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Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Harper Perennial; Reprint edition (April 24, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0061690287
  • ISBN-13: 978-0061690280
  • Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.2 x 0.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (102 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #713,788 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From Publishers Weekly

Starred Review. The daughter of literary agent Lynn Nesbit and the late theater drama critic Richard Gilman crafts a beautifully sinuous and intensely literary celebration of the exceptional, unconventional child. Her son, Benjamin, was born when she and her academic husband, Richard, were in graduate school at Yale, where she was still working on her dissertation on the Romantic English poet William Wordsworth. As "Benj" grew older and failed to hit the usual milestones of children his age, exhibiting brilliant but "odd" behavior such as an obsession with numbers, aversion to physical affection, fastidiousness, inability to feed himself, and echolalia, Gilman realized these were "uncontrollable manifestations of a disorder," namely hyperlexia. Falsely reassured by their well-intentioned pediatrician, the couple finally sought professional therapists, and after they relocated to Poughkeepsie, N.Y., where both got teaching jobs at Vassar, Benj made marvelous progress in school. Throughout her narrative, Gilman extracts from many of Wordsworth's poems, which comment on innocence and loss and gave Gilman tremendous succor during Benjamin's early development, making for both charming and studious reading. Her thoughtful memoir involves the breakup of her marriage, rejection of an academic career, and move to New York City to work in her mother's literary agency as much as it delves lyrically into the rare, complex mind of the unusual child. (May)
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“Smart, soulful, and involving.” (Nick Hornby, The Believer)

“Rapturously beautiful and deeply moving, profound and marvelous.” (Andrew Solomon, author of Far from the Tree)

The Anti-Romantic Child is beautiful, poetic, and heartfelt. It’s more than a mother–child story; it’s a journey of self-discovery. It’s a book every parent should read.” (Kathryn Erskine, bestselling author of Mockingbird and winner of the 2010 National Book Award)

“Priscilla Gilman’s lyrical narrative is profoundly moving and ultimately joyous. It eloquently touches the universal.” (Harold Bloom)

“What a glorious book Priscilla Gilman has written. Lively, eloquent, straightforward, and insightful, The Anti-Romantic Child deftly delineates and negotiates the complex cross-currents of a life of the mind and a life of the heart.” (Sandra Boynton, children's book author and illustrator)

“Every parent should read this luminous book to absorb or absorb again the truth that every child is a surprise—a revelation—to be uniquely learned and understood as well as loved.” (Mary Catherine Bateson, author of Composing A Further Life: The Age of Active Wisdom)

“Unforgettable. . . . I couldn’t put this book down.” (Gretchen Rubin, bestselling author of The Happiness Project)

“This is a fascinating, tender, illuminating book about an extraordinary boy and his equally extraordinary mother. A wonderful read.” (Martha Beck, author of Expecting Adam and columnist for O magazine)

“A book for all parents. . . . [Gilman’s] poignant story of reconciling fantasy with reality is a universal story of parental growth. A story to inspire us all.” (Ellen Galinsky, the Huffington Post)

“A fantastic memoir. . . . I loved this book.” (KJ Dell'Antonia, lead blogger for the New York Times Motherlode)

More About the Author

Priscilla Gilman grew up in New York City and received her B.A. and Ph.D. in English and American literature from Yale University. She was a professor of English literature at both Yale and Vassar College before leaving academia in 2006. She has taught poetry to inmates in a restorative justice program and to New York City public school students. Gilman writes regularly for publications including the Daily Beast, the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, and the Huffington Post. A prize-winning teacher and with a background in the performing arts, Gilman is a captivating speaker whose warmth, dynamism, and accessibility make her highly sought-after by diverse audiences. She speaks frequently at schools, conferences, and organizations about parenting, education, and the arts, and is a Scholar/Facilitator for the New York Council for the Humanities. She lives with her family, including her two boys, her new husband, and her stepdaughter, in New York City. This is her first book.

