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Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed Paperback – May 15, 2012
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“Wisely written . . . . smart, conversational and honest.” --Mekeisha Madden Toby, The Detroit News
"What an important and timely topic! Karazin and Littlejohn's warm conversational style sets the perfect tone for women in interracial and intercultural relationships who are seeking practical advice and support." --Linda R. Young, PhD, psychologist and blogger for Psychology Today
“A welcome, heart-felt primer on what African-American women can and should do better prepare themselves for the challenges, frustrations as well as the possibilities and hopes in the turbulent world of relationships. It's a book whose time has more than come.” --Earl Ofari Hutchinson, Nationally syndicated columnist, author and social commentator
“Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn and Christelyn D. Karazin bring a refreshing perspective to this hotly debated and newsworthy topic -- they also have the journalistic mettle and personal experience and humor to pull off a book that is both entertaining and informational . . . . a must-read.” --Brian Lowry, Variety Chief Television Critic
“This surprising and oh-so-timely book should be considered essential reading for any woman who feels rudderless when it comes to finding a soul mate . . . . smartly researched and eye-opening.” --John Griffiths, Us Weekly Television Critic
“After nearly 20 years in an interracial marriage, the one thing I've learned is that black folks often have more hang-ups about these kinds of relationships than anyone else. And if anyone can help us all sort through the nonsense, problems and preconceptions, it is Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, one of the smartest, most empathetic writers I know. I only hope she starts on a book for black men next!” --Eric Deggans, TV/Media Critic, St. Petersburg Times
“A breath of fresh air.” --Cherilyn “CW” Smith, popular blogger and author of Black Women Deserve Better
“Couldn’t come at a better time." --Lecia J. Brooks Director, Civil Rights Memorial Center, Southern Poverty Law Center
"This book is critically important in our time to help foster a more open dialogue about interracial dating & marriages. I enjoyed it thoroughly and I highly recommend it to everyone. What a great read!" —Sophia A. Nelson, award winning Author & columnist for NBC's theGrio.com & Essence Magazine
About the Author
Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn has had a diverse twenty-year career as a journalist, with writing appearing in several publications, including USA TODAY, Essence, and Vibe. She lives in Los Angeles.
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Top Customer Reviews
Now here's a gal I can relate to: Awkward moments, humiliation, heartbreak, and eventual triumph with an extra dose of humor! Christelyn takes her readers on a journey which many Black women fear to tread. Apart from the title, do not pick up "Swirling" expecting a read filled with euphemisms and other subtleties. The book is informative yet entertaining, chock full of invaluable tips designed for "real life" application!
A note to prospective Black women readers who are considering "Swirling": Circulating the bloggersphere is a parade of "Interesting Assumptions", Personal Vendettas & Derailment. Under normal circumstances, it would be unnecessary to elaborate on the motivation behind such negativity; however I will keep my explanation brief and to the point as possible. Yes...I DO want the prospective reader to actually check out those bad reviews. Just be aware that the same disingenuous parties have actively sought out "Swirling" on other book forums for the sole purpose of leaving disparaging remarks. Process this feedback with a grain of salt and purchase this book. Upon completing "Swirling" the utter foolishness and bad faith operators will be painfully apparent. It is almost comical to read the fear based reviews mired in projection, self-absorption, fallacious arguments and dissent for its own sake. Please consider the motivations behind such convoluted efforts to separate Black women from this potentially life-enhancing material. The combined efforts of Christelyn Karazin and Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn have more than sufficiently addressed any legitimate concerns raised about Black women expanding their mating options.Read more ›
As for the general rhetoric and tone of the book, the authors continue to perpetuate the same idealisms that have created the very stereotype among Black women that we so strongly fight against daily. Reiterating the statistics of the number of black men in jail, on the down-low, or with women of other races does nothing to further the "cause" of dating outside the race. Rather, one should date whom they want because that's the way they feel. The undertone seemed to suggest that black women should date outside their race because there's no other choice. It seems to me that the authors have let their negative experiences with black men shape their views of them and feel the need to "caution the sistas" against falling into the same trap. Newsflash: Jerk comes in ALL races.
I had some snciker out loud moments and some inner "Amens" to statements that substantiated that black women are not "gold diggers" for desiring someone with equal educational and financial backgrounds (only followed by the statistics that we outnumber educated, gainfully employed black men... and they are all players), yet I felt that this book somehow bashed the brothers.
I have dated outside my race for years not because I have stopped believing in my "brothers", but because my lifestyle choices tend to lend themselves to my counterparts of other races.Read more ›
I've read books that discussed the ups and downs of interracial relationships and what to expect as a black woman interested in crossing the racial boundaries of romance. But I think this really is the first time I've read a book that covered all the bases. For example, I was really impressed that it didn't go on and on about black/white relationships only. MANY people are under the impression that black women only swirl with white men and that minority interracial relationships don't happen or "don't count". It's really nice getting some background on interracial and intercultural relationships involving black women and Asian (East and South), Latino, and Middle-Eastern men, as well as different ethnic groups of white men.
In addition to heart-felt stories and informative interviews, there were actual step-by-step guides for the most awkward of situations, and you could really tell that the authors had been there before themselves and were authentically reassuring you with the advice they were offering.
Also, since I had the e-book, I was able to better navigate to read and re-read information with ease. At the same time, the book flowed very cohesively, drifting from one part to the next, allowing you to move from understanding the reluctance of interracial dating, to preparing to do it, to navigating through the stages of the relationship. If a black woman wanted to use this book, she could read it and process it slowly, moving forward to the next chapters and parts when she was ready to address those areas as they related to her IRR dating situation.
Overall, I would say that this is an absolute MUST HAVE for anyone seriously planning to date interracially, but most especially for black women.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I bought this book 2 years ago, I never read it because at the time I wasn't ready to date. I just started reading the book last week. Read morePublished 29 days ago by S. Moore
Excellent book and convinced me to date out and to leave Black males alone! Its not that all Black men are unfit they have too many going against them and they don't want elevate... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Dee's Not Dumb
Great book! After buying and reading this work, I must say that it is very informative and helpful for anyone wanting to get into a WM BW relationship and even marriage. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Frank K Kovac
So I read some of the book because I do realize this is her experience on dealing with a white man. Since I grew up in the suburbs, attended white schools and a white college, I... Read morePublished 5 months ago by b a y
I can not believe there is a book out on how to date a white man. I hope there's a book that shows black men how to date women.Published 8 months ago by Lauren Harrell
The most awesome book. I have 5 dates lined up that I would not have had if I had not read the book. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Karen Brown
This book really caught my attention because I've become so interested in the topic. It is very well written and the authors give both sound advice and great insight for anyone... Read morePublished 13 months ago by BillofNY2NC