Taking the Bully by the Horns - Children's Version of the Best Selling Book, "Nasty People" [Paperback]

Jay Carter (Author), Kathy Noll (Author), Flora Cusimano (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 31, 1998

Children need to learn at an early age that their actions will have consequences. Negative actions having negative consequences. They must learn to take responsibility for these actions. And to know how one "seemingly" little thing you do can affect so many so greatly... They need to learn and experience respect, caring and love both for themselves and others. We all need to work together on solving these problems.

Violence is an extreme form of "bullying." A worse case scenario. Most of the time these kids started out being picked on themselves. In my book we call this the "BULLY CYCLE." Bullies creating more bullies. Becoming a bully as a means of protecting yourself (or so you think) ... hoping if you are the one causing the pain, you will never again have to experience it yourself. They feel so bad about themselves and think that controlling someone else will make them feel better or help distract from their own problems.

Children today feel numb ... some have been bullied to the point of feeling nothing. They are withdrawn and hopeless. If all kids could understand how to accept themselves and know that they're "OK", there wouldn't have to be any "Bullies" or "Victims".

This book helps parents, teachers and children give kids the skills they need to deal with BULLIES and maintain healthy SELF-ESTEEM. It is intended to help both the bullies and the victims feel good about themselves, thereby lessening the recent violence we've experienced in our schools.

1 out of 4 kids will be bullied this month. IT'S TIME TO DO SOMETHING!

Editorial Reviews

Review

Easily broken down into digestible chapters, this book addresses the seriousness of the issue, offering smart, empowering, proactive "bully" solutions . -- Connect for Kids

Follow her hints and suggestions, and you will gain the power to eliminate the difficult bully worries in your life! -- Reading Times

Noll does a wonderful job bolstering the self-respect of the victims. Children will certainly learn a lot from her. -- The Family Corner

This book contains very good advice and teaches you how to recognize different types of bullies and games they play. -- Cyber Kids

Very important and perceptive book. This book should find a useful place in any school counselor's office or school library. -- Bookends

From the Publisher

Best-selling author offers tips and gives examples on how to handle bullies without becoming one of them. For elementary through junior high. Adults can also share this book with younger readers.

This self-help book explores different ways children and teens are bullied (both mentally and physically), how the bully becomes a bully, how the victim becomes a victim (sometimes there's a find line between the two), and what can be done about it.

When Dr. Jay Carter wrote his popular self-help book about invalidation between adults (adult bullies & victims) entitled, "Nasty People," he received many letters from readers whose lives he helped, and changed. A lot of those people were parents who requested he write another version of his book that their children could understand, learn from, and benefit. After 8 years of searching for the right person to write a children's version of his best-selling book, he found Kathy Noll.

He had placed an ad in the personal's looking for a co-author. Kathy sent him writing samples of her children's short stories. He said he picked her out of over 50 people who sent him their information/samples!

Jay feels Kathy has an original style of writing, and the ability to talk with young people on their level. He felt she was perfect for the project, and she didn't want to let him down. She worked on the book day and night, interviewing older and younger people on both bullying and self-esteem issues. He edited and approved her (psychology) advice on the self-esteem issues. The rest is history! They're proud to announce the result of their efforts, "Taking the Bully by the Horns."

Kathy has helped many kids understand bullying and how to handle it. Some letters she received from children include these actual quotes/comments, "It's the best book I've ever read," "I understand people better now and why they do what they do," "I feel stronger and a lot better about myself. Now I know what to do..." "I was scared but your book helped me a lot."

The stories/examples in this book are based on actual interviews with young people. It has received wonderful, positive reviews from parents, children, and teachers - one of whom was quoted as saying, "Taking the Bully by the Horns should be required in all schools as part of every child's education."

It's time to Take those Bullies by the Horns!

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Product Details

• Paperback: 80 pages
• Publisher: Unicorn Pr; 1st edition (December 31, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0937004111
• ISBN-13: 978-0937004111
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.7 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,067,027 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars "Taking the Bully by the Horns" HELPS VICTIMS OF BULLYING, March 25, 2005

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K. Noll "bullyprevention" (Reading, PA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Taking the Bully by the Horns - Children's Version of the Best Selling Book, "Nasty People" (Paperback)

Take time to read "Taking the Bully by the Horns." As a teacher & child advocate I can tell you it will give you an insight to bullies, victims, & reactions. Physical, Verbal & Mental Bullying are covered.

Children who are being bullied mentally are under the *control* of the bully. They are confused & looking for a way out. As the same with Adult Bullying (Dr. Carter's best-seller "Nasty People"), some bullies keep us so wrapped around their finger we don't always recognize it so readily!

The book is written for ease in understanding; young people can tackle this book with success, learn why's and how's of bullying, and learn that people who are bullied don't have to be "victims," and actions--not reactions--can be taken to improve situations. This simply written book can be an effective tool against bullying and at the same time provide an insight at to why young people turn to bullying.

YES, both Victims AND Bullies have low self-esteem. Arrogance should not be mistaken for a "high self-esteem." Someone who has a "good" self-esteem has no need to CONTROL. - Dr. Jay Carter

The book contains chapters to help both the victims and bullies. Anybody who has actually READ the book knows the book does not teach you how to BE a victim. It teaches that people/kids don't *have* to BE victims, while offering helpful insight to both handling/stopping the bullying and improving self-esteem throughout the entire book.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Take the bully has helped my child tremendously, April 17, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Taking the Bully by the Horns - Children's Version of the Best Selling Book, "Nasty People" (Paperback)

My child has come under attack from other children at her school, and becoming aware of this book and listening to the advice offered was the best help we could of hoped for.Her self esteem has been boosted and she is now aware that it is not her that is the problem but rather the other children who have the real problems.I would like to personally thank Kathy Noll and Dr. Carter for caring enough to put together this much needed information.For us it has been a godsend! Thank you so much

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Useful for self-defense instructors who work with children, July 29, 1998

By A Customer

Working for many years with children who are the victims of bullying I feel I have found a useful tool explaining the reasons why some kids hurt other kids. It is difficult to identify the behaviors children should be aware of before the bullying even begins. I feel Ms. Noll has done the job very well. I would recommend this book to all my friends as well as parents in our organization. It is a "must read" for all martial arts instructors.