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The System: How to Get Laid Today!

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I just read a review from someone who did NOT read the book. I thought her assumptions were interesting though incorrect. Since I did read the book here is my review of it.

This System tackles an interesting challenge. How can you pick up a girl, have sex with her, yet do it in a respectful way. I like this book because it's the only pick up book that I've read that actually shows you both sides of the coin. Women are not featured as targets or victims. They are featured as powerful and intellectual individuals who are capable of making decisions about their own sexuality.

At some points of the book I was surprised at Valentine's candid approach. It's the only pick up book that I've read where the author said

"I never lie to women! There's never a reason to. When you lie, you have put the burden of the relationship and her feelings and her life on your back. Don't lie, tell her the truth."

In many ways, this book goes way beyond pick up techniques and teaches the psychology of interpersonal relationship between men and women. Men are advised and taught how to understand "the mental game" before even trying to approach a woman.

I also found the body language approach to be compelling. We all know that 80% to 90% of all human communication happens non-verbally (body language). From the initial eye contact to sleeping with a woman to follow up (believe it or not Valentine discourages one-night-stands), the author shows how to read every move a woman makes so you are always at least one step ahead of her. He expresses that the ability to read women body language gives you the power to determine if and when you would like to take her home.

The book also discourages "pick up lines". It actually teaches us how seduce women by establishing a connection with them verbally. It teaches you how to have conversations with women that will make you more interesting to her. Any communication or psychology professional will recognize the theory of 100% communication in this book. Non-verbal + verbal = 100% communication. The book teaches how to achieve this level of connection and how to use it to have sexual relationships with women.

The book is only 208 pages and at the end you have a feeling of wanting more. After reading it (less than 2 hrs) I felt like I had just crammed a human relationship class, a sex 101 class, a sociology class, a psychology class, a male and female sexuality class, and a communications class. I felt like I understood how all these schools of knowledge interact together (I was a good student but I think I missed the link between all these things while in college).

I recommend this book highly to both men and women. I think it has essential information for single men trying to meet someone. I think it's also critical for women who would like a better understanding of themselves in a social environment and in relationships.

There is nothing of any value in this book. It's only 200 pages long, yet more than 50 pages are devoted to the author telling you how great his system is. As it turns out, there is no system. It's just a guy telling you to be confident. He also talks about 3 different types of women but never goes into detail about how to recognize these types. Overall, a complete waste of time.

I recieved The System a few weeks ago and so far I've liked what I've seen. I have met many women (thoug I admit I haven't been going out a lot, like 1 or 2 times a week), and two of them took me to their apartment inmediatly :). One was a 26 years old girl who was sitting with a friend at a restaurant when I approached her (she was giving me MAD eye contact, waving and all that stuff), and the other one was a popular ex-model of 36 years old who I met at a friend's party. I can't complain so far. I'm sure I would have still more success if I got out at least 4 nights weekly or drive to many places during daytime.

The most I like about the book is that if you read it well, when you go out and start having sucess, you feel confident that you can get laid whenever you want, and the desperation disappears. Still, you must put what you read into practice and experience what it is said there by yourself, not just read it and hope that some girl with enter your house to get you laid, that's for late night movie scripts.

I want to make a few points though: from the reviews I've seen some guys who apparently have read other seduction materials and expect this to be hardcore stuff or something like that. Contrary to that, the book is very simple, so simple that during and after reading it, you say "¡I knew that, that's pure logic" but if you think about it, yes, it was very logical stuff, but had you tried to apply that sometimes?

Let me explain, the main rule of The System is the 1% rule, which basically states that wherever and whenever, at least there's always 1% of the girls ready to go to bed with you (ex: in a 100 people bar, there's minimum 1 girl you can lay that same day). Yeah, you can say sarcastically "wow what a great discovery" but as I asked above, "ok mr. smart guy, but have you actually been out there looking everywhere until you find that ready-to-bed girl?"... ask yourself this and you will know if you are just another one critizising or a happy person who's confident that he can get laid the same day if he's motivated to go out until you find that 1%.

I should add that I also read lots of dating material and that sort of stuff in the past, however, most of that is focused on building attraction, manipulation, pick up lines, complex techniques and all that sort of stuff you find by reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss (a great eye-opener book by the way), things that make your interaction with women complicated and focuses more on your ego than on getting laid. However, even for an experienced guy in other seduction material, after dropping all that complex stuff, this is a refresher. You will actually GET LAID (that's the only purpouse in the book), not spend lots of your time going out approaching the wrong women for 'practicing' your 'laser-beam attraction-hypnosis self-delusional powers'. Get real, just get laid and enjoy. Read The System and APPLY IT.

