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The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You

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I followed the principles in Surrendered Single and it helped me to open my eyes and heart to the best man I could have imagined. We'll be getting married in 5 months. If people tell you that you are a catch, but wonder why you haven't "found the right person", this book is for you. If you think of yourself as confident and competent in other areas, but are afraid of disappointment in love, you MUST read this book. Great practical, sensible advice with lots of entertaining stories about real single women like me and you.

I have read and browsed quite a few self-help books for single women trying to find mr. right. After hearing about this book from a friend, I browsed it a bit at a bookstore and decided to buy it. I read it over a few days and found that while I didn't agree with everything, I think it's a refreshing way to look at dating and relationships. The biggest lesson I've learned is that I essentially teach men how to treat me. I have been following some of her tips and have found many of the things she says to be true. This books doesn't just stop once you have found that person but it also has plenty of information on how to stay happy in your relationship and deciding whether or not you need to leave it. Most of her suggestions seem like common sense but may take a little bit of practice to follow. I would recommend this book to all single women who have problems finding a relationship or keeping one.

I opened the first page of this book and the first paragraph shocked me. "Dishonoring your desire to get married is a way of protecting yourself from disappointment and trying to avoid becoming dependent....Ultimately, however, such denial and control will stand between you and finding the love you crave. Surrender to your desire to be married and you give that desire the chance to become a reality" This was me! I ALWAYS said I didn't want to get married, I even had a list of over 100 reasons not to get married that I would actually cite on my dates! I thought guys liked women that were independent and didn't want to "trap" them into getting married. I couldn't understand why no one I dated wanted to marry me. At least I could say "no" I reasoned with myself, I just wanted them to ask. This book helped me get real with what was really going on with me and gave me the courage to open my heart to the truth. The first guy I tried these techniques on, it was hard. Letting him carry my bag when he offered instead of insisting "I can do it" Letting him pay for everything instead of making sure things were even. All of these things lead him into feeling like a man, and to my surprise, made me feel like a valued woman. After 7 months of dating, we just got engaged and will be married in the Spring. We have a great relationship. More than I ever dreamt possible. I believe that this book made the difference.
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Laura Doyle has such an amazing, gentle and honest way to help you along the road of dating blissfully. Since I started to follow the surrendered single way of dating I am attracting a much higher quality of man. I have learned that I can still be a strong independent woman, while being feminine and adored by a man at the same time.

While it is a growing process, sometimes one that is uncomfortable. I am learning so much about myself and what I want in a relationship. I am learning to let men treat me like a real lady and I am not settling for any less than I deserve. I have also learned that things are not always what they appear to be so if I think a man is half way decent I will give him a chance to take me out. I have been pleasantly surprised now that I have learned to put away my "check list" in what I want in a man. I actually enjoy dating now. Sometimes it is still uncomfortable but the book has given me so many new tools to use to help me along the way.

I recommend Laura's books to all woman I know, married and single.

Laura Doyle is my hero. She showed me great ways to manage the anxiety that I had about dating. Now, I am more relaxed and actually enjoy going on dates. I used to try to control everything about a date--only I didn't know that I was doing it. Now, I realize how men would get turned off if I called or asked when I would see him again. Now, I simply don't! With Doyle's help I have turned my life around. I focus on myself, and voila, men are calling. I go on blind dates, double dates, you name it. Most importantly, I can tell who the good guys are. I am so thrilled!

Thank you Laura Doyle for helping professional women everywhere find the love and intimacy that they have longed for.  I was looking for a strong, intelligent and honest man. By changing my approach, relaxing and searching for the qualities of a good man, I found that all your techniques became so easy.  I also challenged the premise that we should share finances, but now I realize why that was such an issue.  I was with the WRONG man!  He was not a good man, he was not trustworthy and did not respect me nor did I respect him.  My new beloved is honest, fun (very handsome :-),hard working and loves to love me.  I cannot get enough of him and he cannot wait to hurry home to me! You did this...you gave us "successful, strong, head strong and controlling women" an alternative approach, thereby entertaining a new kind of man....one that loves to love and does not want to be controlled or ordered about by their lover.  I love the book and encourage others to try a new approach, even if it seems uncomfortable, you might be surprised what kind of gentleman you attract!

I'm getting married in two months, thanks to this book. I read it right before meeting my fiance, and, had I not followed the advice given to me in the book, I never would have met him. It's a must-read for all single women who are sick of getting their hearts broken and wonder "what am I doing wrong?"

I was worried it was going to be like The Rules but it wasn't. While the advice does follow a "Be feminine. Let the man be masculine" theme, it doesn't advise for you to be anything but yourself. There is no 'Don't accept dates after Tuesday' kind of malarkey or sucky boo simpering.

My favorite piece of advice from the book was to ask men to ask you out. You want a date with Bob? The next time you talk to him slip in that you'd like for him to ask you out sometime. If that's too forward for you, you try saying that you'd wish guys like him would ask you out on dates.

I like how it shows that you are receptive to him asking you out but it doesn't leave either of you open to rejection. If you had asked him out directly, he could have said no. If he was thinking of asking you out, he now knows you're not going to say no.

My second favorite piece of advice was the simple phrase, 'I'm not available.' I never know how to turn down the second date if I'm not interested. She explains how just saying I'm not available is the best method - don't use excuses or stories - just treat the other person with respect and dignity.

This book doesn't teach you to play games. You don't surrender your personality in order to get a man, you surrender your fears and insecurities and ground yourself in your life to see the men you want.

The Surrendered Single is a wonderful book! It has taught me so much about myself and my true desires. I was the one who thought I would never get married again and didn't like the dating scene. Surrendering techniques really work! Since I have implemented them, I now know how to pick out the good men and most importantly; I've learned to enjoy dating and hope to marry some day. I would recomend both the Surrendered Single and Surrendered Wife.

Laura Doyla, I want to thank you from every cell of my now sweetly-taken-care-of-by-a-lovely-man heart for writing The Surrendered Single! Honestly, and I am not even exxagerating, I picked up the book, dedicated a Saturday afternoon to reading it, cried, laughed, put on lipstick and MET A MAN THAT DAY!
I read and reread the 1st date chapters, followed the directions verbatim, and have entered into a barrier breaking relationship with a man in which I feel relaxed, coveted and cherished. I keep the book by my bed for subsesequent follow up, support and guidance! In fact, I feel SAFE having the book near by for all occasions. It saves me from myself, my over-thinking head and over-generous doing in the past.
For the first time EVER, I am allowing the man to be the man and it feels sooooooo good! This is saying A LOT from a ballsy, kick-ass, proactive, go get'em kinda woman.