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To ensure that one's marriage lasts "as long as we both shall live" as opposed to the increasingly popular "as long as we both shall love," William J. Doherty (Take Back Your Kids) recommends that couples undertake daily "connection rituals" that facilitate "intentional marriage." In Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart, Doherty, the director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Minnesota, advises couples to avoid family and friends who undermine their marriage and to avoid sacrificing their relationship to their kids.

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"This book offers wise and timely advice on marriage from one of America's favorite therapists." --Mary Pipher, PhD, author of Reviving Ophelia and Another Country

"Though love feels magical, a loving marriage is anything but magic. There are definite formulas to marriages that work and those that don't. Take Back Your Marriage uncovers the insidious forces working against lasting love and commitment, and offers down-to-earth methods to guard against and overcome them. It reminds and inspires us to take our marriages off the back burner and give them the attention and care they require to turn 'I do' into 'I still do.'" --Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Divorce Busting (and The Divorce Remedy, forthcoming)

"Take Back Your Marriage is full of wisdom and realism. Bill Doherty is one of America's most experienced and knowledgeable family experts. He tells us how to take back our marriages from consumerism, frantic activity, our kids, misguided counselors, and well-intentioned family members. This is a desperately needed and welcome message." --Don Browning, PhD, coauthor of From Culture Wars to Common Ground: Religion and the American Family Debate

"Great--a guide to making good marriages better! Doherty is an optimistic therapist of clear values, uncommon wisdom, and unimpeachable humanity. In the engaging Take Back Your Marriage, he dissects the disordered priorities, expectations, and commitments, the bad therapists and destructive support systems, that doom so many marriages. He offers rituals of love and play that could revive any but the deadest unions. What a lovely and empowering way of looking at life and the things--like a loved and loving partner--that make it worth living." --Frank Pittman, MD, author of Grow Up!: How Taking Responsibility Can Make You A Happy Adult

"While it is primarily for married couples and those considering marriage, this book is also beneficial for therapists and professional leaders....it is applicable to those who are considering any type of partnership/relationship....chapters are inviting, engaging, and readable....a book for couples and can be used as a companion for those in therapy. It will also serve as an excellent text for marriage enrichment programs. Pastors and church educators will find Doherty's approach to marriage and family affirming of the work of their community of faith and practical for ministry within the congregation."--Family Ministry

"Doherty's book offers solutions."--St. Croix Valley Press and White Bear Press

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Product Details

Hardcover: 184 pages
Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (March 16, 2001)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1572304596
ISBN-13: 978-1572304598
Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.2 x 0.7 inches
Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)

Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (11 customer reviews)

Amazon.com Sales Rank: #470,664 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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Not far from my office in St. Paul, Minnesota, is the farthest point north on the Mississippi River where the big ships can navigate the river. Read the first page

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consumer marriage, intentional marriage, marital leadership, solitary marriage, unnecessary divorce, marital rituals, intimacy rituals, talk ritual, individual hobbies, connection rituals, anniversary ritual, marital commitment, greeting ritual, divorced friends, marital therapist, personal entitlement, love rituals, drift south

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Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard J. Markman on page 108
Reconcilable Differences by Andrew Christensen on page 46

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5.0 out of 5 stars A book that will help ANY marriage!!!! , August 2, 2005

By	S. Richman (Roosevelt, Utah USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart (Paperback)

I am a graduate student, this book was an assignment that required me to design a marriage enrichments program. So I approached this book with a very critical eye, wanting to find all the pros and cons. With that being said, I loved this book. The author William J. Doherty does an excellent job addressing issues and attitudes in marriage in a way that I have never thought of. The concept of a consumer attitude is a profound idea, and better yet it makes sense. The book is well written (but on a level that anyone can read and understand), with great examples, and ideas to apply the concepts presented in this book. This is a book that everyone should read; it is not just for marriages that are struggling. I feel that I have a very healthy and happy marriage, yet this book has helped me improve a relationship that I thought did not need improvement. It can also help newly weds who are juts starting out on their journey together. Over all this is a great book that will help any marriage as much as the reader is willing to allow it.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Outlines outside forces which tend to drive couples apart, September 6, 2001

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Plenty of titles provide marital advice; but few so clearly outline the outside forces which tend to drive couples apart as William Doherty's Take Back Your Marriage, which tells how to stick together in a world which pulls people apart. Family therapist Doherty says today's divorces are the result of conflicting demands on time and money - troubles which can be overcome by determined couples. This tells how.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Deeply insightful - how to fix things pull apart marriages, May 30, 2005

By	M. Stewart (Texas, USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart (Paperback)

A wonderful expos� on the current trend of friends, marriage counselors, etc., encouraging those in marriages to leave "if you aren't getting your needs met." He skillfully shows that with a small change in both partners' (and sometines just one), many divorces could be avoided. He is careful to point out there are still cases that would require a divorce, such as abuse and repeated infidelity. But great hope is given that many can take back their relationships and enjoy each other.

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