How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from The Midlife Wives Club [Paperback]

Pat Gaudette (Author), Gay Courter (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 7, 2011

You are in a committed relationship, married or involved exclusively with one another. You thought everything was glorious—or, at least as glorious as it gets. All relationships have some rough spots. But now it seems that you are always fighting. Or he just doesn't act like himself anymore. He doesn't like his job. He wants a sportier car. He says you and he have grown apart. He wants something but he doesn't know what. All relationships have their difficult times, but when a previously sensible man morphs into an angry stranger, the difficulties compound. Does your man say he is no longer "in love" with you but his reasons, if any, are vague at best? Is he trying to reinvent himself as a younger, hipper guy? Is he looking for an elusive "something" that he can't define? Have you twisted yourself inside out in an attempt to please him, but with no success? Maybe it's time you stop trying to change yourself and focus on the real cause of his conduct. If this is new behavior for him and he is between the ages of 35 and 50, your man is blazing a trail through midlife—and he is probably having a crisis. But how do you know for sure? And if it is a crisis, what can you do about it? A midlife crisis can devour a relationship. It may be devouring yours. The Midlife Wives Club is a supportive sisterhood for midlife mates—a chance to vent some steam, share advice, or just get a reminder that you're not alone. In this guide, you'll find wisdom from both Midlife Wives and experts on: Recognizing the symptoms Coping with the threat (or reality) of infidelity Handling bad behavior—thrill-seeking, financial irresponsibility, substance abuse Identifying underlying problems like depression and anger Deciding when to stick it out—and when to pack it in Protecting your kids from the fallout Making it through the crisis...and coming out stronger, saner, and more self-reliant With personal stories from real women (and men) and a comprehensive list of resources, this book can help you get past the rough spots—and turn this tumultuous time into a change for the better.

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About the Author

Pat Gaudette is the founder and webmaster of the Friends & Lovers website (friendsandlovers.com) as well as the popular Midlife Club website (midlifeclub.com). She is the self-published author of one novel and six works of nonfiction including Teen Mom. Gay Courter is the author of five bestselling novels including The Midwife and two works of nonfiction, including I Speak for This Child.

Product Details

• Paperback: 302 pages
• Publisher: Home & Leisure Publishing, Incorporated (March 7, 2011)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 098256175X
• ISBN-13: 978-0982561751
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 5.8 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #453,731 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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54 of 56 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful guide through the journey called midlife crisis!, June 11, 2003

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"mlcsurvivor" (Georgia) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club (Mass Market Paperback)

It is unfortunate that so many marriages are falling prey to midlife crisis (if you want to call it that). Point is our disposable society makes it too easy to divorce. This book is a pratical guide to help you traverse this journey. Not only is the book an easy read and very helful in understanding and keeping yourself in check, it really focuses on learning about yourself and not talking blame for your wayward spouses issues. It helps you be a better you! As well, the website listed is a direct link to others suffering the same things. That site has so much information, one could read for days. There is also chat which is helpful and one bonus is that friends can be made to last a lifetime. This book has it all and I implore anyone in the throes of this anxiety called midlife crisis to read this book and then peruse the site for loving and supportive help. It is a truly a gift to know you are not alone.

31 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Lifesaver Guide to MLC, June 3, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club (Mass Market Paperback)

This is an extremely helpful book on the various ways to handle your significant other's (s/o) MLC. Although its focus is on men, it is beneficial to both sexes.

It doesn't just tell you to hang on or act as if as some anti divorce sites suggest. It tells gives you real life stories of various people and how they handled their s/o MLC.

It also shows there is life, no matter which road you take, whether it be riding out the rollercoaster ride, getting a divorce, getting a legal separation or just co-existing until you KNOW what is the right course of action for you.

The book even shows humor in the whole process because when experiencing either your own MLC or someone else's...you have to be able to find humor.

I highly recommend this book for those going through or being affected by someone with MLC. It's a very easy read and you'll find yourself closely relating to these individuals.

20 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars A Bit Negative..., October 23, 2005

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anonymous - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club (Mass Market Paperback)

Although informative, this book comes from a very negative place. While some men do participate in affairs during their midlife crisis, there are some who don't, as well as those who come to their senses and want to work on their marriages. For those searching for hope, handling the issue with realistic expectations and integrity, I would suugest Jim and Sally Conway's books, "Men in Midlife Crisis" and "Your Husbands Midlife Crisis."

However, the website that is suggested in the book is worth the purchase price many times over.