I'm not a psychologist or a teacher, just the mother of a son. I wish I had found this book earlier in my son's life, because I would have handled some very difficult years differently. This book gives insight and clarity to boys and young men. As the oldest daughter growing up in a family of all girls, I had no idea that boys were so emotionally different. When I was a new mother, I struggled constantly trying to understand my son, raise him well in a divorced-home, and deal with his unexpected rages and reckless behavior. I stumbled upon this book when he was about 15 and although, I couldn't do anything about the previous 15 years, it helped to know that some of what he was going through was normal. The book gave me ideas on how to handle other things. The hardest thing I ever did was tell my son that I loved him very much, but unless he followed the rules in my house and respected me, he was not welcome. It took awhile, but the day he was finally able to tell me he loved me was worth every tear I cried. Today, he is 24 years old, a college graduate, and working in a start-up business that he loves. All great things, but what impresses me the most about him, is his ability for compassion and kindness (something I was sure he would never acquire). He has a wonderful girlfriend of 3 years and I can honestly say, he appreciates her independence and respects her. His relationship with his younger sister is strong. In the past two months, his stepfather had health problems and as I work out of state, my son took the initiative to help his stepfather as much as he could until I got home.
I'm sure part of his behavior is due to maturity, but I also think this book helped me be a better mother.