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Teach Only Love: The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing

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This book is a combination of really beautiful stories and helpful ideas. I thought it was very well written and also much more complex and meaty than some of Dr. Jampolsky's other books, which often seem simplistic and repetitive. I also like the way the book looks and feels and for a paperback, the font is large and easy to read, which is nice. I also thought that this book laid out the principles of Attitudinal Healing in a helpful way. Each one is explained and there are stories and examples to show how an individual can apply the principles in their own lives. It's also inspirational because you come away feeling the importance of our relationships with each other and how we can be a positive influence in the world.

Just as a wise person won't fight fire with fire, one is ill-advised to fight hatred with hatred - whether it's sexism, racism, or any other -ism. Love IS the universal solvent, which Jampolsky proves again and again in this book, with stories and principles, examples and suggestions. Rather than doing battle with our demons, we're enouraged to RELEASE them. This book embodies the best of a Judeo-Christian outlook without being preachy or religious.

While reading this book, a particularly compelling passage jumped out at me. The gist of it is this: In every encounter we have with another human being, that person is either offering love to us or in need of love from us. In that instant, I became a better person.

Not long after, I walked into my gym and saw Bill, a member I knew fairly well, doing standing calf raises with his back to me. Impulsively, I wrapped my weight belt around his forehead as a goofy way of saying hello. He was not pleased. He whipped around and, in so many words, most of which were unprintable, told me he would punch my face in if I ever did that again.

Instead of reacting on the same level of consciousness--"Oh, yeah? Take your best shot, you jerk!"--I thought, Cool! Here's my chance to see if this love stuff really works! I immediately began radiating love from my heart and bathing Bill in its healing glow. I also tried to apologize, but he turned away, muttering angrily.

After hanging up my jacket in the locker room, I headed to the pull-up bar and began my workout. I dropped down from the bar just in time to see Bill striding purposefully toward me from the other side of the gym. "I mean it, Phil," he fumed. "If you ever do that again, I'll take you out to the parking lot and pummel you." With that, he spun around and stormed away.

This time, I followed him, pumping love instead of iron. "Bill," I called out, catching up to him. "I'm very sorry. I had no idea you would be so upset. It won't happen again." I continued apologizing until he turned to face me. "My sister used to do stuff like that to me," he sputtered. "And I hated it."

Bingo. Bill's outburst had nothing to do with me; I had inadvertently triggered a painful childhood memory. What happened in the next moment was astonishing. The heavy, negative energy that had enveloped him, the almost palpable rage that had engulfed him, vanished. It was as if a magician had uttered "Abracadabra!" and had replaced a violent thunderstorm with sunny skies. Instantaneously.

Bill cut me off in mid-apology. "Don't worry about it," he said calmly, dismissing the whole incident with a wave of his hand. "No big deal." An hour later, we were both in the locker room, preparing to leave. "So long, Phil," he called out. "Have a good day."

Wow. If I had responded to Bill's anger in kind, the confrontation could have escalated out of control. From that day forward, the tension would have been thick between us. Even worse, my enjoyment of going to the gym every morning would have been tinged with dread. Instead, love healed the situation, it healed our relationship, and it very well might have healed the pain he had been carrying around all those years.

May you choose love in every moment. It is a wonderful place to live. After all, divine intelligence does not keep score by how many possessions you accumulate but by how much love is in your heart. Why wait another minute to begin living that truth?

Even though this book was written several years ago...I find that when I return to it, even now, it is truly like coming home, like the warmth of visiting an old friend. Filled with wisdom and spiritual insight, it inspires and creates inner peace by reminding us all that our essence is, indeed, love...which "doesn't care what you call it...love just is. It unfolds endlessly and beautifully upon itself." Thank you, Dr. J.

In this slim volume there are all the words that we need to convey the idea that if we teach only about and with love there is no need for anything else. We are love and when we teach with that expression, only good can result. Easy to reach and one to keep for your library. It is a classic.

I have enjoyed and learned alot about love and it's meaning for all situations. I have learned to change my attitiude but I started that before reading the book. The use of a middle medication has helped me to slow down and not feel the anger or rage in my heart and mind... I am greatful to this author for helping me to change my attitude without going into counseling for assistance...

This is a great hands on book,no religion needed,just add LOVE.

The first few chapters held great promise, but this book got pretty weird quick. Clinics that teach only love are a great idea, but I'd rather have their workbook filled with application and result oriented material than this "guru's" personal history..."man". To save yourself a read, imagine someone you respect and trust, possibly more than anyone you really know. And they say to you, "In the moment of choice, when you choose how your heart will deal with a situation--use only love." When walk away from them, believe them wholeheatedly for the rest of your life and take time to remember and apply their words daily. Then, spare yourself the read on this book--it get's weird fast... Writing about your 60s mind expanding experiences? Come on, the movie Ghandi teaches more about love than this. (I threw the book away.)