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Telling Yourself the Truth

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The step by step information in this book changed my life. Even as a faithful Christian and successful business owner, I had a significant problem with anger. My wife, family and friends and have seen a dramatic change. This powerful book addresses the negative self talk that almost all people have. More importantly it gives biblical instruction on how to stop it and the destruction that it causes.

Backus' book is an excellent read for knowing how to properly handle our thoughts and reactions to others.

Among the points Backus covers include:

1. We do not have to strive for the approval of others.
2. When beliefs change, behavior will change.
3. Truths about anger and pleasing others.
4. We are not victims, we can make choices!
5. Be careful of manipulation.
6. Misbeliefs and truths about being indispensible.
7. Truths about taking chances.
8. Unlearning old thinking.

Bakcus accurately states that much of what happens to us results from the way we think.

Read and be encouraged to change your inappropriate thoughts!

To improve the quality of your life improve your thought life. The truth sets you free from depression, guilty, confusion, and anxiety. This book shows you how to replace self-defeating thoughts with healthy thoughts that build you up. It is based on principles from the Bible.
We're told early in the book, "you'll believe what you tell yourself" (p. 18). Consequently it is important not to be decieved. Self-deception can hold a person back from living the abundant life Jesus sacrificed to give us.
In laying the background for the rest of the book, he tells us on page 21:
"In emotional and mental health, what you believe is all important. It makes a difference what you believe. Other people, circumstances, events and material things are not what make you happy. What you believe about these things is what makes you happy or unhappy."
Actions grow out of beliefs. You will behave, based on what you believe. In fact, the chemicals in the physcial brain are affected by the thoughts one thinks.
Chapter 3 does a masterful job of explaining how negative thoughts are deceptive. In the chapter's summary, he writes, "Remember, any thoughts that reflect hopelessness, desperation, hate, fear, bitterness, jealousy, or envy are the words and thoughts generated by demonic falsehood" (p. 35).
Chapter 5 contains a nugget on effective prayer, "Instead of praying the problem, pray the answer" (p. 61).
The book takes a negativity and exaimes how it is a deception. For example, anger or fear. As a person realizes the truth, the negative is replaced with the positive.
Read this book and grow healthy mentally.

I chose this book for a Ladie's Bible Study at our church because we had really lost a lot of energy and excitement in our Tuesday morning studies. The truth in this book has truly set many of our ladies free to honestly face what's in their lives and to still believe that God is in control. They are beginning to have the courage to face circumstances & people and realize that their value doesn't come from those things. William Backus and Marie Chapian have laid out a plan of action - identifying misbeliefs in your life, arguing against them and replacing them with the truth - that has breathed new life back into many ladies at our church. I haven't even been able to keep enough of them in stock because they have been giving them to their friends and family! The results have been tremendous - they are learning how to deal with real issues like intimidation, low self-esteem and wrong expectations and they are learning that God is FOR them!

Probably one of the best self-help books you could possibly read. This was recommended to me by a friend to help me deal with a relationship, and it has gone far beyond that. Not only can I deal with my relationship now, I can deal with all aspects of life. I have a choice in how, with the Lord's help, I deal with EVERYTHINIG. I can choose to be angry or not. I can choose to be sad or not. Please, go buy this book!!

After reading a countless number of christian self help books, I still struggled with much anxiety, fear, depression & anger. I finally broke down & went to see a christian counselor. He recomended that I read this book. Although I got the version with the workbook included. I don't know if this one has the workbook. Anyway, for me this book provided me with ground-breaking truths of God's word & helped me to identify the silly & absurd misbeliefs I had been telling myself for years! I would reccomend that everyone read this book. If your honest a bout wanting to change & willing to devote an hour or so each day for six weeks, this book WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!!

This book was given to me, by my Pastor, nineteen years ago after I suffered an immense personal tragedy. I have read and re-read it a dozen times and continue to be amazed by it's healing and straight-forward approach. No matter what situation you find yourself in, this book can help you evaluate your emotions honestly and bring clarity. THIS IS THE GREATEST TOOL FOR OVERCOMING DEPRESSION I HAVE EVER COME ACROSS.

I read a library full of self-help books before i read this, and collectively, they don't even compare to this brilliant work by Chapian and Backus. i was nearly destroyed after a relationship ended that meant the world to me. i sought the help of my church, family and friends and nothing had the profound, positive effect on my life that this book has. i have no doubt whatsoever that these folks were truely inspired by God to write this. the message in this book has set me free to live a happy, content life again. read it and and it can do the same for you.

Where does BACKUS come up with all this wisdom? This book helps the reader to identify the source and causes of their unpleasant emotions, and relationships. Then, he teaches the reader how to identify the lies s/he been believing, and by replacing them with the truth, the cause is changed, effectively changing the affect. (One ends up with more positive emotions, permanently!) This book also teaches the reader how to avoid being miserable in relationships, explaining how putting others under the law, The Gospel of Yourself, which operates over and above the "The Written expectations of the Gospel of Christ", (This book is written from a Christian religious perspective but is an excellent tool for ANYONE), is guaranteed to make you miserable. Backus goes on to explain how this attitute, putting others under the law which operates over and above the Gospel, makes others miserable too, and that, by not knowing that, you won't even understand why. This is a paraphrase of only ONE of the MULTITUDES of lies that people in the world believe, that keeps them in a perpetually miserable state. Would you like to stop being miserable? Then, please, get yourself this book. (Or you may invest in Truth Talk, also by Backus. It helps the reader dismember the lies s/he believes both in dealing with oneself, and in relationships.) This book in an absolutely excellent work. I feel it ought to be required reading for everyone.

Reading this book, was a catalyst for me to be set free of depression which had a hold of me for nearly two years. Thank God for William Backus and Marie Chapian.