Written as an engaging story, this book shows how mistaken views can cause people to misread situations and exacerbate the issues they wish to improve. Arguing that it is only after they understand themselves and get their internal house in order that they can correctly confront external conflicts, the book shows what can be done to make that happen, and how to make inner peace a potent tool for achieving outer satisfaction.
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The premise of this follow-up to Leadership and Self-Deception is simple: people whose hearts are at peace do not wage war, whether they're heads of state or members of a family. In this semi-fictional narrative ("inspired by actual events") illustrating the principles of achieving peace, the setting is a two-day parent workshop at an Arizona-based wilderness camp for out-of-control teenagers, but the storyline is a mere setting for an instruction manual. Workshop facilitators Yusuf al-Falah, a Palestinian Arab whose father was killed by Israelis in 1948, and Avi Rozen, an Israeli Jew whose father died in the Yom Kippur War, use examples from their domestic lives and the history of their region to illustrate situations in which the normal and necessary routines of daily life can become fodder for conflict. Readers observe this through the eyes of one participant, a father whose business is in nearly as much trouble as his teenage son. The usefulness of the information conveyed here on how conflicts take root, spread and can be resolved more than compensates for the pedestrian writing.
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The Arbinger Institute is a scholarly consortium and management training and consulting firm. Its members have solved a profound and age-old problem of the human sciences--the problem of "self-deception." Arbinger is comprised of scholars, business leaders and professionals who write about the implications of this solution for organisational, community and family life.
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92 of 95 people found the following review helpful
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My husband and I were days away from divorce. We were each given a copy of this book the night before our court appearance by a dear friend. He could see how much pain both of us were in and wanted desperately to help us. He had already attended The Arbinger Institutes training and had read all of their books; most recently, this book. He knew how powerful its message is to the right heart.
There was a lot that transpired during the 18 hours preceding the court hearing. A lot of this book was read. Hearts were softened & changed and two prideful, selfish individuals became new people. I don't use this lightly when I say it helped facilitate a miracle in our lives. We have a long ways to go, but at least we will be traveling it together and we now have hope for ourselves, and for our marriage and "The Anatomy of Peace" has much to do with it.
There was a lot that transpired during the 18 hours preceding the court hearing. A lot of this book was read. Hearts were softened & changed and two prideful, selfish individuals became new people. I don't use this lightly when I say it helped facilitate a miracle in our lives. We have a long ways to go, but at least we will be traveling it together and we now have hope for ourselves, and for our marriage and "The Anatomy of Peace" has much to do with it.
34 of 34 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
I stayed up until 3:00 in the A.M. the day that I received the book and finished it that same day. It's the prequel to Leadership & Self Deception, and it continues to develop many of the same principles. In this book, however, they step away from the business atmosphere, and focus on changing yourself to effect change in relationships in the home, and between nations. I am confident that if everyone in the world read and understood the principles in this set of books, it would literally solve most all of the world's problems; problems at homes and with families, problems in the workplace, and problems between societies and governments. At the very least this book will change your perspective and change your life. It's due out in August, and I recommend it to everyone. [...]
47 of 50 people found the following review helpful
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I read this while taking a train to a meeting, and when I got back on the train, I re-read the entire book all over. I was absolutely blown away. The authors of the book, the Arbinger Institute, have discovered the secret to world peace--and to domestic tranquility in your marriage and family as well.
Coming as I do from a turbulent family, I recognized the push-pull issues that make people enemies who should love each other. And I recognized when in my life I decided to have peace in my heart and when I chose to be at war in my heart instead--and what the results were. Here is a system of engaging with everyone you meet in order to have peaceful relations.
The book starts with a story about a family taking their paroled drug-dealing son to a desert retreat and rehabilitation program run by an improbable pair of an Israeli and and Arab. The parents drop off the children and then spend a couple of days with the program therapists before leaving the kids behind. Suprise; the book is NOT about the desert survival experience of the kids; we only learn of this obliquely throughout the book. Instead, the parents learn how to deal with each other and their world with a peaceful heart. The system of teaching involves some parables, stories, charts and a pyramid starting at the top with "correction" but supported below with teaching, listening, and otherwise dealing lovingly with your fellow man.
The philosophy of Martin Buber is some of the basis for these important teachings. Buber stated that people either dealt with each other as I-YOU or as I-IT. When people deal with others as "it", we get everything from the person who is yapping on a cell phone while they carelessly careen through a parking lot to wholesale slaughter of people for being the wrong religion or race. From Buber's teaching, we learn how peace in our hearts is when we deal with I-YOU and when we turn our hearts to war, we've turned them to I-IT.
