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The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships Paperback – December 30, 2000


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 200 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (December 30, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1572242094
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572242098
  • Product Dimensions: 10 x 7.1 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (52 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #13,255 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“Assertiveness problems—including excessive unassertiveness, aggressiveness, and passive-aggressiveness—afflict millions of people, leading to suffering and undermining potentials for happy, fulfilling lives. In The Assertiveness Workbook, Dr. Randy J. Paterson combines science and clinical experience to create the definitive guide for overcoming assertiveness problems. Blending wisdom, wit, and compassions, this sophisticated yet highly readable volume shows people how to improve their assertiveness in a structured, step-by-step fashion. It is essential reading for anyone wanting to improve their assertiveness, and for therapists treating assertiveness problems.”
—Steven Taylor, Ph.D., R.Psych., Associate Professor, University of British Columbia, and Associate Editor of Behavior Research and Therapy



“This workbook will be a welcome resource to individuals currently struggling with assertiveness difficulties. It will not only help people tackle assertiveness issues, but also target such important topics as need for control, conflict management, and even acceptance of compliments. In short, it holds the potential to effectively change your life.”
—Brian Coz, Ph.D., C.Psych., Psychologist and Associate Professor of Psychiatry, University of Manitoba, and author of more than 100 published research articles on anxiety disorders and depression

About the Author

Randy J Paterson, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the Coordinator of Changeways, a depression treatment program at Vancouver Hospital and Health Sciences Centre in Vancouver, British Columbia. He is adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Psychology and associate faculty in the Department of Psychiatry, Faculty of Medicine at the University of British Colombia. Dr. Paterson has taught over 1200 therapists in the course of more than 100 training seminars on topics such as assertiveness training, depression, and stress management.

More About the Author

I am a psychologist in Vancouver Canada, specializing in the treatment of depression, anxiety, and related difficulties. In 2002 I established Changeways Clinic (www.changeways.com), which now has seven psychologists. As well as seeing clients, we create treatment protocols and resources for clinicians. Our group therapy protocol for depression, The Core Program, is the most widely used protocol in Canada, and has been implemented in the USA, Great Britain, China, Hong Kong, Australia, and elsewhere. I've recorded many of the stories and exercises we use in the group as a series of eight one-hour talks, and have packaged that with the participants' manual - it's available for purchase from the clinic website.

In 2000, the Changeways protocol for communication skills training formed the foundation of The Assertiveness Workbook, from New Harbinger Publications. In 2002 the same publisher brought out Your Depression Map. Most recently, Private Practice Made Simple was published in June 2010.

I write books, resources, and protocols somewhat narcissistically. Is this something that I would want to read or use? I aim for clarity, a minimum of jargon, and something that can readily be put into practice. I have a few writing projects in the works at the moment, and hope to come out with additional books in the coming years.

I also enjoy teaching, and have offered over 200 training workshops for mental health clinicians on cognitive behaviour therapy, the treatment of depression and anxiety, diversity awareness, and private practice management. In 2012 I will be offering a workshop series on practice management (based on Private Practice Made Simple) in cities across Canada. Many of my workshops are sponsored by outside agencies such as health management organizations; information on hosting is available at the www.changeways.com website.

In 2009 the Clinic initiated PsychologySalon, a monthly talk series offered in Vancouver for the general public. In spring 2011 I launched www.psychologysalon.com, a blog on psychology and professional practice.

In my private time I enjoy travel, and I operate a small orchard in the British Columbia interior. Many of the pictures on my blog come from the farm, and these days much of my writing is done there.

Additional resources for therapists are available for purchase from the www.changeways.com website. As well, I have an online course on diaphragmatic breathing at www.udemy.com/breathing-made-easy/.

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Excellent workbook to learn about assertiveness.
Lavone Anderson
I prefer this term because aggression often involves a good deal of hostility and is usually used to control others for one's own benefit.
Sherrie Vavrichek
A great book, well presented and really helpful.
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92 of 98 people found the following review helpful By N. Larrabee on March 13, 2005
Format: Paperback
Being a passive personality, I went looking for some kind of guidance after a recent confrontation. It goes through many basic terms and concepts of human relationships and behavior. The author wants us to understand assertiveness before trying to put new ways of thinking into practice. The important part of the author's lesson is reminding us that assertiveness is part of a person's behavior but is not the person. It builds up to the ten steps of preparing for a confrontation. The written exercises are useful, the diagrams and check boxes not so much. Some terms were basic but many times when things are not working right, we have to be reminded of the basics. Personally, I would not choose to use the assertiveness scorecards in my regular day-to-day routine. It goes over what a DESO script, Describe, Express, Script, Outcome; could mean to anybody's personal and work relationships. How one can change a few steps in giving criticism to create positive feedback. The Assertiveness workbook makes you take a breath, and think before speaking. Clear, easy-to-read, straight-to-the-point chapters are there to help when needed.
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117 of 131 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on February 16, 2001
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This book was easy to read, easy to understand and very easy to apply immediately to life circumstances. I particularly found useful the chart of behaviors and the aspects of appearance very well written, vivid and clear. This book was full of accurate user friendly information that anyone would be able to apply in their lives whatever their circumstance or job.
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29 of 31 people found the following review helpful By ReaderMommy22 on February 17, 2007
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This book is by far the most helpful book I've ever read. It is very informative, but in plain words that almost anyone can understand. The exercises it suggests really do help. I'm only half-way through it, but I've already made significant changes in my behavior. It really helped me understand the different communication styles and how to tweak my style to make me more satisfied with my communication with others. It's so simple to do! I've always been lazy about change or given up too early, but this truly couldn't be any easier.
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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful By Mary Wendell on January 30, 2014
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Over the past several months, I've read many books about entrepreneurship, building relationships with others, and climbing the career ladder. All of these techniques have one thing in common: they require you to stand up for yourself and be assertive. Could I have just read this book!?

I've learned that assertiveness is simply being yourself. It is contributing to those around you in a positive way. It is respecting people for who they are. It is respecting the differences in one another. It is becoming more aware of what is important to others. It is speaking with wisdom. We all want the approval of others, but we must understand not everyone will be receptive to what we say. However, we will receive the respect of others when we speak up regardless of whether or not they agree.

One great technique is to minimize your communications - focus on making your messages as slim as possible, only communicating the bare assertive essentials. With that, I close this review. This book is wonderful. I recommend it! Along with, Success Secrets of the Motivational Superstars there are many great tips out there to becoming more assertive.
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26 of 28 people found the following review helpful By Mom With Taste on November 21, 2006
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I had reached a point where I needed to learn how to assert myself and stop being miserable in certain situations. This book helped me take action and understand how to react when confronted. If you feel that you are in need of some "tools" this is a great book.
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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful By Edward Morris on January 28, 2009
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I tried everything to become assertive, but before I discovered this book, nothing taught me this ability, it will work for you too, if you commit to it, it's so much harder than it seems but that's just because you need it so bad!

You will be amazed how you you will become a different person when you intigrate this material, it works!
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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful By TheRainKing on November 5, 2008
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This book is a great tool and really does help. You have to do the work as prescribed or you really will just waste your time. Realistically though simply reading a book couldn't possibly change a person without actually acting on the information. If you need help in this area get the book and use it, it is very helpful.
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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful By S. L. Hawke on May 12, 2007
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Excellent resource for how to deal with PA's and others-the book's no nonsense approach (yes, it's hard to change and yes your significants others will resist you), exercises, and examples give you inspiration without alot of nonsense and over the top 'you can do it' every paragraph.

Accessible and easily readable, this practical guide will help you get what you need or establish your personal boundaries without all the new age style rhetoric.
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