The year I turned thirty-six I went from being a single woman living on my own, doing performance art and making wood sculpture, to a married mother of a baby boy, trying to get some sleep. It was quite a shock. But the biggest shock was that I was suddenly alone. I hardly knew any married people, let alone other mothers of infants. I couldn't stay up late anymore and my artist friends dropped away. I felt insane, frantic and depressed. And what about my artwork? It was sporadic at best and very hard to do. What had been my lifeblood--my art, was just not available. I was adrift in the sea of new motherhood with no rescue ship in sight. How could this be?
I wasn't buying that crap about my child being my best creation, either. Rowan was and is, of course, beautiful and smart and funny and amazing, as all kids are, but he cannot satisfy my artistic urge. He cannot be my voice to the world. He has his own voice. The biggest gift I could give him would be to use my voice to the fullest. I had to find a way to combine motherhood with artmaking. I didn't want him to grow up telling people, Yes, my mother used to be an artist before she had me, but she stopped and could never get going again. I guess it wasn't that important to her. As Rowan would say, Yucko!
One day, during a particularly trying day with my then two year old son, I had a tremendous desire to know what other women in my situation were doing and thinking. I wanted to hear their stories, their successes and failures, their ideas, everything down to the last gory detail. I wanted to know how they did it, and I needed to know that I wasn't the only one struggling to strike a balance between two demanding offspring: my art and my child.
So I decided to write a book. If I was craving this information, thousands of others must be, too. We needed to know that the lives we are yearning for are possible, because for all of us, life without creative expression is unimaginable.
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This review is from: Strong Hearts, Inspired Minds: 21 Artists Who Are Mothers Tell Their Stories (Paperback)
Each of my jobs as mother and artist are like crawling under a rock. Art is done lonely, slaving away without recognition for long spurts between shows, sublimating self into objects. Kids demand everything I have, especially when they are newborn, there is virtually no time for me to exist. I don't make my professional identity to hang out with other artist moms, that wouldn't even be good for business. I just love having this and one other book like it around for redemption. Agree or not with their parenting styles, it feels good and makes me wiser to know how they did it, how it is, how it goes in their worlds as artists and mothers. Candid stories, valuable stories, lessons but no preaching.
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