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I read this book cover to cover in three nights during a busy time.
anne barnard
Although Priscilla Gilman's book refers to her son Benjamin as "the anti-romantic child," she made me fall in love with Benj!
Cilla
This is a wonderful book that has helped me to see my own child in a new light.
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29 of 30 people found the following review helpful By Eileen Cunningham VINE VOICE on March 12, 2011
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Raised by an imaginative father and launched on motherhood with the poetry of Wordsworth in her heart, Priscilla Gilman longed to create for her own children the romantic vision of childhood she felt herself to have inhabited. But, as the title of her book indicates, her dream was not to be--at least, not in the terms she had perceived it. In the last decades of the twentieth century, research on learning disorders expanded almost exponentially, and with it came teaching methods and even special schools that could address these education needs. Yet, even so, for quite some time, the Gilmans could not find a school that would accept their son, Benjamin.

I read this book in the hope of understanding brilliant students with social phobias, and though the *The Anti-Romantic Child* turned out to be about a child with a rather different set of challenges, I came away from it awed by the power of unconditional and unrelenting love. A former English professor from Vassar, Gilman writes beautifully, allowing the reader to enter her own maelstrom of emotion at each stage of Benj's development--from the heights of reveling in the joy of an exceptionally precocious child to the depths of hearing that he is, as far as intelligence goes, not much more than a parrot, and then on to the lonely machete work in the jungle of the unknown in an effort to prove the pundits wrong. Though the emotions go up and down, however, the determined struggle to make her son capable of receiving and expressing love goes on apace.

As Gilman moves chronologically through Benj's life, she cites lines of verse from Wordsworth, whom she eventually realizes knew both the light and the dark of childhood. Without the Wordsworthean cushion, it is hard to see how Ms.
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20 of 23 people found the following review helpful By jessbcuz VINE VOICE on May 17, 2011
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I can see from reading the other Amazon reviews that I will be in the minority in my criticisms of this book. However, Gilman--as the daughter of a critic and literary agent-- deserves a fair and honest treatment of her work. In voicing my criticisms, I must stress that in the end her book did capture me...and changed the way I think about the expectations we have for our children (special needs or not).

When I began this book, I had no expectations for it, but the intro (section labeled Preface, I believe) was a bumpy ride for me. Early on we learn that Gilman was a professor of English, but I was unimpressed by her disjointed beginning. She aimed to give some background for the story that would unfold, but this intro had an unpolished, drafty quality that almost had me abandoning the book. I pushed on, however, and by the end, I felt that she had told an honest and touching story. She is somewhat unnecessarily apologetic about her decisions regarding her marriage and career choices, but she seems to be explaining it as much to herself as to her reader. This story seems to have finished very recently (the book covers about 10 years, finishing just before publiction), and that rawness shows up in ways that both distract and enthrall the reader.

The thing that sets her book apart form other memoirs is her insertion of Wordsworth poems to illustrate, or even to dialogue with, her story. As she was a literature professor, her use of Wordsworth to understand her own experience is well explained and interesting. I am also intrigued by texts that mix in excerpts or vary the style, but unfortunately I'm not sure it works in her text.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Cilla VINE VOICE on March 6, 2011
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Although Priscilla Gilman's book refers to her son Benjamin as "the anti-romantic child," she made me fall in love with Benj! I would love to meet him some day. I am a psychiatrist, and also a mom of a child who had specials needs from newborn to age four(trach, feeding tube, cleft palate, required numerous surgeries). I was attracted to this book by the concept of how a parent's hopes and dreams for a child, often idealized in a romantic way, can be shaken up and reformed in the light of the reality of having a child that is very different from the expectations. Priscilla, as a scholar of English literature, had romantic ideas about children and how life would be as a mother. When her son Benj was born, he was not cuddly,resisted being touched, was hypersensitive to stimuli, and he struggled with meeting his milestones. He started reading at a very early age and had difficulty with social situations. His mom thought that he was different, but didn't know that his problems were deeper than just being precocious, or eccentric. When she finally realized how serious his issues were, she sought out all the information she could find and embarked on a campaign to give Benj the best therapies available. Benjamin's diagnosis is somewhere on the autistic spectrum and includes hyperlexia(which I had never heard of) but he is complex, and like many patients, can't be defined easily by one diagnosis.

Gilman is a skilled writer, bringing her family to life on the page. By the end of the book, I felt like I knew all of them, and I grew to care about them. She intertwines quotes from Wordsworth and other authors with her descriptions of life as Benj's mom. She vividly describes Benj's day-to-day activities.
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