Twenty-two years ago while practicing general law, Joseph E. Cordell realized 85% to 90% of his clients were coming to the Cordell & Cordell firm for domestic relations help.
"During the course of that experience I couldn't help but notice the challenges consistently facing the guys side of the table when it comes to custody, maintenance issues, and accusations of domestic violence," Mr. Cordell said. "I found in waging those fights that I enjoyed it more. So we proclaimed ourselves as a firm that devoted itself to representing men in domestic relations matters."
Fighting for father's rights is what motivated Mr. Cordell to become a divorce lawyer for men.
"I was galvanized by guys who were my clients and trying to get primary custody of their children. Even though they were the better parent, they still couldn't get across the finish line in the courts," Mr. Cordell said. "The more frustrated I became, the more incentivized I was to help them."
Since co-founding the firm with his wife, Yvonne, Mr. Cordell and his team of more than one hundred divorce lawyers have helped thousands of men going through divorce.
He is the founder of DadsDivorce.com, a popular website for divorced and divorcing fathers, where he contributes articles, videos and other divorce resources.
He is also the driving force behind MensRights.com, a website focused on empowering, educating and directing men to resources and advocates when their basic rights are violated or compromised because of their gender.
Mr. Cordell is the author of "Your Civil War: A Father's Guide to Winning Child Custody" and "The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce."
Mr. Cordell has also written extensively on family law matters. His columns have appeared in the American Conservative, the St. Louis Metrovoice and on AskMen.com.
Mr. Cordell speaks at various seminars dealing with topics from domestic relations to bankruptcy to estate planning. He has also hosted numerous family law seminars for the public and fellow attorneys featuring nationally recognized authors.
This book offers real-life experiences and mistakes that guys like me went through during divorce. I'm just starting to go through my second divorce, so I wanted to make sure I didn't have the same problems like the first time. This book is easy to read but still packed with solid information and is divided into 10 sections with each one addressing huge mistakes that men and dads (like me) have made. (Don't move out! Don't wait for your wife to file! Stay off Facebook!) The author is the head of a huge nationwide divorce firm that represents men and you can tell throughout the book that he has a lot of experience fighting for mens rights.
I really like when specific case examples are brought up as I could relate to most of them and there are pep talks throughout the book that really help to motivate you (as if you didn't have motivation enough!). Overall, a good purchase for anyone thinking about divorce or going through a divorce.
I felt the tone of the book was a little "bitter". Fortunately, I don't have any children from my 25 year marriage and most of the content of the book is geared toward retaining custody rights. We're trying to be "civil" in our divorce and these tactics are much more adversarial than I was interested in being. But, if you do have custody issues, it's probably worth a look.
Well, since I have been contemplating a divorce recently I've heard many men say that they were raked over the coals in their divorces. Honestly, I've been terrified over what will happen to me during the divorce, but this book really helped me realize how to protect myself from those fears. For instance, some actions I was prepared to take would have been detrimental to me and my case.
I advise all men who are considering or going through a divorce to read this so you are fully aware of the potential ramifications of your actions. God knows I wasn't nearly as aware as I should have been. Now I feel that I am better able to protect myself and my interests.
A few months back I attended the 10 Stupidest Mistakes Seminar put on by Cordell & Cordell in Houston. I thought the seminar put out great information, but I wanted more. This book solved that problem. It helped me develop a strategy going forward of how to prepare myself for what was to come in the courtroom. I appreciate Joe's explanations of why each mistake is such a problem. I always thought filing first would be the end all. After reading this, I've decided it is in my best interest to start the filing process.
The only issue I had with this book was that it pointed out all the stupid things I've done. The best part is it told me how to correct it, if I did make a mistake.
I purchased this book immediately after my wife of 5 years informed me of her intentions to end our marriage. I have 2 small children 3 and 18 months. Even though my marriage was clearly over i refused to give up my relationship with my children. This book coupled with a great attorney were crucial to me winning 50/50 joint physical and legal custody. One advise to any father wishing to win 50/50 custody DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE, this was number 1 mistake that men make, and trust me it was critical to me staying involved and ultimately to my ex choosing to settle on custody. This $10 investment coupled with an aggressive attorney saved me thousands of dollars in future child support but more impoatantly won me custody. Remember guys divorce and a custody battle is NOT the time to be nice but a time for you to agressively fight for your interests!
I agree with most of what is said. In some ways, for example, I wish I would have filed first. However, I ended up doing much better for letting her file. So saying that not following all of this advice is not necessarily the smartest thing to do. It's really important to keep in mind that every case is different. It has different people, different number of children, personalities of the people involved, in-laws, etc. I believe in almost every case there is an exception to every rule. With all of this being said, I think that if one follows these guidelines, then one may have a more desirable outcome.