Teenage Boys: Surviving and Enjoying These Extraordinary Years [Paperback]

Bill Beausay (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 1, 1998

It’s Time to Show Up for Your Son in a Big Way.
A teenage boy’s world is a dynamic, unpredictable place. That’s why stringent parenting “techniques” don’t always bring about the results we expect. Though we know there’s a lot riding on our ability to wisely parent teenage sons, it’s hard to know the best way to proceed–and parents are often overwhelmed by the challenge. But now, in this fun and down-to-earth guide, Bill Beausay offers six fresh principles that can help you overcome your fears and powerfully shape the man inside your teenage boy.

BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR TEENAGE SON.
You know that you need to be involved in your son’s life. But just being there physically isn’t enough. Parents who enjoy the most success in raising teen boys are present in dramatic, colorful, in-your-face ways. Teenage Boys! Will help you discover how you can develop a clear, do-able plan that will significantly impact your teen’s life–and your own.

NOW WITH ANSWERS TO THE MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED
QUESTIONS ABOUT PARENTING TEEN BOYS.

EXPANDED TO ADDRESS THE ISSUES THAT MATTER MOST
TO TEENAGE BOYS AND THEIR PARENTS.

INCLUDES ADVICE FOR TWO-PARENT FAMILIES, SINGLE PARENTS,
GRANDPARENTS, AND STEPPARENTS.

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal

Beausay and Gurian are both clinical psychotherapists, previously published authors, and the fathers of boys. In their new works, they focus on the development of adolescent boys, sharing a concern for boys' complete growth?physical, spiritual, emotional, and religious?to adulthood. The books have different tones, however, and are directed at different audiences. Beausay addresses the parents of teenagers, assuring them that they will survive. Teenage Boys! is very upbeat with a flexible, not prescriptive, approach; suggestions are practical ideas for parents to try. Gurian's book is less a parenting book, although it will interest parents of adolescent boys, and more a work on adolescent male psychology. A Fine Young Man draws from biology, psychology, and sociology to paint a detailed picture of the tasks an adolescent boy needs to undertake to become a mature adult. Although the volume is somewhat scholarly in tone, no detailed bibliography is provided. Gurian helps his readers understand the teenager in depth, but his ideas are sometimes subject to challenge. Teenage Boys! is highly recommended for all parenting collections. A Fine Young Man is recommended for collections in adolescent psychology and larger parenting collections.?Kay L. Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD
Copyright 1998 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From the Inside Flap

It?s Time to Show Up for Your Son in a Big Way.
A teenage boy?s world is a dynamic, unpredictable place. That?s why stringent parenting ?techniques? don?t always bring about the results we expect. Though we know there?s a lot riding on our ability to wisely parent teenage sons, it?s hard to know the best way to proceed?and parents are often overwhelmed by the challenge. But now, in this fun and down-to-earth guide, Bill Beausay offers six fresh principles that can help you overcome your fears and powerfully shape the man inside your teenage boy.

BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR TEENAGE SON.
You know that you need to be involved in your son?s life. But just being there physically isn?t enough. Parents who enjoy the most success in raising teen boys are present in dramatic, colorful, in-your-face ways. Teenage Boys! Will help you discover how you can develop a clear, do-able plan that will significantly impact your teen?s life?and your own.

NOW WITH ANSWERS TO THE MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED
QUESTIONS ABOUT PARENTING TEEN BOYS.

EXPANDED TO ADDRESS THE ISSUES THAT MATTER MOST
TO TEENAGE BOYS AND THEIR PARENTS.

INCLUDES ADVICE FOR TWO-PARENT FAMILIES, SINGLE PARENTS,
GRANDPARENTS, AND STEPPARENTS.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: WaterBrook Press (August 1, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 157856042X
• ISBN-13: 978-1578560424
• Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.8 x 9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #494,517 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

I am a writer and speaker originally from Ohio, but now splitting my time between Houston and Denver Colorado. All my kids (who were the inspirations for all my early books) are grown and gone. Jake is an attorney in Columbus, OH. Jessie is full time mom (and one of the best I've ever seen), and Zac is a pilot for Continental Express airlines. They're all great people and I'm proud of them.

