Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage-and Let Go of-Your 13-18 Year Olds [Paperback]

Thomas W. Phelan PhD (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1998

A step-by-step approach to handling teenagers, this guide helps parents end the hassles and improve their parent-teenager relationship. Parents learn how to communicate with teenagers, how to manage teenage risk-taking, how to 'let go' in certain situations, and when to seek professional attention. Concise and encouraging, this resource walks parents through the ups-and-downs of parenting teenagers as their kids push towards independence.

Editorial Reviews

Review

Surviving Your Adolescents: How To Manage And Let Go Of Your 13-18 Year Olds gives a step-by-step approach that will help end hassles and offer concrete solutions. In its pages readers will learn the differences between teens and parents, how to evaluate the seriousness of their problems, exactly what problems require professional attention, what problems require "letting go", the Four Cardinal Sins (what not to do!), five ways to improve the parent-teen relationship, what role to take (Observer, Advisor, Negotiator, Director), tactics to combat testing and manipulation, and guidelines for common specific problems. Concise and encouraging, Surviving Your Adolescents does not assume that parents of teens have infinite amounts of time, energy or patience. Thomas Phelan's message is clear: parents are neither alone nor powerless. With Surviving Your Adolescents, the parents can survive their adolescents. Articulate, practical, innovative, and filled with specific "things to do", Surviving Your Adolescents is a terrific addition to all "how-to" parenting bookshelves. -- Midwest Book Review --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Thomas W Phelan PhD is a clinical psychologist and lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc.; 2nd edition (January 1, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1889140082
• ISBN-13: 978-1889140087
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #67,347 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the author of 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children, All About Attention Deficit Disorder, "I Never Get Anything!", Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

32 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A common sense tool for parents of teenagers., June 19, 1998

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This review is from: Surviving Your Adolescents (Paperback)

This book helped me realize that my teenager wasn't as "awful" as I thought and showed me what role I need to take to make this relationship with my teen enjoyable. Great guidelines of acceptable/unacceptable behavior for teens to help us 1st time teen parents. Also wonderful discipline ideas that are sensible!

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent resource for parents, May 23, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage-and Let Go of-Your 13-18 Year Olds (Paperback)

I am a clinical social worker and recommend this book to clients struggling with their teenagers all the time, and all who have read it tell me how helpful it is. The advice is clear and practical, especially in deciding when to be flexible and when to be firm. I also like the emphasis on maintaining a good relationship with your kids so you will have a good relationship with them when they are adults. Highly recommended.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars When to intervene and when to let go, March 2, 2002

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Carol Watkins "Psychiatrist" (Parkton, Maryland, USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Surviving Your Adolescents (Audio Cassette)

Dr. Phelan gives concise, clear ideas about how parents should interact with their adolescents. Parenting books often fall into the trap of a "one size fits all" approach to parenting. Dr. Phelan acknowledges that adolescents often have different temperaments and may require varying types of parenting approaches.

Communication between parent and adolescent is a tricky thing. It is easy to stymie the flow of information. He lists several "dos" and "don't" that may help keep the lines of comunication open. He illustrates each of these points with real-life vignettes. He discusses general guidelines for when it is better for the parent to intervene; when to just let go; and when to seek professional consultation.

I am glad that this title is available in audiocassette form. Parents today are often busy with work, home duties and carpooling. A casette, or anything that is practical and saves time, is great.