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45 of 46 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life.
The title grabbed me, but the content is with me to this day. Seabury's "Selfishness" is not selfish. He teaches us how to attain and sustain a healthy self-regard despite unfounded accusations by others that we are being selfish. It is one of the finest self-help books I've ever read and I am so sorry that it is now out of print. This one is a...
Published on April 17, 1998

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2.0 out of 5 stars simpleton
I started reading it last night. Can't imagine why it was #1? Writer is talking down while attempting to sound very smart. Great sentences but just not a good read. Mostly fictitious stories because it seems the author thinks the reader cannot put faces to situations he uses to make his point. Fills the pages but it's a lazy way to deliver a message.
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45 of 46 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life., April 17, 1998
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This review is from: The Art of Selfishness (Paperback)
The title grabbed me, but the content is with me to this day. Seabury's "Selfishness" is not selfish. He teaches us how to attain and sustain a healthy self-regard despite unfounded accusations by others that we are being selfish. It is one of the finest self-help books I've ever read and I am so sorry that it is now out of print. This one is a "keeper" and deserves many readings. I've bought and given many copies and hope to see a reprint soon.
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41 of 42 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Live your life to the best benefit of yourself and others, February 8, 1998
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When I first saw this book fifteen years ago, the title shocked me and captured my attention. There are plenty of people in your life that want you to live for them. This book shows that if you make the hard decision to live for yourself you invariably end up helping the other people in your life more than if you caved in to their wishes. By taking care of your self, you help those around you to get on with their own lives. If you put yourself in order and live your life like you should, everyone in your life, including yourself, will be much happier.
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53 of 66 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I have to have something to give., November 20, 2005
This review is from: The Art of Selfishness (Paperback)
My Mother and Father said it the wrong way. They told me to share and not be selfish.
What they should have said is share don't be greedy. Because of the way it was put I have had a negative outlook at the word selfish.
It made my life hard to fulfill, and being raised as a Catholic it was compounded even more. The Catholic Church pushes its impression of the Bible, and is always telling us to give more then we do, to dig deep and give more.
I met a woman in my church; her husband is in the Army Reserves and is serving over seas. She has a small child and is living in a place with holes in the walls and not sure where her next meal is coming from. She gives more then she can afford each week for collection, keeps enough money to light a candle some times. She needs to just keep all the money and take care of her family and herself first. I believe God does not care how much you sacrifice, but how much you believe in him. Self sacrifice is to me a lot like suicide and that is one thing that will definitely keep you out of his grace.
This book helped me to look at the some of the stories that made me think I was selfish, and see them in another light. For example the last days of Christ, after the last supper he went in to the woods and prayed to his Father to give him strength to do what he had to do, instead of what the Apostles wanted of him, spend his last hours with them, By doing what he wanted, and not what they wanted, this gave him the strength to fulfill his destiny. He then gave to us so much more then could have ever been thought of.
People would describe me as the kind of person that would give the shirt off my back for someone I don't even know. This book has shown me this is self destructive and hurts me and the ones I care the most about. I found out taking the shirt off my own back would only weaken me. I should just go get a shirt out of the closet, give it to them, one I don't need, not the one I was wearing. When I take the shirt off my own back, I could get cold and can get sick, then the ones I care about have to give of themselves to help me get better, and the one I gave the shirt to now needs a coat. It is good for me to give but not when it hurts me or the ones I care about.
I have found myself in the past in a relationship for 18 years that was destructive to me, because it was with a taker, and she was greedy and kept taking and only gave back the least amount as possible just to keep me around so I would keep giving to her. Looking back, most of the things she gave me she did not give me at all, she just let me get it myself.
An old saying is when you smile the whole world smiles with you, what a wonderful gift, a smile. This book has helped me to see something, the only way to smile is from the inside out; the only to do that is to remember I am the most important person on this earth. If I want to give to the ones I love I have to have something to give.
I hope you will get out of this book as I did. If so and it helps you to start being happy, then when you are done give it to someone you care about we all know someone like me and hope they can start being happy inside of themselves, by keeping what they deserve, not giving it all away.
I have learned it is not all about just giving, but sharing, sharing is taking too. I had a relationship with a giver, a wonderful person; I believe I messed some things up by not knowing how to receive, except gifts, take.
So for me I believe life is give and take, balance. I am going try taking, as well as giving, but keep enough for myself, hope I never get greedy, and to keep the takers out of my life, I want to be happy too.
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23 of 27 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Art of Selfishness, July 12, 2004
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This book has sat on my Dad's bedside table for many years. I can always remember seeing it. My Dad is now 77 years old. It travelled with him from the UK to Jamaica, where he and my mum has returned home and retired. He kept money, reciepts, papers etc in this book. I was visiting my parents over the weekend and wanted something to read, I asked him if I could read it. I have read Susan Jeffers and Iyanla Vanzant and many others, but this book is brilliant. As old has it is it, it has not dated in my opinion. The concerns that one had when this book was written has not dated. I said to my Dad I could not have read and understood this book if I did not have some life experiences of my own. It is a very deep and profound book
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19 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars How the Art of Selfishness changed my life choices, June 8, 2002
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My husband and I both read this book in the 1960s. We lent it out and it was never returned. Obviously we didn't learn everything from this book, but it definitely changed our attitudes in interacting with family and friends. We have had a good life, making ever good decisions for ourselves and family. We feel our happiness is due in large part to the guidelines we learned from this book. In fact, spending time renewing ourselves has added to our interaction with our both young and now grown children. We hope we have been able to pass along these values to them.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Art of Selfishness aka "Take Care of Yourself", April 10, 2011
This review is from: The art of selfishness (Hardcover)
I came upon this title about 20 years ago in a used bookstore. The title was at first something I was annoyed at and picked it up to judge with a sneer....I did 'book roulette'...opened to a page, scanned, and again...and it slowly dawned on me, this seeming ancient text (my copy is 1933) is brilliant...It is a treatise..."TAKE care of yourself...and the rest will fall into its correct place."