This is a most important book and I recommend that everyone get a copy of it and read it. And read it again. Your life will NOT be the same. It will be better.
Coming as I do from a turbulent family, I recognized the push-pull issues that make people enemies who should love each other. And I recognized when in my life I decided to have peace in my heart and when I chose to be at war in my heart instead--and what the results were. Here is a system of engaging with everyone you meet in order to have peaceful relations.
The book starts with a story about a family taking their paroled drug-dealing son to a desert retreat and rehabilitation program run by an improbable pair of an Israeli and and Arab. The parents drop off the children and then spend a couple of days with the program therapists before leaving the kids behind. Suprise; the book is NOT about the desert survival experience of the kids; we only learn of this obliquely throughout the book. Instead, the parents learn how to deal with each other and their world with a peaceful heart. The system of teaching involves some parables, stories, charts and a pyramid starting at the top with "correction" but supported below with teaching, listening, and otherwise dealing lovingly with your fellow man.
The philosophy of Martin Buber is some of the basis for these important teachings. Buber stated that people either dealt with each other as I-YOU or as I-IT. When people deal with others as "it", we get everything from the person who is yapping on a cell phone while they carelessly careen through a parking lot to wholesale slaughter of people for being the wrong religion or race. From Buber's teaching, we learn how peace in our hearts is when we deal with I-YOU and when we turn our hearts to war, we've turned them to I-IT.
This is a most important book and I recommend that everyone get a copy of it and read it. And read it again. Your life will NOT be the same. It will be better.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
More Like A Prequel
I loved the book, but having read Leadership and Self Deception first, this seemed like more of a prequel than a follow up. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Mike D. Montague
Game changer
I just finished reading this book. Wow, the concepts and ideas presented here are very thought provoking and are life changers. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Travis Wright
An Awesome Book!
This book changed my entire view of my internal response to my environment. What a great book. Inside you learn how your approach to people and situations has a huge effect on... Read more
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Well worth it....
I love this book. It should be read multiple times and studied in order to 'mine' all the truths therein. Read more
Published 5 months ago by GShaw
Recommend this book to anyone who believes in positive change.
Great book. This book was recommended by the CEO of the company I work for, and since reading it, I have recommended this to all my close family and friends. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Madhawa Hewawasam
Easy, thought-provoking, and influencial read
I found this book to be an easy and thought-provoking read. It's a different format from many other books out there because rather than talking at you, it follows a group of... Read more
Published 7 months ago by Cindy Vontresckow
"More tortuous than all else is the human heart" (Jer 17:9)
I chose to read this after reading and liking its predecessor, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box. Read more
Published 8 months ago by Book Glutton
Great book!
Great insight on work, family, any relationships. Attitude is everything! Very 1Corinthians 13, but breaks it down to how it works in our everyday relationships.
Published 8 months ago by Bebop7
Deeply penetrating insights, life-altering
This simple book goes very, very deep. I read it a second time just a few weeks later, so that I could continue to process the ideas and deepen their integration into my own... Read more
Published 9 months ago by Elise Winters-Huete
Effectively teaches what we didn't know we know
This was assigned reading while I was working in the field with at-risk youth. Although I didn't pick up the book to read it then, I did so on my own over a year later. Read more
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"I'm not going!" The teenage girl's shriek pulled everyone's attention to her. Read the first page Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
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Camp Moriah, Mount Moriah, Middle East, Mordechai Lavon, Lou Herbert, Tel Aviv, Complains Badgers, Jack Taylor, Zagrum Company, Ben Arrig, Deir Yassin, Demanding Unreasonable Nag, Kate Stenarude, Learn Helping, Martin Buber, Mordechai Mordechai, Protest Teach, United States New!
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"I'm not going!" The teenage girl's shriek pulled everyone's attention to her. Read the first page Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
choice diagram, helping things Key Phrases - Capitalized Phrases (CAPs): (learn more)
Camp Moriah, Mount Moriah, Middle East, Mordechai Lavon, Lou Herbert, Tel Aviv, Complains Badgers, Jack Taylor, Zagrum Company, Ben Arrig, Deir Yassin, Demanding Unreasonable Nag, Kate Stenarude, Learn Helping, Martin Buber, Mordechai Mordechai, Protest Teach, United States New!
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- Middle East: Geography and Geopolitics by Ewan Anderson in Front Matter
- And There Was Light by Jacques Lusseyran on page 175
- Four Perfect Pebbles: A Holocaust Story by Lila Perl in Front Matter
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