More About the Author
"Like so many of the great stories of addictions, this is a story of a long, winding road-trip through the emotional and sexual psyche... amusing and horrifying, cautionary and inspiring." -Sally Bibrary, Frock Magazine
"...a fascinating read... a wild ride of freedom and excess... I applaud the courage to put such a story out for others to gain insights from." -Gina-Vizavi, Transgender Forum
"...beautifully written, riveting, and, yes, fun!... [the author writes like] the Jacqueline Susann of memoirists." -J.P.
"...dark and erotic. I love it!" -C.B
Above are a few comments written by reviewers about my book, "My Transvestite Addictions: The Story Of One Individual's Odyssey Through Crossdressing, Alcohol, Escorts, Strippers, Sex, and Money."
I'm a professional freelance writer, editor, and artist--and a lifelong crossdresser/transvestite who has always struggled with my gender identity. I've also struggled with a number of addictions, including alcohol and sexual addictions.
I wrote "My Transvestite Addictions" based on my real-life experiences (though I've changed all the names and certain details of events). I've crafted the stories to examine the way one individual is dealing with his complex issues of crossdressing and transgenderism and his chronic addiction problems.
My book is serious, funny, outrageous, sexy, earthy, and unflinchingly personal. As a warning to sensitive readers, the book includes blunt language, swear words, and graphic sexual descriptions, as well as a fair amount of libertarian politics that some may view as politically incorrect.
My intention is to both entertain and educate. I'm always being asked, "Why do you dress like a woman?" and "What is it like?" and "Do you like guys or girls?"--in addition to many other interesting questions. This book answers those extremely complex questions and many others--in ways that are sometimes shocking. The book also addresses the general lack of public knowledge regarding the multiple aspects of transgenderism, including the differences between crossdressers and transsexuals. I strongly advocate for greater understanding of, and respect for, transgendered people.
In my case, my crossdressing, which started out as a healthy and bold form of self-expression, evolved into a type of addiction that became associated with other addictions, such as excessive alcohol use, excessive use of call girls, and excessive spending of money. My addictions and impulses led me to do a lot of crazy things... I've had public sex with men in bars while I was dressed like a woman, I've dated a sexy female stripper whom I met while I was crossdressed at the strip club, I've been locked up in jail for drunk driving and beat up by cops because of how I was dressed, I've been hauled off to a hospital because I threatened suicide to my gender therapist... and I've done many other crazy, wild things, all of which are discussed in my book.
After a long series of sometimes highly enjoyable and sometimes extremely disturbing experiences such as these, I finally reached a partial resolution on my problems--a resolution derived from my own inner strength and independent spirit and the kind, caring help of others.
One of the themes of "My Transvestite Addictions" is that each of us is different. And each of us has to come to our own terms with our problematic behaviors. Human beings are extremely complex creatures. None of us can possibly fit neatly into particular expert-designed categories listed in psychology textbooks. We each need to discover our own truths, what works best for us, and what helps us live good lives as free individuals who are honest and true to ourselves and to others.
Despite my struggles, I remain very proud of my crossdressing and of the female aspects of my personality, psychology, and life. They are important parts of my truth. I'm very happy that I'm both male and female--Jack and Jacquelina.
And whatever my problems and struggles have been, I take comfort in knowing this: I have lived my life as a free-thinking individual... as a rebel against the establishment... and as an independent, free-flying spirit. I have lived my life as me, not as a clone. That automatically puts me ahead of 99 percent of the rest of the population.
My problems and struggles have been worth it.
I hope that my book will be of help to other people--either by learning from my mistakes or by being inspired by some of my better behaviors. I look forward to hearing from my readers!