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Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships Paperback – August 17, 2006
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I wish every cult member, and every family of a cult member could read Take Back Your Life. -- Eugene H. Methvin, Senior Editor, Reader's Digest
Must reading for everyone who wants to understand the appeal of cults. This book's wisdom is vital. -- Philip G. Zimbardo, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology, Stanford University
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The information I gleaned here gave me that frame of reference, and helped me to "detox" from the environment which was so seductively calling me back. It explains and makes sense of some very bewildering and deceptive manipulation techniques. And it has helped my therapy by outlining the kinds of issues that children coming out of cults usually face.
This book has a universal appeal for all cult escapees because it focuses not on beliefs or practices, but rather on manipulations and psychological pressures which are commonly brought to bear in cults. I found it easy to identify experientally with the material, without being challenged and put off by attacks on my strange beleif system which I was still disengaging from.
It's been a big part of my recovery. My thanks to the authors!
UPDATE January, 2012
Have loaned out and recommended the original 'Captive Hearts' many times over the last decade and a half, and was disheartened to find that it went out of print. Recently I've been excited to discover that the same material, vastly updated, is now available from the same authors under the title, 'Take Back Your Life.'
I still refer to this book periodically. It is a primary source for understanding the cult phenomenon, even those tendencies increasingly found in the modern corporate culture. We ALL are hard wired to respond to authoritarian influences in the same way, and this material acts as a healthy immunizer.
This book offers invaluable assitance to those who have been involved with a destructive cult, whether it be relgious, political or psycho-theraputic. The text gives former members indications of what to expect in recovery as well as practical assitance to cope with their recovery.
The text also gives a breakdown of how and why cults operate as they do; how and why people get recruitted into cults; and how and why people leave cults.
This book is truly a gift from the authors' heart, experiences and study. Thanks to them.
In "Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships" ($19.50 in paperback from Bay Tree Publishing), Lalich and co-author Madeleine Tobias, a Vermont psychotherapist, make clear that modern day cults have not disappeared. "If there is less street recruiting today, it is because many cults now use professional associations, campus organizations, self-help seminars, and the Internet as recruitment tools" to entice the unwary.
Who gets sucked into a cult? "Although the public tends to think, wrongly, that only those who are stupid, weird, crazy and aimless get involved in cults, this is simply untrue. ... We know that many cult members went to the best schools in the country, have advanced academic or professional degrees and had successful careers and lives prior to their involvement in a cult or cultic abusive relationship. But at a vulnerable moment, and we all have plenty of those in our lives (a lost love, a lost job, rejection, a death in the family and so on), a person can fall under the influence of someone who appears to offer answers or a sense of direction."
For the authors, "a group or relationship earns the label 'cult' on the basis of its methods and behaviors -- not on the basis of its beliefs. Often those of us who criticize cults are accused of wanting to deny people their freedoms, religious or otherwise.Read more ›
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The one phrase that makes me squirm more than any other is “I have good news and I have bad news; which one do you want first?” Personally, I want the bad news first. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Steven Haack
Chock full of useful information for the personal exposed to a cultic group or a cultic relationship.Masterfully written and complete, touching all the bases of recovery.Published 2 months ago by J. Paul Lennon
If you read this book, you will be forever a critical thinker, able to see what's what! Holy cow🐂
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This book has been incredibly helpful in recovering from the cultic relationship I was in 4 years ago. Read morePublished 14 months ago by orchasmic
Must read! It is the first recovery book that I read, and it is remarkable. Comprehensive and pragmatic discussion of how to deal with problems after exiting.Published 19 months ago by a customer
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Although this book is a fair and concise portrayal of the effects of mind control on individuals drawn into well-known cults that have been written about in the media, I only found... Read morePublished 22 months ago by Ann Willow