The book is a helper to guide you towards more harmony in relationships...more serenity and realization that you too are important and the foundation for your life, your choices and relationships depends upon how well you build and maintain your base values and actions and care of self.

It's not a mere 'read and put away' text...like a good book of encouragement or meditative reads, it's one that now and then, you'll turn to and learn anew...worth the addition to any soul's shelf.

Enjoy!
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15 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Profound!, June 16, 2005
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Profound! A pearl of wisdom outlining strategies for managing external negative influence. It provides a strategy for improving your life through a knowledge of self.
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10 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Lifes little rule book, December 23, 2001
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I have read this book many times and find it most enlightning.When the book was in print i would buy 10 to 15 of them and hand them out to a person that i would occasionally run into that i thought would benefit from David's wrightings. I would like to acquire 15 to 20 more but am not willing to pay above the retail price since i would be buying them to give away.If anyone would like to get rid of their copy please let me know.thank you
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The perfect guide to living a more satisfying life, May 10, 2013
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I read this book over 20 years ago and it has helped me understand human relations more than any other book. I just bought four of these used books to give to people who I hope will benefit from it as much as I did. When I re-read the book recently, I realized that I had been quoting things from it that I no longer attributed to the book, because it had become so much a part of my life that I didn't remember where or when I learned it.
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4 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars All Catholic Schools Should Teach This Along With Cathecism, December 28, 2008
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In the 1960s-1970s I went to 12+ years of Catholic schools. And it was in my senior year of High School that I discovered this book by David Seabury. It changed my entire interpretation of the purpose of a Christian life.

I would consider this an important book in many respects. While at Catholic School, we were requred to read Victor Frankl's "Man's Search For Meaning" and Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving". This should have also been included on the same bookshelf.
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