States she comes to live with Robin and her family. The problem is that her grandmother favors her little annoying brother and acts like she hates Robin.
The book was good because Robin had family and friends and you could tell they were doing everything they could do to help her through the hard time she was going through. I thought it was neat that she kept on doing ballet even though she had a problem with her feet. She loved ballet and couldn't give it up. I'd probably give this book about four and a half stars if I were to rate it.
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5.0 out of 5 stars flying ribbons March 11, 2004
A Kid's Review
Characters: robin paw paw Ian
Robin is a wonderful dancer and she isn't afraid to show it. Her dance instructor shows the whole class what they should dance like using robin as an example. Robin has just been moved up to the senior class where they where the point shoes with the ribbons that swirl around their ankles. She is so excited she can't imagine what life would be like without dance until she has to. She has found out that her parents have gone bankrupt so she can't pay for dance. When her grandmother came over, it got worse. Her grand mother told her she couldn't practice dance, because of what it did to her feet. Robin thinks all is lost until she finds out her grandmothers secret!
I think this book is funny and exciting. This book could be recommended to everybody, but mostly for dancers because they would know what it would be like to have dance taken away. I give this book 5/5 stars because I think that it was very exciting.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Reviews for other books mixed in
Not sure why but many of the reviews here are for different books.
Published 1 month ago by David Doorley
4.0 out of 5 stars good interesting collection
good interesting collection
but very old
contemporary poetry should be included in such collections
overall is good book for literature lovers
Published 3 months ago by Mana
5.0 out of 5 stars Our American History
David and his historical recollections are a treasure. "Stranger" brings to life an era of activism that defined the 60s and 70s: messy, painful, exciting and necessary. Read more
Published 6 months ago by R. Miranda
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book!
A very good book, with a good story. And very a very realistic story at that! Laurence Yep writes wonderful books and I can't wait to buy more.
Published 13 months ago by Arcee Medicbot
4.0 out of 5 stars The Politics and the Gay
Growing up different was very difficult for me. Seeing how David Mixner managed to be on the natinal political scene was interesting. Read more
Published on March 11, 2012 by WhoSays
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book!
I'll admit it, I cried when I read this book. I have a sister who dances and this book reminded me of her excitement when she moved up to using toe shoes--as well as the pain that... Read more
Published on March 28, 2006 by Chamari
4.0 out of 5 stars A Bit of Real Life
I just have to say that I find it amusing that the professional reviewers of this book (cited on Amazon) find this book cliche, mediocre or not up to Laurence Yep's normal level. Read more
Published on November 11, 2005 by M C
4.0 out of 5 stars Ribbon Dreams
Ribbon Dreams

The plot is about a girl named Robin. Who struggles to do what she loves. She has a hard time excepting new things. When every one tells Robin to give up. Read more
Published on March 1, 2005
4.0 out of 5 stars very good
ribbons- a book that on the surface seems simple. a gifted young dancer, robin, must stop dancing because of money problems, which are caused by her grandmother. Read more
Published on November 10, 2002 by riley
4.0 out of 5 stars Good book, slow start
This book was very good, but it got off to a slow start. But once I passed that, I couldn't put this book down. Read more
Published on August 13, 2002
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