The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible [Paperback]

Dr. Ali Binazir (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 14, 2010

Quite possibly the best-reviewed women's dating book on Amazon as of 19 Oct 2011 -- 4.9/5.0 stars!

I believe that smart, successful women should have it all -- both a great career AND a rich, warm, fulfilling love life. Agreed? Then read on.

As an advisor at Harvard, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale. They either couldn't find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn't last, or had given up on dating entirely. Since these were my dear friends, this absolutely killed me.

So I decided to write a book to remedy the situation -- The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible.

This is not your grandma's dating guide. Partially because I am not your grandma, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman. You've got grad school, a high-powered career, yoga class and a dog, and sometimes it seems that there just isn't time for love. Moreover, a lot of guys seem to be less educated and less affluent than you. Grandma didn't cover that.

The Tao of Dating for Women combines ancient wisdom with modern science to give smart, successful women like yourself a heart-centered, science-based, practical guide to finding fulfillment in your love lives -- and far beyond.

The plan is simple: first, figure out who you really are and what you really want. Then find a man, attract him and keep him in your life.

I give it all to you in a progression of small, easy steps that put the fun back in dating, plus the science and reasoning behind it so you can trust where it all comes from.

Moreover, at the risk of incurring the wrath of all men, you get the insider secrets about how guys really think from someone who's been a guy professionally for over 30 years. How do men think about beauty, intimacy, commitment and sex? What's the best way to attract them? What drives them away? What makes them want to stay forever? I spill the beans. Also in there: the Magic Question; the Tiered Approach; the 3 ways to make a man fall in love with you; Rejection-Proofing; and the Passion Formula.

This isn't a book so much as it is a life plan -- the plan for you to enjoy the rest of your life. As such, I sincerely hope this is the last material on dating you'll ever need to read.

To know more, click on the 'Read first chapter FREE' button above and to the right, or use the 'Click to look inside' button. That way you can see the full table of contents and read the Introduction and Chapter 1. In the meantime, here are some potentially intriguing chapter subheadings:

*The dilemma of the career-oriented woman
*How to embrace your inner goddess
*Why men are so damn horny
*Why you need to kill the prince
*The perfect guy vs. the perfect guy for you
*The big secret about how men relate to female beauty
*Your secret gift as a woman
*Why good women get involved (and stay) in bad relationships
*How to spot bad boys
*How to love your body now
*Thirteen places to meet great men
*Long-distance relationships: why they suck
*Internet dating: perils and opportunities
*Meeting men: should you initiate or not?
*The Tiered Approach
*Fail-safe ways to make men approach you
*The Three-Man plan
*Rejection-Proofing yourself
*Use your Unfair Advantage
*The Magic Question
*The 3 ways of attracting a man
*How to be irresistible
*The Passion Formula
*3 ways to make a man fall in love with you
*What drives men away
*Getting the second date
*Balancing desire and empowerment
*The right time to have sex with a man
*How to keep a man worth keeping

Editorial Reviews

Review

'Dr Ali offers so much practical wisdom, and delivers it with deep humor and heart. The Tao of Dating is a profoundly helpful manual for women who want to feel their best and be truly fulfilled in love.' --Katherine Woodward Thomas, bestselling author of Calling in 'The One': 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

'Dr Ali has given us in The Tao of Dating the gift of the goddesses, reminding us that we women are the ones who hold the keys to our fulfillment in relationships -- that when we claim our feminine power of simply being who we are, we cannot but find the happiness we want. It's up to us to navigate the ship to the safe harbor we so desire. Thanks Ali for honouring women so deeply!' --Agapi Stassinopoulos, author of Gods And Goddesses in Love: Getting the Life & Love That's Right for You and Conversations with the Goddesses

'The Tao of Dating is, simply, the book that I wish I'd written myself. I couldn't help but marvel that one man had compiled such a wealth of dating experience and spiritual wisdom into one slim tome. I have already bought copies for my private coaching clients and could not recommend Dr. Ali's work with any greater enthusiasm. Smart women who sometimes struggle with dating have found their Bible.' --Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach and author of Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad

About the Author

Hi there! Dr Ali Binazir here, and although I'm not certain why you're reading my bio, I'm thrilled you're doing it. I'm assuming you're looking for relevant credentials so you have reason to believe what I say, so here we go:
--I've got a bachelor's degree from Harvard College. This means I can put two thoughts together and express them in a way you understand. More important, I also know how smart people (i.e. you) think and behave since I've been around a lot of them.
-- I have an M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine. This is where I learned how to diagnose and treat problems, including those relating to the human mind.
-- I have an M.Phil. from Cambridge University and was also a former consultant at McKinsey & Company. That's more training on how to diagnose & fix problems.
-- I'm a certified clinical hypnotherapist. This means after figuring out what someone's doing wrong, I have tools to actually change their behavior.

Much more important than all of that: I've been on hundreds (hundreds!) of dates. And I've had thousands (thousands!) of men write to me for the past six years, telling me what turns them on (and off) about women. Translation: I know how guys think and what they like. And in clear, practical terms, I can teach how you can be the thing they like -- even love.

I'm committed to helping you become the most deliriously happy and fulfilled version of you, and am glad to be of service.

