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The Technique of the Love Affair: By a Gentlewoman

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Once, I had a friend who had men falling all over her. Somehow, she knew how their brains were hard-wired. In fact, she would tell me, "do X, then Y, then Z, and he will call." And, (though he'd never called before), he called! For the past 10 years I've been trying to figure out what magic formula she used.

This book explains it. Of course, not all men are the same, and the book adds the disclaimer that the techniques suggested work on men with rather conventional views toward women. But, it adds, most men are rather similar in what attracts them. (After all, how many men do you know who wouldn't date Meg Ryan?)

The book that explains in entertaining, elegant detail the gameplan underlying your grandmother's advice on romance- and shows it was right on the money - Moore doesn't say why it works- she just explains how it works- and you instinctively know she's right- first because it all chimes with every woman's true experience, and secondly because its plainly obvious this woman is a master- even her prose is quietly seductive. I can't believe my luck in finding such a book- So unsentimental, so sensible, so absolutely right. Definitely for 'Rules' girls- but leaves the paltry inelegant modern equivilent in the dust- Moore makes the 'Rules' look just plain cheap.

I wish that I could make this book required reading for every 16-year-old girl in the world; it might save her a lot of heartache! It's a valuable addition to the romantic arsenal of any woman, no matter what her age.

Doris Langley-Levy Moore was, and is, ahead of her time. Rather than losing herself in sappy sentimentality and wanton sensuality, she casts a very critical eye across the entire romantic battlefield. With a steady hand and experienced eye, she draws out a method of attack guaranteed to deliver results for the woman lucky enough to open this book's pages. But reader beware: the straight path isn't necessarily the easiest to follow. Many of the lessons Langley-Levy Moore teaches require a level of restraint virtually unheard of in today's instant-gratification society. Ah, but to the victor go the spoils...read on!

Long before John Gray or Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider wrote their best sellers, Doris Langley-Moore was advising young women about the art of romance.

Langley-Moore's writing is clear, precise and classy, and is even more relavent today than when it was written. She breaks down the art of attraction, details how to develop feminine wiles, and explains why men reject 'nice' women. TOTLA is written as a dialogue between two characters which allows her to address areas of ignorance without insulting the reader.

The editor's notes however are highly annoying and detract, rather than add, from the wisdom within this book. Skip right over them if you can.

Why do people post who have NOT read the book they are writing a review for?! Like the poster below. Don't bother seeking Dorothy Parker's review of Technique of the Love Affair, like I did, thinking Parker maybe wrote more, because it's IN THE BOOK! And is, like, a paragraph long, at best; more than half is quoted on the very page you're reading!

That rant aside, I love this book. While one should take its advice as lightly as its tone, it has invaluable tips for relating to men, especially the majority who, as Moore describes, are conformists congratulating themselves for being exceptional individuals, ie, supremely attached to the particular status symbols and labels of their class. Which, as an influence in paramour/mate selection, is NOT to be underestimated, personal experience has shown me. Moore's advice has been especially enlightening during some perplexing encounters with the male species; I am increasingly indebted to her as I get older. Doris Langley Moore deserves more appreciation!

This book is so elegantly and beautifully written that the words just jump off the pages. The good sense that is written is self-evident - i.e you don't read it thinking "oh thats not how I feel" but simple truths, well-written just resonate with the reader. Like other books of simple truths this book is timeless and can be applied easily to the "modern male" - I'm sure men would not be overjoyed to realise how predictable they are, but my friends, you are, but then women are too. This shows a woman how to play the dating game. However, I do think it is interesting to note that it was written when Miss Langley-Moore was 22 and she later divorced her husband of twenty years and ended up remaining single for the rest of her life. She seemed to find her greatest interest and joy in the fashion world and in writing. So, perhaps, on a human level "playing the game" isn't spiritually satisfying in the long run - even the author admits it is "hard to do but worth the candle". She seems to have decided in her forties it wasn't worth the candle after all. However, in terms of staggering effectiveness this works. I can attest to that and it also gives a woman some good boundaries to work within so one doesn't end up a victim of their emotions. Its also really good guide for getting those men you may previously have thought were out of your league. I can assure you they are not - in fact the more successful and intelligent the more they seem to respond to these techniques!

Wonderful book, not very politically correct though. What I really loved about this book is that it provided a framework on how to be, rather than a detailed list of rules. It seemed to recommend easing into ones natural state with time rather than a indefinite charade. I regularly re-read it to help with my dating practices.

The top book on male-female relationships ever! Originally published in the 1920's it's the great great great grandmother of them all.

Yes. This clever, intelligent, honest, ray of light should be required reading for all girls and women!

I may start buying stacks of copies and handing them out to strangers, it's that good.

A charming, intelligent, dangerous little book (if you happen to be male). I only wish I'd read it before I met my first wife.

A Gentleman

Thank you Dorothy Parker for your gracious statement,like it or not men have a dna about them as Steve Harvey states,they love the hunt and chase of women,every woman needs to get this fact deep in their being for self respecting survival and this book opens your eyes to that no matter what era and events that have taken place in any century,this book will be passed to my daughters,it belongs on Oprah's book reading list.