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How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club

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It is unfortunate that so many marriages are falling prey to midlife crisis (if you want to call it that). Point is our disposable society makes it too easy to divorce. This book is a pratical guide to help you traverse this journey. Not only is the book an easy read and very helful in understanding and keeping yourself in check, it really focuses on learning about yourself and not talking blame for your wayward spouses issues. It helps you be a better you! As well, the website listed is a direct link to others suffering the same things. That site has so much information, one could read for days. There is also chat which is helpful and one bonus is that friends can be made to last a lifetime. This book has it all and I implore anyone in the throes of this anxiety called midlife crisis to read this book and then peruse the site for loving and supportive help. It is a truly a gift to know you are not alone.

This is an extremely helpful book on the various ways to handle your significant other's (s/o) MLC. Although its focus is on men, it is beneficial to both sexes.

It doesn't just tell you to hang on or act as if as some anti divorce sites suggest. It tells gives you real life stories of various people and how they handled their s/o MLC.

It also shows there is life, no matter which road you take, whether it be riding out the rollercoaster ride, getting a divorce, getting a legal separation or just co-existing until you KNOW what is the right course of action for you.

The book even shows humor in the whole process because when experiencing either your own MLC or someone else's...you have to be able to find humor.

I highly recommend this book for those going through or being affected by someone with MLC. It's a very easy read and you'll find yourself closely relating to these individuals.

Although informative, this book comes from a very negative place. While some men do participate in affairs during their midlife crisis, there are some who don't, as well as those who come to their senses and want to work on their marriages. For those searching for hope, handling the issue with realistic expectations and integrity, I would suugest Jim and Sally Conway's books, "Men in Midlife Crisis" and "Your Husbands Midlife Crisis."

However, the website that is suggested in the book is worth the purchase price many times over.

I found this book to be easy to read, and chocked full of practical and sound advice, along with comforting words and stories from others who have been on that journey.

For anyone who has found themselves on a path of confusion, as well as those who are dragged along for the ride, this book will give comfort and hope to many. I have read through it several times, and find something new in it every time. I highly recommend it.

Well my husband is definetly going through Mid LIfe Crisis I actualy only found the first page hopeful.. I asked my husband if he would mind listening to what i read on the first page, He said Wow, sounds like what i feel like.. Well i took a step back got a therapist of my own to deal with the hurtful things he says or just plain ignoring me.. It has been 4 months of hell,BUT!!! Im happy to say he is resolving some of HIS issues like unhappy with his job. He thought i would be upset with him for retiring from Air Force after 21 years when he has made Senior. Or that he may want to move to Colorado, not go back to the South where Im from and have been pushing for... I told him what will make me happy is for US to be together,, it truly is what i want. He seemed very surprised and im not sure if he even wants Colorado but i think he felt he had no control or say so over his own life.. The book is soooo depressing seems all the men had affairs or at least the majority, and most ended in divorce...That soooo does not have to be the truth,,, I will say the book was dead on about DONT BE CLINGY,DONT LET HIS WORDS HURT YOU,DONT BECOME PARANOID, MY husband said he wanted the sports car i freaked out my sister said SO WHAT, if that makes him feel good let him it is just a car.. i have told him if that is what u need then get one... I asked him if he wanted to go to marriage counseling in the beginning he said No, that is not the problem..He just was and still is to a point confused about HIS future...I did not bug him about counseling and instead went and found one for myself..I vent to her of my frustations and she has really helped me to understand his crisis.... things just 4 months later have gotten at least 70% better.. It doesnt have a time limit and if you want it to work it can, the hardest thing is to NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY, THAT IS HARD!!!. I Have also been journaling. I also have told him hey that really hurt my feelings..buy no means am i a verbal punching bag, sometimes i just go in the room and leave him alone, he has started coming and sitting by me again and just talking and watching tv instead of acting like i have the plague. It just doesnt have to be CRISIS,MEAN,SPORTS CAR,AFFAIR,DIVORCE. HANG IN THERE, I TOLD HIM IT IS EASY TO LEAVE,COURAGE TO STAY... BEST OF LUCK ANNETTE

I was concerned that this might be a man bashing book, but it was not. It gave me insight to what is going on with my husband and is giving me the strenght to get through the situation. This is a really good book.

This book has many sad stories and unfortunately I feel that most people do not locate such books until the crisis has overwhelmed them. How is it that I, a well-read person, knew so very little about mid-life crisis? This topic isn't discussed sufficiently in our culture as far as I can tell. Finding good books is also difficult.

I ranked this as four stars simply because the beginning has typos and plugs the Midlife Wives Club website repeatedly. With some trouble, I was able to access their site but it was so depressing I didn't return. Sharing one's anguish is sometimes helpful, yet, I was more interested in the psychological motivations triggering the crisis affecting my relationship. In my opinion this book did not actually provide that type of information.

What this book does tell you is that you are not alone. You are bound to read the stories of others that are far worse than your own situation and that may give you some encouragement.

If you are considering this book, I wish you all the very best. I would recommend, besides this book, Gail Sheehy's "Understanding Men's Passages" which explains what typically is happening during a man's mid-life crisis with compassion. "What Could He Be Thinking" by Michael Gurian is excellent in describing the male and female brains and hormones; it sheds light on why we think and feel differently, thereby closing that "imaginary gap" that seems to crop up during the crisis. (It was always there because we are simply very different.) Also, "Why Can't You Read My Mind" (a terrible title) by Jeffrey Bernstein was very helpful. It helped me understand the toxic thoughts that I was having (due to feeling emotional pain) and helped me recapture the positive attitude and emotions I had prior to our crisis. Last, I recommend a very heavy read (with a too tiny font), "Love Online - Emotions on the Internet" by Aaron Ben-Ze'ev. This is a real study of love, sex and relationships in cyberspace and the emotions behind it all. The author does an excellent job of presenting his information without bias or judgment, but it is very intellectual and a rather difficult read for the average person.

Like reading about other peoples feelings and knowing whatever one is feeling is a human and normal emotion. Great to have a reading that can be supportive and relatable. Along with a chapter to tell how things have turned out. good read

This was the very first book I bought after learning of my husband's affair. I knew very little about the topic of a "mid-life crisis" until I bought this book. It was informative and the real testimonials from both men and women were priceless. Anyone who finds themselves on either end of a mid-life crisis should read this!
Besides learning the various reasons why men and women succumb to a mid-life crisis, what I got out of this book the most was reading the stories of men and women who had SURVIVED this catastrophic event. When I learned of my husband's mid-life crisis, I wanted to know as much about it as I could. This book did just that and it made me feel like it wasn't my fault!
Unfortunately I had to loan this book to a close friend who just learned of her husband's mid-life crisis and it also helped her in many of the same ways it did to me over five years ago.
Anyone who needs the support of others who have walked in their shoes should read this!
Catherine Jean Schoenbauer-Humphrey, author of When the Smoke Clears- How to Survive and Be Better Off With or Without Your Cheating Spouse

This book was interesting enough, but I don't feel that it helped me really understand men going through a mid life crisis. I will still keep it on my bookcase though.