Now for the bad stuff. A few things that I think the book missed.

First, the conversational stuff lacks in depth. Why? because Valentine recommends asking questions, show interest and just flirting (that is not expaded too much). For more socially inept people, the ask question dynamic will make them feel a bit unconfortable during the blank spaces of the conversation, while the socially skilled will know how to advance and/or fill the voids. My recommendation is to get confortable with that conversational method first by trying what the book says with women friends, co-workers and all that stuff. Then it will be easier when you want to get laid. Also, more explanation in the bodylanguage section would have helped more.

Another thing is that if you live in a small city or a not so big metropolitan area, you will have to go out more because the 1% will be more difficult to be found. So in that case you must then persist, do what the author says and go bar from bar, until you find the adequate target, and that could take you lots of gas and a vehicle of you own if the places you frequent are very distant one from each other. Basically if you live in a smaller urban area, you must be prepared to spend more time looking for your 1% and some days wou won't be able to find the same-day-lay girl (especially if you are in a more conservative country).

Last, but not least, is the physical aspect. In order to boost your sucess rate of eye contacts (one of the first setps to identify your target), being in great shape and dressing good imrpoves your 1% to maybe more than 15%!! depending on your genetical looks. So I believe Valentine should have expanded that part of the book.

So, as a conclusion: If you are an average guy who doesn't want to lose time and energy trying to become a 'pick up artist' and just want to get to the point: sex whenever you want, read this book, get into the gym, prepare to travel a lot around your city and start going out a lot! everywhere! It is guaranteed that getting laid will now depend on your choice (the choice to just get up and get out from your house) and you will actually start getting laid. Good luck in your journey to unlimited sex.

UPDATE: I've found the perfect complement for the bodylanguage section. It's the wonderful written "Undercover Sex Signals" by Leil Lowndes. Believe me, it's a gem.
And for the talking section, I suggest any of the conversational books from Lowndes too, and/or becoming a more social person.

Enjoy, you have all you need to enjoy great sex (just don't forget to give them many powerful orgasms!)

This System tackles an interesting challenge. How can you pick up a girl, have sex with her, yet do it in a respectful way. I like this book because it's the only pick up book that I've read that actually shows you both sides of the coin. Women are not featured as targets or victims. They are featured as powerful and intellectual individuals who are capable of making decisions about their own sexuality.

At some points of the book I was surprised at Valentine's candid approach. It's the only pick up book that I've read where the author said

"I never lie to women! There's never a reason to. When you lie, you have put the burden of the relationship and her feelings and her life on your back. Don't lie, tell her the truth."

In many ways, this book goes way beyond pick up techniques and teaches the psychology of interpersonal relationship between men and women. Men are advised and taught how to understand "the mental game" before even trying to approach a woman.

I also found the body language approach to be compelling. We all know that 80% to 90% of all human communication happens non-verbally (body language). From the initial eye contact to sleeping with a woman to follow up (believe it or not Valentine discourages one-night-stands), the author shows how to read every move a woman makes so you are always at least one step ahead of her. He expresses that the ability to read women body language gives you the power to determine if and when you would like to take her home.

The book also discourages "pick up lines". It actually teaches us how seduce women by establishing a connection with them verbally. It teaches you how to have conversations with women that will make you more interesting to her. Any communication or psychology professional will recognize the theory of 100% communication in this book. Non-verbal + verbal = 100% communication. The book teaches how to achieve this level of connection and how to use it to have sexual relationships with women.

The book is only 208 pages and at the end you have a feeling of wanting more. After reading it (less than 2 hrs) I felt like I had just crammed a human relationship class, a sex 101 class, a sociology class, a psychology class, a male and female sexuality class, and a communications class. I felt like I understood how all these schools of knowledge interact together (I was a good student but I think I missed the link between all these things while in college).

I recommend this book highly to both men and women. I think it has essential information for single men trying to meet someone. I think it's also critical for women who would like a better understanding of themselves in a social environment and in relationships.

I think this book is a MUST BUY!!!

