From Publishers Weekly
Many adolescent girls struggle with tremendous academic and social stress. Although it's common for them to bury their anguish, clinical psychologist Cohen-Sandler uncovers it in this treatise on the true feelings of 3,000 teenaged girls. Drawing on her clinical work, interviews and a wide-ranging survey, Cohen-Sandler identifies five types of worried girls and lays out strategies for helping them lessen anxiety, develop resiliency and build confidence. Among Cohen-Sandler's types are "adapting girls" who are challenged by transitions, "undervalued girls" who wrestle with "square peg" dilemmas, "insecure girls" who are desperate for acceptance, perfectionist girls who "burn too bright," and "distracted girls" whose minds wander. Geared specifically toward parents, the advice is practical and realistic: create a strong alliance with your daughter, avoid comparisons and enlist teachers' assistance. Mainly, though, Cohen-Sandler wants parents to convey to their daughters that they "are lovable despite their inevitable imperfections." The author has a substantial background in writing about teenaged girls in Girls' Life and Seventeen, and her wise, well-researched chronicle should be of help to parents of teen girls struggling with stress.
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Cohen-Sandler, a clinical psychologist, has written timely, well-received titles about parenting adolescent girls--"Trust Me, Mom--Everyone Else Is Going
" (2002)--and mother-daughter conflict--"I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!"
(1999). Here she builds on her previous material in a title that helps parents understand the unique, intense pressures their daughters face. Today's girls, she writes "equate being successful
with being extraordinary.
" After introducing common sources for contemporary girls' substantial anxiety, Cohen-Sandler defines the characteristics of perfectionists and other profiles of girls at risk. Final sections include a troubleshooting chapter that discusses therapy and when to change schools. As in her previous titles, Cohen-Sandler writes in clear, encouraging, straightforward language, and she effectively bolsters her points with anecdotes drawn from interviews with nearly 2,300 girls. And she offers direct encouragement for parents to balance their own lives as they guide their daughters: "The most potent antidote of your daughter's stress may be the alleviation of your own." An eye-opening, up-to-the-minute resource for all adults who work with teen girls. Gillian EngbergCopyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved