Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation [Paperback]

Eric Ludy (Author), Leslie Ludy (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 29, 2005

No parent wants to admit that their child-even their well-educated, well-grounded, Christian child-could be having consensual sex before graduating middle school. Promise rings, parental contracts and disease warnings provide but meager defense against a culture overrun with weapons of mass seduction.

While many factors contributing to the misguided messages received by children stand outside the realm of parental control-music videos, film, fashion-others, like the meaning of true love, can, and should be fostered at home. Eric and Leslie Ludy, authors of the bestselling When God Writes Your Love Story, present the shocking, unvarnished realities of today's sexual climate but they balance the bitter pill with a large dose of hopeful, practical advice for parents.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (March 29, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 084994256X
• ISBN-13: 978-0849942563
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #618,208 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Yes, I realize I look more like a nineteen year old golf caddy than I do a credible literary voice. I'm thirty seven and I still struggle with growing facial hair (I'm just glad I wasn't born Amish). I'm one of those guys that always wanted to be a football player, not a writer. However, I had a mom who was willing to give it to me straight - she told me, "Eric dear, you just aren't built for that sort of thing!" When I asked what sort of thing I was built for, she paused, considered it, and then said, "Well honey, you are built more like a golfer!"

That sort of says it right there. I'm not a fireman, a mighty business mogul, a black ops special forces warrior - I'm a writer (the golfer of the job world). Though it might not sound very epic, I absolutely love my life and I love what I do.

I think if you were to amass the total of my published work in book form thus far it would be approximately 3,300 pages. Now that number is a bit inflated due to the fact that a good chunk of those pages were penned in collaboration with my wife, Leslie. However, since Scripture says that we are "one", I figure its perfectly ethical to claim those 3,300 pages as my own.

I (along with Leslie) currently have 13 books published. We have another three waiting in the interminable publisher birth canal. I have authored five books for Multnomah/Random House publishers. "When God Writes Your Love Story: the ultimate approach to guy/girl relationships" is the book I'm probably most known for. It spent 18 months on the Christian best-seller list and ranks as one of the top three Christian relationship books of all time.

I have three books with Thomas Nelson publishers. My favorite of that collection is one entitled "Meet Mr. Smith". It's a hilarious book about "How to find Great S-x." The book hasn't done particularly well, but I think its a winner (Spoken like a true author).

We have another four books with Harvest House Publishers. And out of this collection is my newest work being released September 2008. It's entitled "The Bravehearted Gospel" and it packs quite a punch. I'm sure I'll find out who my friends really are when that book hits the shelves.

I live in the charming little town of Windsor, Colorado. I have the world's greatest wife and I have three precious little kiddos (Hudson, Harper, and Kipling) that bring a great deal of happiness to my life.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

17 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must-have for parents, April 11, 2005

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Ransom (Tennessee) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation (Paperback)

If you're a parent trying to negotiate the troubled waters of helping your teen to not only not succumb to sexual temptation but to actually be EXCITED about having a love life that's better than anything a sex-starved world has to offer, this is the best book you'll find. Read this and learn a ton from the Ludys.

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A new way of looking at relationships, June 20, 2006

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Skye (Buffalo, NY) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation (Paperback)

I've gotta say flat out that this is a wonderful book. This is the new, creative perspective that I have been seeking, as a parent, to lead my children to purity. This is the answer that you and I have been looking for.

Please note that this is a book based on a Christian viewpoint. It's very "churchy" with lots of Christian jargon. If you aren't a strong Christian then you're going to think this book is silly and get turned off - don't waste your money.

On the other hand, if you do consider yourself a strong Christian parent, you may love this book. This book offers a paradigm shift in parenting. This challenges most of your existing views on what parenting looks like with respect to your children's relationships with the opposite gender.

To paraphase the couple hundred pages of this book with two lines, this book reminds us that the existing parenting rules of today reflect an Old Testament perspective (don't have sex, don't do this, don't do that) but Christ has come and shown us a New Testament perspective (develop a relationship with God) and that is a view that will ensure long-lasting purity.

I have to admit that I don't agree with everything they say in this book. Sometimes it seems over the top and the churchy comments get kinda thick. Regardless of these misgivings, I TREASURE this book. This goes down in my top ten list of ways to live your life. Sandwich it on your bookshelf between C.S. Lewis and Keith Green. I only wish I'd found this earlier.

Along similar lines is another book called "Every Man's Marriage" by Stever Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. Similar view to what marriage is about. First read the marriage book and perfect your relationship with your spouse so you can be a role model, then read "Teaching True Love..." and give the gift of a perfect relationship to your child.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Read This Book!, August 3, 2006

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LilMissChz "Laura" (North East, MD) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation (Paperback)

This book is a MUST read for any parent. It doesn't matter if your children are still in the womb or ready to start driving... GET THIS BOOK! I will be eternally grateful to the man who put this book into my hands with the instructions "Read this." I did read it. Every last word. It changed my life and its changing the way I raise my kids and parent them. This book gave me revelation that I was living my own life in a wrong manner, outside the will of God. I had been raised with a certain set of values and beliefs that were contrary to God's will for my life. Now God is using this book, this teaching and growing me in a profound new way. It has changed my relationship with Jesus in a dramatic way and has taken my parenting on a completely different level. My relationship with my children has already changed. I am seeing greater love, communication and a new dedication and purpose to their walks with the Lord.

Along with this book, I have been reading "When God Writes Your Love Story" also by Eric & Leslie Ludy. I encourage you to check out all their books. These are amazing authors who have lived and loved in a different way. They have allowed God to be the instrument to bring them to one another. I too have purposed and dedicated my life entirely to the Lord and have surrendered the pen of my life to Him. He is now scripting not just my love story... but my parenting, my work relationships and all interactions I have from this point forward. Once you read this book, pass it on to another parent who is struggling to bring the things of God into their home.

I honestly believe if we live according the will of God, we can change an entire generation. With teaching such as this and other books like it, we can take back the families we've lost.

Read this book.