Trust me, guys, this doesn't work unless you're a stud. It's all based on making "eye contact", and no girl is gonna be giving you 'eye contact" unless you're an attractive stud. For the average joe, forget it, this just does not happen in real life.

This is a great book, if you are desperate for sex and just want to have sex with any female that's WILLING regardless of what she looks like. I can paraphrase the entire book:

Go out to bars and make eye-contact with every girl you see. If no one makes eye contact with you, go to a different bar. When a girl makes a lot of eye contact with you, go talk to her, talk, talk, talk, then try to bring her home.

There are SOME good points in the book, like why stay in a crappy bar all night with no women, drinking yourself silly when you could go to another bar that does have women. And keep your head up and make eye-contact. I did notice after reading this book that I normally look down or at the floor instead of looking up at oncoming girls. So that's definitely valuable. I keep my head up now and look for eyes.

But all this book does is help you find the girls "that are looking". It doesn't help with girls that aren't looking. And what really hot girl is going to be looking?? It says NOTHING about what they look like. Per this book, going into a bar and making eyecontact with a 200 pound woman who is a 5 on the 1-10 scale and taking her home would be a succcess. I don't need sex that badly. I'm not interested in taking home "anything". I'm interested in meeting very attractive women. This book does not help with that at all. It takes the "Take what you can get" approach. No thanks. I think that's bad for your self esteem. I've read other pick-up books and I'd recommend "The Game" or anything by Mystery or David D'Angelo before you waste money on this book. And if I can soapbox for a second - Don't feel bad about reading Pick-up books. Pick up is a SKILL, just like anything else. There's no need to feel shame for learning a new skill. It's all just social-skills. A skill frankly that most cute girls have us beat at because they are hit-on ALL the time. I for one want to level that playing field.

I'm a ball player so I've really never had much trouble getting girls. I got this book because all my buddies kept talking about it and kept asking my opinion. I never felt any guy should need a book to get girls but after reading this book I had to give some credit to the author. In essence, the title tells the entire story. Also, the stated goal of the book according to the author is "to be able to meet a girl, seduce her, take her home, and have sex with her within minutes of meeting her".

Of course that caught my attention and as I read the book I found the author to be very focused on explaining how this can be done. I've never had a system but I had to admit that a lot of what was explained in the book is what I've always done with my buddies to get girls.

I belive this book will work for guys that need a little help with getting girls. I think the book is right about a lot of the things it says about why guys aren't able to "close". I think the 5-step process will be good for guys because it's like a cheat sheet of what to do.

Other things I liked about the book: stories of his success and failures; identifying the right women; cooking for women on dates; understanding how women think and what their needs are; understanding your own limiting thoughts. I think these are all key things that every guy should understand.

My buddy got the illustrated version with the sexy pics. I got the unillustrated version which catches a bit less attention.

I only gave this book 2 stars because it felt like a disspointment. Purchasing this book over the internet without looking through the book first at a local bookstore was a mistake. The System had a few good points, but on the whole it basically restates common facts like making eye contact, playing hard to get, and some basic psychology of women. When I first got the book I was surprised that it was so small; easily readable the first time through. Mispellings and typos also caught me offguard for a published book with such a distinguished ranking on Amazon. I wish there were more precise intructions/outlines for do's rather than dont's(ie. miroring a woman's bodylanguge). My advice to you is to skim through the book before you purchase it to see if its of value to you. I am considering purchasing The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene as a necessary follow-up.

If you dated in high school or if you've ever had sex, this book will teach you nothing. It's like reading a gunnery manual written by pacifists. The "System" is boring, trite and useless.

First and foremost there is no SYSTEM. [...] He's stretched everything most guys (who aren't total geeks) already know about meeting women into 100 pages. Maybe the author is a player, but he either doesn't know what he does that attracts women, who he just can't describe it, (Most likely the former). He shares deep secrets like Woman love when men cook for them. Is there actually a heterosexual or homosexual male out there that this is a startling revelation to? The other secrets Valentine shares in his book are just as amazing. Do your homework beforehand like I didn't. [...]. Think of one of the best books you've ever read from Amazon and look at it's ratings. My first clue should have been the editing. Simply put, there was none. Misspellings and grammatical errors are rampant throughout. DO ANYTHING ELSE WITH THE MONEY THIS BOOK WOULD COST YOU. You'll be much better off and 100 pages later, you won't be mad at yourself.