Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain [Paperback]

Rona Subotnik (Author), Gloria Harris (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1999

Not all extramarital affairs are the same, nor do they all call for the same response. The authors examine the different kinds of affairs, and why they happen, the effects of the affair on the marriage, and repairing the relationship.'

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About the Author

Rona Subotnik, M.F.C.C. is a licensed marriage and family counselor in private practice in San Diego. She is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Dr. Gloria Harris, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologists in private practice in San Diego. She is the co-author of the groundbreaking Assertive Training for Women.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media Corporation; 2nd edition (May 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1580621376
• ISBN-13: 978-1580621373
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #297,804 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Who am I and Why do I Write Books on Infidelity?

I am a "people person." I am interested in the things people do and I want to understand their reasons. My interest in people led me to graduate school at Trinity College in Washington, D.C., to get my Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology. For the next nine years I worked at A Woman's Place in Montgomery County, Maryland, an awarding winning program that counseled women. I then opened a private practice and have been seeing individuals and couples for the past 27 years, specializing in marital counseling and the subject that interested me the most: Infidelity.

All the people in an affair are in pain, but what they must realize is that all affairs are not same and the differences are very important. I have written four books on this subject in which I clarify important facts about infidelity, coping with the emotional aftermath, and helping individuals restructure their lives and marriage so that they can survive, whether it is the marriage or themselves. I know from reader feedback that these books have been of enormous help to them.

I know you will find the answers to many of your questions, as well as help on the way back from Infidelity.
Good reading and good luck to you.

Rona Subotnik
www.ronasubotnik.com

Customer Reviews

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77 of 77 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Surviving Infidelity, Saving My Relationship, December 14, 2000

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This review is from: Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain (Paperback)

I recently was informed by my spouse that she had a past 1 year affair. I remember being very numb and angry. It was recommended that I read Surviving Infidelity. What a true blessing this book provides. At a time when I felt my world was coming to an end this easy to read paperback has given me the strength to move forward and understand why people in general have affairs but more importantly than that the book affirmed the emotional feelings I am experiencing right now are NORMAL and thou I share some responsibitlity for our relationship I am not at fault for my wife deciding to have the affair. I have decided as a result of this reading that my relationship with my wife is worth saving and this book has given me valuable tools to move in that direction. Thank-you Rona and Gloria for giving me more insight and understanding.

52 of 53 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Anyone going through this pain should read this book, March 30, 2001

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This review is from: Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain (Paperback)

I have been going through the pain of infedility for several months before discovering this book. It is very easy to read. It gave me a lot of insight into why my husband had an affair and how he thinks and insight into my own feelings. After I read the book I asked my husband to read it. He even stated that the writers were right on the money and confirmed some of his ideas on how I was feeling and what I am going through. Now we both are talking more and moving to resolve things and make our marriage better. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this terrible ordeal. I just wish I had found this sooner so we could start healing sooner.

40 of 40 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars good for everyone involved, August 12, 1998

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This review is from: Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain (Paperback)

This is a great book. It offers solutions to problems such as deciding whether to remain married, how to treat your spouse, how to control your anger/sadness/self-esteem, etc. It never at any point blames either person (betrayed or betrayer). It is good for the betrayer to read because it offers him/her a look into how the betrayed spouse is feeling, and what that person is going through (and must go through) to heal, while never issuing judgement on the betrayer. This is a great book no matter what course you are considering after discovering an affair. It can help you and your partner heal (together!), strenthening your relationship; it can help you increase your self-esteem so that you can make your own decisions about sticking around or leaving. Its best quality is that it is POSITIVE. Everything the book says, whether about the betrayed or the betrayer, focuses on the positive and realistic qualities of the mess and how to clean it up.