Telling Each Other the Truth [Paperback]

William Backus (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 2006

Readers will gain insight in speaking truth in love, learn to avoid manipulating others, and realize the freedom of saying "no."

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About the Author

WILLIAM BACKUS was founder of the Center for Christian Psychological Services, a licensed consulting psychologist, and an ordained minister. Dr. Backus passed away in June 2005.

Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Bethany House Publishers (February 1, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0764201573
• ISBN-13: 978-0764201578
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.3 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #401,428 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

William D. Backus was founder of the Center for Christian Psychological Services, a licensed consulting psychologist, and an ordained minister. Dr. Backus passed away in June 2005.

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22 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars One of the most useful books you'll ever read, December 30, 1999

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Wayne Dobratz (Hampton, Iowa) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Telling Each Other the Truth (Paperback)

Dr. William Backus has done a great service in writing this book. Many big problems start as small problems, problems that could be solved with proper communication and unconditional love.

Dr. Backus writes that by far the most frequently violated command of Jesus is "When someone sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone." Human nature wishes to tell anyone and everyone else but the person who needs to be confronted lovingly with the truth.

The author uses his experience as a Minister and a Clinical Psychologist to guide the reader through the process of loving confrontation. Chapter titles include: "How to have a good clean fight." "How to Handle Critical People" and "How to say no."

The only qualification you need to benefit from this book is to be a member of the human race who routinely interacts with people. No matter who you are or what your station in life, you will benefit from Dr. Backus' insights.

"Wear the old coat and buy the new book."

27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Experience Freedom in Communicating With Others!, October 6, 2003

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Michael Taylor "Michael Taylor" (Indian Trail NC) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Telling Each Other the Truth (Paperback)

Backus' book is a refreshing read to communicate openly and lovingly with others and avoid manipulation.

Among the many important points covered in the book include:

1. When we lose integrity, we become a fraction of the person God created us to be.
2. We fail to receive because we fail to ask.
3. Do's and dont's for criticizing others.
4. Characteristics of loving speech.
5. God does not guarantee we will always be around people who will always act properly.
6. Adding your own self-criticism to a person's critical remarks can stop people in their tracks.
7. Do not pride yourself on not making requests.
8. Attention and compliments are nice, but they do not determine our self-worth.

Read and be encouraged to be less manipulative of others and loving them more!

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Best, Most Practical Book About Communicating, March 12, 2001

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Edward J. Vasicek "Author, pastor, columnist" (Kokomo, IN USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Telling Each Other the Truth (Paperback)

As a minister of 31 years, I first read this book about a dozen years ago. It helped me communicate better to my wife, friends, and congregation.

Since that time, I have loaned copies to numerous people I have counseled (I have a stack of these), and many have been helped through putting this book in practice.

Backus encourages direct and honest communication. He deals with the lies we tell ourselves that keep us from speaking truthfully and directly. Besides aiding in communication skills, the principles mentioned will also increase personal sincerity and integrity.

Practical, easy to read, illustrated with case studies, this is a must read for all Christians.