I continue to write and speak more than ever, and have found myself completely challenged by many questions and opportunities. If I could boil down all that I do into a sentence it would be this: I help people figure out what they want, help them get a vision for it and make it real. I want people to live great, successful lives: be free of limitations from the way they think, dream bigger, go farther, have a more balanced life, enjoy being daring and trying new things, and fulfilling the urge to help others and make a difference.

i have many products that I market as "toolkits" on my website. I take an unorthodox approach. For example, I don't tell you you need more confidence...I show you how to create it. I don't tell you you need to communicate better, I show you how to motivate and direct high potential young people, how to solve fear, how to get past the "shoulda, woulda, coulda's" in life, how to make a comeback and fresh start in life......and much more. Check me out at www.beausay.com.

You have my word on one thing: Develop an online relationship with me and I'll fill your heart and mind with some can-do ideas and a technology to get you there.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

50 of 51 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring and thought-provoking guide., November 7, 1998

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[e-mail] (Portland, Oregon) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teenage Boys: Surviving and Enjoying These Extraordinary Years (Paperback)

The sons of Bill Beausay, author of Teenage Boys, are lucky to have Bill as their father. With wit, compassion, concern, and wisdom, the author gives us advice and sample scenarios for those of us living with the most difficult, yet potentially delightful of people, teenage boys. I enjoyed the book immensely.

Bill wants us all to remember the power we have to affect our sons. He provides sample dialogues with which to work through problem areas. With sections entitled A Parenting Plan for Man-Making, Shaping the Inner Man at Home, Shaping a Man Ready for Life, and Shaping a Man's Soul, Bill Beausay is concerned with the big questions in life. He wants the absolute best for his sons and describes many of his own experiences raising teenage boys.

In the final chapter " Dreamers and Leaders", the author reprints a letter he published in his newspaper column "Winners". The letter is to the parents of a young man Bill observes in the checkout line of a store.

" I saw your son today and felt compelled to write you this letter. I wouldn't have even noticed him had not my eyes accidentally caught his. Something seemed vacant there. Nothing about him really spoke of life, of energy, or of distinction. I was overcome by the sense that you, as his folks, should see this moment.

... there's not a reason in the world for him to blend in like he does, everything about him is unique and alive and wonderful. I'm certain that unless you tell him, nobody will.

You can teach him to dream bigger, hope larger, see wider, think more... Ask him to stand erect, chance a look into another's eyes, smile and laugh loudly. It's a mom and dad's job to find the spark in a young man's heart and carefully guard it. You can cradle his hopes and help them come to be..."

I bought a copy for a good friend with hopes that it will help him with his 14 year-old son. He's delighted with the book. I wish Teenage Boys had been around in the 50's for my Dad to read.

18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellant book on teenagers based on sound principals, August 24, 1999

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[e-mail] (Bozeman, Montana) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teenage Boys: Surviving and Enjoying These Extraordinary Years (Paperback)

This book gives you a bright and new outlook on dealing with your Son. Mr. Beausay's methods are compationate and yet very effective. The secret is to use it like a refrence book. Read it over and over again always going back when you need to review. You will find a new perspective every time. Very interesting reading with the Bible as a large source of it's wisdom.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Non-Christians look elsewhere, October 4, 2010

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Zenmom - See all my reviews

This review is from: Teenage Boys: Surviving and Enjoying These Extraordinary Years (Paperback)

I picked this book up at a bookstore, and after flipping through it, found it interesting enough to buy. I checked the author info for his creds: hmmm, clinical psychotherapist, best-selling author, seminar producer. Okay, sounds good. So I was really disappointed to get into the book and find so many references to Scripture and the Christian faith. I wish the religious slant had been mentioned on the book jacket so those of us who do not share the author's beliefs would be able to make a better decision. No offense to the guy, you know, good for him being a Christian. But if I wanted to be preached at I'd go to church.

Having said that, I did my best to read around the Bible references, and found some good insights and ideas. I'm still kinda miffed about the whole thing, though. Miffed enough to write my first review on Amazon.