- Hardcover: 132 pages
- Publisher: PageFree Publishing, Inc. (March 3, 2009)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1589615786
- ISBN-13: 978-1589615786
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #9,627,116 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Tangling with Tyrants: Managing the Balance of Power at Work Hardcover – March 3, 2009
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Sometimes, it's hard for us to imagine our workplace being any different than it already is. We accept the reality of the situation and, especially in today's economy, keep trudging along and attempting to make the most out of a bad situation. Well, Deblauwe's point of view is that we don't have to just accept a negative work environment. If our boss is what's making our working lives miserable, there are solutions to the problem.
Deblauwe uses his experiences to outline what negative behavior looks like, how it affects the employee and how we can find a suitable compromise and increase the quality of our work environment. This is probably one of the most useful parts of the book, in my opinion. Deblauwe is now just another "expert" coming in and giving his opinion. He been there and done that. He's worked in Human Resources and seen other employees in the same situation. Deblauwe really seems to know what he is talking about and infuses TANGLING WITH TYRANTS with his knowledge.Read more ›
Deblauwe has been a workplace strategist and human resource consultant for years, and his experience shows. Tyrants takes the reader step-by-step through a process of determining whether or not you work for a tyrant, outlining typical tyrant behavior and our reactions to them, and providing fresh strategies for dealing with said tyrant. As Deblauwe rightly asserts "You can't change the person but you can change your approach."
Deblauwe outlines both the direct and indirect methods used by tyrants. Direct methods (as anyone who has ever been terrorized by one will recognize) include criticism and belittling, micro-management, magnification of their own power while directly or indirectly threatening your job. The indirect approach includes passive aggression, backstabbing, and taking credit for the work of others.
Deblauwe discusses emotions in the workplace and why tyrant bosses can cause us so much angst:
We perceive negative behavior from our superior as a threat; not only to how we work, but to how work makes us feel. Our feeling of self worth is difficult to discuss because emotion has no place in most corporate settings...Read more ›
In his book Tangling with Tyrants, Deblauwe focuses on the importance of feeling satisfied at work, and the need for a positive relationship with one's supervisor. The main issues to address when recognizing whether one works for a tyrant can be broken down to the bare principles of emotion, power and communication. Deblauwe contends that emotion usually affects the manner in which one handles their tyrannical boss. How one feels about work and their boss can disrupt day-to-day function in the workplace. Regarding power, many supervisors become tyrannical for a variety of reasons. Whether their supervisor is domineering or they have learned their behavior from another job, the abuse of power in a supervisor's role can be counterproductive and inefficient.
Communication appears to be the most essential component of effectively confronting a domineering boss, as the subject emerges repeatedly within the book. According to Deblauwe, the two components of effective communication are recognizing personal traits and how to develop effective conversation with your boss. This chapter, although short, clearly analyzes the personal techniques necessary to talk to your boss without creating conflict.
Deblauwe's insightful anecdotes set up meaningful interaction between the reader and book, and develop a commonality between anyone struggling with a tyrant at work.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Tony Deblauwe, the author of this book, has an interesting take on working with difficult bosses. His book is not so much centered on bullies as is the wonderful, comprehensive... Read morePublished 17 months ago by Josephine March
This book is the first one I've read on my bully boss that had reasonable suggestions. Clearly, confronting a true bully or tyrant is NOT healthly for your employment. Read morePublished on November 26, 2013 by Amazon Customer
Know how they get the energy from, remove the source, and either tame it or get the hell out of their way!Published on July 16, 2013 by Tan Suan Loke
Though it is difficult for anyone to offer solution that fits for all to manage their tyrant bosses, this book does offer meaningful suggestions which will not only offer tackling... Read morePublished on December 7, 2012 by Mohammad Rahman, MBA, PgMP, PMP
I was barely in my new job for a month before I got a blast of hot air from my boss. Of course, the door was wide open so every knew that I had been hosed. Read morePublished on June 10, 2012 by Jill of All Trades
Anyone who reports to a bad boss-or knows someone who does-understands the frustration and stress associated with the relationship. Read morePublished on May 21, 2012 by Amy Edelman
As I started ready "Tangling with Tyrants" I became aware of the magnitude the condescending and bullying bosses had on me. I just thought this was the way the work force was. Read morePublished on April 9, 2012 by REB
I found Tony's description of Tyrant bosses to be invaluable in understanding and detecting behaviors and change of behaviors of Tyrants. Read morePublished on March 27, 2012 by S. Yung