Product Details

• Paperback: 280 pages
• Publisher: Elite Communications LLC (February 14, 2010)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0977984575
• ISBN-13: 978-0977984572
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.9 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (45 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #6,396 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #12 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Dating

More About the Author

Libraries and bookstores are like temples to me, and every time I visit one, I'm awash in wonder at the power and artistry the written word can evoke. Raised in a book-loving family in Tehran, by age 9, I had probably gone through all the interesting books in our library -- the classics of Persian literature, the myths, the proverbs, the animal fables. After the revolution, reading English books and comics not only kept me connected to my American side but also counted as a miniature act of subversion.

I always thought that someday, I'd write books, too. Yet after Harvard, UC San Diego Medical School and Cambridge, I was on a path far from writing. After a consulting stint at McKinsey & Co., I decided to spend my time writing, teaching and doing hypnotherapy, which I've been doing since 2005. One of my books is 'The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible', which as of this writing may be the highest-rated dating book on Amazon (4.96/5 stars). The other is 'The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man's Enlightened Guide to Success with Women'. If you'd like more of my writing, you may find it on my personal blog and on Huffington Post.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars for all women, however smart...., May 2, 2010

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Ruth (Cambridge, England) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible (Paperback)

Dr Ali's style is no nonsense, but gentle - like a kind brother or friend. The book uses both a scientific and spiritual approach. There are lots of good practical suggestions - for example on where to meet potential dates, and how to spot men who ultimately won't be able to measure up but also there is the spiritual Tao side which helps one to let go a little and trust in the abundance of the universe.
I thought the book had two main themes - one is to be the best version of yourself you can be for your own sake and working towards that. The other is the insight into the way men think and what is important to them and appreciate it is different from women, but no less valid. Knowing what matters to them helps you interact differently and more successfully - and to be prepared if things don't go quite as you hoped.
Like one of the other reviewers I don't fit into the professional, IQ off the chart model - but the advice and ideas put forward by Dr Ali will apply to all sorts of women. The book has helped me to understand how important it is to be myself and that being authentic is so much more attractive.
There's lots of great information in the book, and I have read it through more than once - in fact writing this has reminded me of so many good bits that I'm going to read it all again.

26 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Best dating book ever, October 30, 2011

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This review is from: The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible (Kindle Edition)

I have read many books about relationships and dating, but the Tao of Dating is one of a kind, so different and mind-blowing in its common sense and simplicity that is impossible to put it down once you start reading. To be honest, I can't understand why there aren't 200 reviews instead of the poor thirty something that can be found here.

It is by chance that I came through the Tao of Dating and I purchased it. One of those days that you feel like pressing too often the "buy with one-click" button for kindle, or any online shopping button, just because it is, well, one click. I am not a religious person at all or into new age mumbo-jumbo, so this would have never been, in theory, my first option nor the book I was looking for. Moreover, being as rational as I am, I thought, jeez just 35 reviews is not much for a dating book!

But, alas, here I am, so very much impressed and affected by this book. In fact, the book has already produced a mental shift in me, an internal one. This is so because it makes sense, and most importantly, empowers me as a woman.

I love the fact that the book is written by a man who loves and respects women, clever women specially, and understands we are wired differently from other women. Besides, most of the NLP exercises he proposes are excellent, very fulfilling and enjoyable per se, so even if they don't help us to find a man, they will still be cool to do. The sort of exercise that I/you could do to get rid of stress, for example.

The main difference between this book and most of the dating literature out there is that The Tao of Dating goes inside our head and your heart and helps you to unlock those doors that, without we knowing, we alone have locked. If they were unlocked, more good men would be approaching us and, we would see more of them immediately approaching.

Most clever career/intellectual women, the ones still single, are emotionally autistic. I have always recognised that and asked myself, where are the clues? How do I send clues? How do I read clues from/to men? Why despite my talent, mystique and femininity I am single? Why aren't a bunch of hot men at my feet? This book helps you to understand yourself/myself better and to change within, to bring the best of us, still being us, Mary, Josephine, Alissa or whomever you are.

This is the book that any good woman, with brains (or without) should read because, no matter what, it will produce a better version of yourself. To me, just that, is priceless.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars From empty dating life to overflowing with dates!, November 4, 2010

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This review is from: The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible (Kindle Edition)

Thanks to this specific book, I went from having a nonexistent dating life, with empty weeks stretching ahead to being booked every night of the week-- and in some cases, having two or three dates per evening. Best of all, I actually enjoy the process of dating now-- I have so much fun on dates.

First, Dr. Ali's straightforward talk and revelations lead you through a series of epiphanies and complete mindset-shift. You will think differently and feel differently.
Second, his pragmatic and immediately applicable tools help you behave differently.

Put this all together and the results, for me, were dramatic: I now feel like I have my pick of the litter-- a slew of fabulous guys who all clamor for my attention. If someone had told me weeks ago that this is what my dating life would be like now, I would not have believed them. And yet-- it has happened. It's not magic-- it's sound science; and we're just lucky that Dr. Ali has packaged it all together in a fun, easy-to-use guide.

His guide is so valuable that I re-read it periodically, because it's so easy to go back to old habits of mind. And each time, I feel like I've gone through a refresher. I feel old, limiting thought-patterns falling away and a new dose of enlightenment settling in.