Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control [Hardcover]

W. Robert Nay Phd (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 157230927X | ISBN-13: 978-1572309272 | Publication Date: October 29, 2003 | Edition: 1

If anger is starting to rule your life, or someone else has urged you to "get a grip--or else," anger expert Dr. Robert Nay has a six-step plan that can help you regain control, even in the most stressful, hot-button situations. This proven program shows you how to stand up for yourself without losing your temper. Put a lid on destructive anger once and for all with fine-tuned strategies that help you:

*Figure out which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passive-aggression to all-out rage.
*Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.
*Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.
*Communicate effectively when differences arise--with your spouse, family members, colleagues, or others.
*Practice anger-management skills alone and in public until they're second nature.

For anyone who needs help with anger, Dr. Nay's program is effective, easy to learn, and--unlike other methods--brings about lasting change.

Editorial Reviews

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"'Taking charge of your anger is a journey,' Robert Nay observes. Your patients who have problems with anger control and aggression could not do better than to take this journey by reading this practical, engaging, user-friendly guide. It blends instructive anecdotes and case material with self-help suggestions that are based on empirically validated procedures. Strongly recommended!"--Donald Meichenbaum, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus, University of Waterloo; Research Director, The Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment of Victims of Violence, Miami, FL

"Rarely does one find outstanding scholarship and clinical wisdom wedded in one book. Such is the case in Dr. W. Robert Nay's exciting text. The writing style is highly engaging and the text is filled with numerous relevant examples. This book is a ‘must read' for anyone who wants to learn to utilize anger reactions more effectively, whether in personal relationships or the work world. It is a self-help goldmine from a very wise individual who is also a scholarly expert in the anger control field."--James P. McCullough, Jr., PhD, Department of Psychology, Virginia Commonwealth University

"Dr. Nay presents clear, effective, and nonjudgmental road maps for identifying and gaining control of anger. He is a skilled clinician whose work is comprehensive, and helpful. Following this program is likely to help you improve your communication and closeness with the important people in your life."--Stephen Winter, President, American Healthcare Institute

"If anger is a problem for you, Dr. Nay offers a step-by-step, practical model for what sets off your anger, what happens once you ‘lose it,' and how you can gain control. With control, anger will no longer have a negative impact on your personal, social, or work relationships. I can attest to Dr. Nay's abilities as a teacher and trainer. Now he brings his expertise directly to readers in this excellent book."--Larry B. Silver, MD, Department of Psychiatry, Georgetown University Medical Center

About the Author

W. Robert Nay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in McLean, Virginia, and Annapolis, Maryland, and Clinical Associate Professor at Georgetown University School of Medicine. The author of two psychology textbooks, Dr. Nay has taught thousands of mental health professionals nationwide to conduct anger management training with their clients. He has appeared repeatedly on national television to discuss media violence. His website is www.wrobertnay.com.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 246 pages
• Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (October 29, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 157230927X
• ISBN-13: 978-1572309272
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.2 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #431,271 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A "must-read" for taking back control over one's life, August 8, 2004

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Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control (Paperback)

Taking Charge Of Anger is a straightforward self-help guide to learning how to experience and even use anger without letting it take control. Licensed clinical psychologist W. Robert Nay covers how to identify and prepare for common triggers of anger, learning how to dampen anger or identfy and change thoughts that fuel anger, skills for staying cool under fire, establishing new habits for managing anger instead of falling back into destructive old patterns, and much more. A "must-read" for taking back control over one's life, especially for anyone whose temper has cost them a job, a great opportunity, a relationship, or more.

14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Provides a way to identify behavior issues AND gives methods to change them., January 4, 2006

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John K (Leesburg, VA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control (Paperback)

I have been greatly helped by this book. I've read others and had lackluster results mainly because they focus on identifying and classifying issues but fall short when it comes to weponizing the reader with techniques that achieve results.

This text (like some others) begins by drawing the reader in with situational examples mapped to a breakdown of the underpinning anger types. There are self assessments to help guide the reader into better insights. This is further (and nicely) developed in Chapter 4 to give powerful techniques that allowed me address my own particular issues. By the time I completed Chapters 6 and 7 I was actively engaging effective methods that had real positives impacts on my life. The methods used are sensible, easy to apply and effective.

I am a slow reader by comparison to most; however, I believe that I was served well by this. I would suggest reading this book at a pace that allows time to reflect and apply the techniques. It seems logical to me that the process of behavioral change is much slower than the process of understanding my issues, so taking the material in chunks allowed me time to manage these methods in an effective way.

"Taking Charge of Anger" is allowing me to reframe the world in away that I can effectively cope; likewise, I am better equipped to be a more comfortable person to be around.

Good luck on your particular journey.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A LOT more than common sense here..., July 7, 2005

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C. Wheatley (Maryland) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control (Paperback)

I found Dr. Nye's book on anger management extremely helpful. The book offers a pragmatic, organized approach to confronting anger that has set my life on a new track. Following the recommendations in the book has helped me not only rethink situations that affect my day, but also better see how situations affect others, and allow me to grow into a more compassionate human being. His ordered approach provides for an immediate improvement in handling anger. Each time I would reach a new roadblock in growth, the next chapter was there to help me reach the next level. In reading the book I found it vital to allow a brutally honest self-assessment in order to reap maximum benefit from Dr. Nye's recommendations - but there was no reason to cheat myself here since it was my life and my relationships that were on the line.

If you have a serious anger problem, buy this book. If you don't think you have an anger problem but can't explain why your relationships are not as good as they might otherwise be, buy this book. If you believe your heritage or your childhood experience is a cause for your problems, buy and USE this book!! Being true to yourself, read and faithfully apply Dr. Nye's book, chapter by chapter. This method works!