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Superflirt

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I've seen Tracey on Date Patrol and it started me thinking about my body language. I bought superflirt on a whim because it looked like a fun read but it's actually changed my life! I'm now incredibly good at reading other people's body language which helps enormously in all areas of my life, not just romantically. Everyone should have a copy of superflirt and it should be recommended reading in high schools!

"Superflirt" is a good book for anyone (single or married) to learn about body language, and was recommended to me for that reason specifically. I now recommend it to others for that reason, as well. Certainly the focus is on attracting the opposite sex romantically, but it is just as useful to people already involved in a steady relationship to maintain the romance in their lives. While I certainly found the observations Tracey Cox makes to be interesting, I found her underlying premises related to body language utterly fascinating.

People who are naturally shy in potential dating situations certainly stand to benefit most from this book, but there is ample material for everyone to chew on. Most of her assertions seem to make complete sense, but a couple came across as a tad farfetched to me. Little matter: if any of her tips are true (and I believe the majority are) the book is completely worthwhile.

The book is nicely illustrated, and generally well designed. I have to admit to being a bit put off by some of the multi-colored pages and unusual graphic design in several places which I think make it a bit more difficult to read than was really necessary. I also found it to occasionally be a trifle unorganized, sometimes to the point of needing to flip back and re-read sections. That leads me to my prevailing comment on the book: there is so much technique and information discussed here that I definitely do not feel that I have learned what I needed to from it the first time through. The book requires at least two readings to grasp the essential elements of what the author is trying to get across. I am not implying that it is a boring read (far from it), rather, that there is just a lot of information presented here.

This book does truly help make sense of the actions of others. Whether in a steady relationship or not, this book is an excellent introduction to body language, and I recommend it.

One of the things that both men and women know is that we communicate very differently verbally. Body language is a LOT harder to fake, and this book is a great starting point on how to read those signals. This covers a lot of material, from how to tell if she is interested in you (or that other guy), deciphering mixed signals, and tips to tell if they're lying to you. All very useful material.

As a man, I've found this informative and the way it is presented it is easy to put this knowledge into practical usage. I suspect it would be equally useful to women. And both men and women who may be sending negative body language unintentionally may have seriously life-improving revelations from this book.

Good Reading!

The subject of this book is "flirting", not the "ethics of courtship." How it is, that some reviewer read the book expecting otherwise is beyond me, however those reading the book solely due to an interest in the art of flirting...this book works. It's not formulaic. It avoids step-by-step methodology but instead covers all the elements of flirting and creates awareness. Even with all its gloss, you will get citations to various studies, but this is an art and Cox clearly understands it well. If you're expecting procedure to follow, there is some; however the strength of this book lies in creating better flirting IQ. The overall organization of this book is a bit awkward but I have found my self, as a result of this book, more highly tuned in to cues. For example, I was at the video store the other day and noticed someone noticing me. My normal modus would have been to later consider if she was interested in me, but this time I did the analysis in a couple of seconds and launched in where the opportunity appeared. She was interested.

Before this book, my dating history was rich but totally dependant on perfect situations such as college or target rich side jobs during college (try working in concert halls...you can't believe) but I was never any good at cold stranger scenarios. If that's you as well, then read this a couple of times and you we see what I am talking about.

that this book is about manipulation. S(he) is absolutely right about that. What this reader doesn't understand, however, is that any kind of social interaction is manipulation. If you are nice to people, if you show them "serious" feelings, you do that, because you believe that the others will respond to this in a corresponding way, too. But being "nice" in the face of adverse reactions is not moral, it's just plain stupid: if people liked your behaviour, they would be nice to you. If they aren't, i.e. if you don't get what you want, then you are doing the wrong things.

And that's where the trouble starts with love (especially for "nice guys" as I had been for far too long a time): being overtly "nice", accommodating, friendly, serious and unintrusive is equivalent to one thing that will hamper all your efforts of ever attracting a romantic partner: it is plain boring! Not to mention that it's a huge lie: nobody is always nice.

I do love confident, attractive, intelligent, reliable and successful women. But I love them even more if they haven't lost this wonderful and delighting art of playfulness that can turn every man's knees into jelly. The choice between a "giggling girl", and an uptight adult is very easy to take.

Same for men: a relaxed, confident man with a great sense of humor who is still in touch with the "naughty little boy" within himself will always be chosen by the ladies. And they are right about that.

One thing this book can teach you is to rediscover this playful child within yourself, which will flirt with and tease everything in sight - until stupid, uptight adults punish it for its love of life and "teach" it to be "serious".

The last thing you want to hear is people at your grave saying: "Astounding, s(he) has never been so attractively playful!". This book will help you to prevent this.

This book is funny, colorful, and warm, and will put a smile on your face. The flirting techniques are basic, but for those who are just starting out, it does cover the fundamentals.

I do want to point out, though, that it's what I would call Anglo-centric. It covers the courtship style expected in the white Anglo-Saxon culture; other cultures are quite different, so this is something to keep in mind.

Even though I don't intentionally flirt, everyone always tells me that I am a huge flirt. What this book made me realize is that it was all in my body language. I feel that the book helped me get a better understanding of my own body language, as well as that of others. Although, it may seem very elimentary to some readers that reviewed this book, I thought it was a great read!! If a flirt like me can learn a thing or two, it can't be that bad! I highly recommend everyone read this book.

I'm interested in the Psychology between the sexes, and this book--even though it's basically a book about flirting--tells the reader how the sexes flirt and the recipient's interpretations of a flirting technique.
"SuperFlirt" talks about nonverbal communication as well as verbal communication when interacting with a potential mate. It helps the reader identify situations in which a silent conversation may be taking place--such as arm placements, eye movements, and what someone does with his/her hands when interested in a potential partner.
This book is blunt and to-the-point without using much slang or beating around the bush. It's also quite humorous.

i can't believe i got this amazing book for only 5 bucks. seriously. its so great! everything about flirting, body language and alot more! the humorous personal anecdotes in the begining of each chapter also make it quite entertaining to read! It looks like its aimed toward women, but it has stuff for both men and women, and alot of it is useful to both genders

Perhaps the title is misleading ... it's NOT all about flirting! Its more about body language. Reading everyone around you and learning that flirting doesnt have to be sleazy or nasty.
Tracey Cox knows her stuff and even explains the different types of people we can be.
Dont be discouraged its not for sleazy flirts. Its fun (c'mon the covers pink), flirty, interesting and certainly full of information to use later.
I'd also recommend her book Supersex too if you enjoy this one.