At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it's often not what you say but how you say it that counts.
Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller You Just Don't Understand. In That's Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose—are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored—but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood.
At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen's classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn't said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.
Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. Her books include the New York Times bestsellers You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, Talking from 9 to 5, and You Were Always Mom's Favorite!. She has written for and been featured in numerous major newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Newsweek, USA Today, the Washington Post, and Time.
It's a great book to learn how to communicate to others.
Her prose is clear and concise, and the book is organized so that the later concepts build upon the earlier ones in a helpful and logical way.
Everyone will carry away a better understanding of how we communicate with this little gem of a guide.
I bought this book because it was the assigned reading for a non-verbal communication class. I'm so glad it was assigned. Read morePublished 1 month ago by K. Goodwin
I think that they need to have people read this book in high school! Between conversations in life, love, and family, this book is the best.Published 1 month ago by Kourtney
Clear and concise; easy to follow chapters; and, I have enjoyed the ‘already knew information’... but, simply stated presentation.
I would recommend this book (and have).
Some people dig on Tannen's writing style, full of hypothetical situations, but I find it distracts and waters-down her findings. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Nathan Price
It's a great book to learn how to communicate to others. This is great especially for relationships and learned to be an effective communicator.Published 17 months ago by Priyam Bhargava
A great gift for newly weds to uncover gender based language and expressiready his book can clear up miscommunications between men and women.Published 18 months ago by pw
We heard about this author from a friend. I was sceptical but thought it was worth a read. I admit that I have been very surprised. Read morePublished 18 months ago by Bill P
I had to buy this for a class, and I'm glad I did anyways...this was one of the first books for a class I actually enjoyed reading and will be holding onto for quite some time. Read morePublished 20 months ago by gmbyphotographer
I absolutely loved this book from the first page. It's highly relevant to pretty much everyone, and has great examples put into situational context. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Kelli K. Carrington