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Product Details

  • Paperback: 176 pages
  • Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc.; 2nd edition (January 1, 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1889140082
  • ISBN-13: 978-1889140087
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #535,338 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Surviving Your Adolescents: How To Manage And Let Go Of Your 13-18 Year Olds gives a step-by-step approach that will help end hassles and offer concrete solutions. In its pages readers will learn the differences between teens and parents, how to evaluate the seriousness of their problems, exactly what problems require professional attention, what problems require "letting go", the Four Cardinal Sins (what not to do!), five ways to improve the parent-teen relationship, what role to take (Observer, Advisor, Negotiator, Director), tactics to combat testing and manipulation, and guidelines for common specific problems. Concise and encouraging, Surviving Your Adolescents does not assume that parents of teens have infinite amounts of time, energy or patience. Thomas Phelan's message is clear: parents are neither alone nor powerless. With Surviving Your Adolescents, the parents can survive their adolescents. Articulate, practical, innovative, and filled with specific "things to do", Surviving Your Adolescents is a terrific addition to all "how-to" parenting bookshelves. -- Midwest Book Review --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Thomas W Phelan PhD is a clinical psychologist and lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

More About the Author

Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the author of 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children, All About Attention Deficit Disorder, "I Never Get Anything!", Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

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I have read the entire book at least 5 times, if not more.
Gayle Johnson
Great guidelines of acceptable/unacceptable behavior for teens to help us 1st time teen parents.
skraemer@triton.net
The book is easy to read with excellent, practical suggestions of ways that work.
Bonnie Neely

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33 of 33 people found the following review helpful By skraemer@triton.net on June 19, 1998
Format: Paperback
This book helped me realize that my teenager wasn't as "awful" as I thought and showed me what role I need to take to make this relationship with my teen enjoyable. Great guidelines of acceptable/unacceptable behavior for teens to help us 1st time teen parents. Also wonderful discipline ideas that are sensible!
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13 of 14 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on March 2, 2002
Format: Audio Cassette
Dr. Phelan gives concise, clear ideas about how parents should interact with their adolescents. Parenting books often fall into the trap of a "one size fits all" approach to parenting. Dr. Phelan acknowledges that adolescents often have different temperaments and may require varying types of parenting approaches.
Communication between parent and adolescent is a tricky thing. It is easy to stymie the flow of information. He lists several "dos" and "don't" that may help keep the lines of comunication open. He illustrates each of these points with real-life vignettes. He discusses general guidelines for when it is better for the parent to intervene; when to just let go; and when to seek professional consultation.
I am glad that this title is available in audiocassette form. Parents today are often busy with work, home duties and carpooling. A casette, or anything that is practical and saves time, is great.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on May 23, 2003
Format: Paperback
I am a clinical social worker and recommend this book to clients struggling with their teenagers all the time, and all who have read it tell me how helpful it is. The advice is clear and practical, especially in deciding when to be flexible and when to be firm. I also like the emphasis on maintaining a good relationship with your kids so you will have a good relationship with them when they are adults. Highly recommended.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Aunt Laya Saul on December 11, 2007
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"Surviving Your Adolescents--How to Manage and Let Go Of Your 13-18 Year Olds" is brilliant and simple. I whole-heartedly recommend it for any and every parent of teens. Dr. Phelan's advice is perfectly reasonable. There is a section called "Managing Testing and Manipulation" and great coaching on both understanding different perspectives and choosing what kind of role to take in various situations.

But parents beware, parenting teens will require you to grow and change! Dr. Phelan gives control back to parents all right, but it requires us parents controlling ourselves--old habits, maybe learned from our parents or born out of frustration. We are given a dose of reality about measuring what is really important (recognizing what is "minor but aggravating" and when outside intervention is necessary). In this book you will learn which very common behaviors we parents fall into that contribute to discord.

It's always good to know that you're not the only one going through the challenges of parenting teens and Dr. Phelan gives over his wisdom, advice, and experiences in a direct way with humor and compassion. If you are in need of some guidance in parenting your teens, get this book, read it (and don't forget to take some time to enjoy your teens).

Laya Saul, author of the best loved book for teens, "You Don't Have to Learn Everything the Hard Way--What I Wish Someone Had Told Me"
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17 of 21 people found the following review helpful By L. A on May 19, 1998
Format: Paperback
The examples and clear language in this book really made it clear to me that sometimes, it's the parent who needs some attitude adjusting too.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Bonnie Neely on November 21, 2007
Format: Paperback
Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of your 13 - 18 Year Olds by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D, 2nd edition is a book I highly recommend for parents of any teenagers. Dr. Phelan is a registered Clinical Psychologist who has worked with children and families for over twenty-five years and he knows what works to help families run smoothly, even in the roughest of times. In the book he tells what is normal adolescent behavior, and risk-taking is normal! He gives terrific ways to keep good communication channels open with your teenager while still teaching and modeling the behavior you hope for yet understanding and discussing in ways that are not a big turn-off, the behaviors the teen exhibits in natural rebellion to rules. These are the years when peers are more important than parents, experimentation is normal in the quest for becoming one's own person, but the pitfalls are many, and the book recommends excellent ways of avoiding these or working through them and still keeping a good relationship. He discusses what is abnormal and needs professional help also. The book is easy to read with excellent, practical suggestions of ways that work. By all means ORDER THIS BOOK NOW!!
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Angela Traynor on May 11, 2006
Format: Audio Cassette
If possible, this book is even more useful than "1, 2, 3 Magic", simply because adolescents are more trying to a parent than a toddler, if that can be imagined! I suggest giving this book to every parent on their child's 12th birthday. I have eight children and wish I'd read this book first.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Lolly H on September 2, 2004
Format: Paperback
I am only on tape 1 of 4, it's what I've been looking for, a must have for all parents of teens, for all parents. We have been raised w/ old tapes and bad memories of what parenting is, as the child gets older we need to become coaches, not dictators. I highly recommend it!! Plus, I don't have time to read my eyes out!! the tapes are great!
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