It Takes Two.Com [Paperback]

Kenneth Appel (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 0967732301 | ISBN-13: 978-0967732305 | Publication Date: January 1, 1999

It Takes Two.Com is more than just a guidebook to online dating. Today finding your soulmate on the Internet is a novelty. In the not-to-distant future, it will be the norm. It Takes Two.Com tells us why. The authors, one a clinical psychologist and the other a psychotherapist, met on an online dating service. Intrigued, they wanted to find out more about this phenonmenon. They interviewed over 1000 people who volunteered to share their on line experiences. From this extensive research, they wrote this inspiring step-by-step guide. It Takes Two.Com provides the reader with a thorough understanding of the psychological and spiritual aspects of cyber-relationships.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Kenneth J. Appel, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist who has worked with individuals and couples for over 37 years. He is on the faculty of the University of California, San Francisco Department of Psychiatry, and also teaches in the Department of Psychiatry at California Pacific Medical Center. Beverly S. Appel, M.A. has 22 years of experience in therapy, counseling, and healing. She follows the spiritual path of Vedanta, and has edited and transcribed writings in this spiritual tradition.

Product Details

• Paperback: 244 pages
• Publisher: Tara Enterprises (January 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0967732301
• ISBN-13: 978-0967732305
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,059,398 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Discover books, learn about writers, read author blogs, and more.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A RAVE REVIEW FOR BOOK ON INTERNET LOVE, April 25, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: It Takes Two.Com: A Psychological & Spiritual Guide to Finding Love on the Internet Personals (Paperback)

I admit I agreed to review this book with at least a tad of trepidation, not only because I'm now barely entering the second half of the 20th Century as far as technology, but also because I've always secretly nurtured a philosophical resistance to any form of human interaction that smacked of science fiction. For me this category included cloning, telepathic sex, and computer dating.

So for two weeks I pretended not to notice this manuscript to which I'd committed myself, lying there among my gardening books on the bedside table. But finally I bit the bullet and opened to the Table of Contents. I became immediately, astoundingly engaged. Those clever chapter titles! "Oedipus Seeks Older Woman," for starters. Wow. This was not your typical book about love on the Internet. I tell you it was a page turner -- a finely researched, entertaining and convincing argument in favor of computer dating.

The authors are themselves persuasive examples of the validity of the much maligned phenomenon of cyberlove, having met through the Internet personals when Kenneth was living in San Francisco and Beverly in Tennessee. As if the glow of their personal relationship is not testimony enough (they could be the happiest couple I've met), their book includes perceptive recollections from other intelligent folks who found their own soulmates in cyberspace.

It includes interviews with owners of reputable online dating services, offers advice on how to choose an appropriate matchmaking service, and provides tips on writing effective personal profiles. The book outlines precautions taken by dating services to protect the privacy of their clients, and guidelines to attracting sincere people.

But it's not as simplistic or one-sided as that. The pitfalls are investigated and unsuccessful attempts examined. Participants describe their first-hand experiences with online dating. The characters are familiar and human, with all the usual flaws and fears we recognize (embracingly or otherwise) as our own. It's a page turner, I tell you. It's drama.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An intelligent beginning on the path to finding happiness, November 22, 1999

By 

Cristina Carvalho (Rio de Janeiro, Brazil) - See all my reviews

This review is from: It Takes Two.Com: A Psychological & Spiritual Guide to Finding Love on the Internet Personals (Paperback)

When I was searching for a book of information about online dating, I bought four books from Amazon. Three of these were silly and superficial in their approach. IT TAKES TWO.COM was strikingly different. Not only do the authors have the first-hand experience of meeting online themselves, but also in helping people resolve relationship problems. What I really enjoyed about this book were the many specific examples and directions for how to be successful online, and how to learn more about yourself in the process. Through accounts from people who have lost as well as won online, the authors explain ways to protect yourself as well as avoid hurting others on the way to finding a partner. IT TAKES TWO.COM was a very meaningful book to me personally, and I'm sure it will help many people in their online search.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A prerequisite for anyone placing a personals ad on the Net., January 28, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: It Takes Two.Com: A Psychological & Spiritual Guide to Finding Love on the Internet Personals (Paperback)

It Takes Two.Com should certainly be a prerequisite for anyone placing or responding to an ad on an Internet personals site. The many stories shared by people who have used the personals demonstrate how we must know and love ourselves--our games, our illusions, our fears, our desires, our dreams--so that we may more fully experience genuine love with another. These stories validate that there are unseen forces ever present guiding us, and that LOVE is really all there is, even when brought and given to us via the Internet. Sharing the strength and hope from first-hand accounts is a very powerful learning tool for those willing to have an open mind and heart. The authors' descriptions and explanations of what composes the essence of a person, how our persona/archetypes are lived out in our lives, and how these then come to dictate who we meet when it becomes our written ad or email is right on! Even the stories of fantasy, constant courtship, married and flirting, and disappointment can teach us. For the reader who is willing, the catalyst is there to help see how our superficial actions are not conducive to an intimate, trusting, accepting, committed relationship--if that is what we truly desire. Of course, to have faith and be open to accept and recognize our destiny when it meets us face to face is also required.