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The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory Paperback – June 1, 2008
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At last! Newton’s Attachment Connection takes attachment and neuroscience into the mainstream of parenting and clinical practice, bringing clarity and insight to the often misunderstood world of family bonds. Using a sensitive combination of informative vignettes, lucid explanations, and developmental milestones, she deftly illuminates the nature of the bond that develops between parents and their babies and the profound influence which this bond will have on a baby’s ability to form secure attachments. As a therapist and academic, Newton’s comprehensive knowledge of the socio-emotional development of children shines through with intelligence, passion, humor, and sensitivity.
—Sir Richard Bowlby Bt., president of the Centre for Child Mental Health in London, UK
Drawing on the latest scientific research and her extensive clinical experience, Newton has written a practical guide for parents who seek to foster an attachment bond with their young children (infants through three years of age). Since a secure attachment forms the foundation for children’s later social and emotional development, this is must read book for parents.
—Charles E. Schaefer, PhD, professor of psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University in Teaneck, NJ, and cofounder and director emeritus of the Association for Play Therapy
"[Ruth Newton] has written a valuable book..."
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After reading it, I feel I have a strong theoretical framework that I can apply to my parenting, instead of blindly following rules of thumb. By offering real life and clinical examples of what can go wrong and what "right" should look like, Newton really is able to teach through this book. I also appreciated the easy reference sidebars that address specific issues (typical behavior and ideas for what I can do w/ baby) for each age group.
Two other notable sets of content: the book includes 1) good discussions on Dads and how they contribute to parenting, and 2) the last chapter on childcare. Although the chapter mainly says that there are a lot of open questions on the impact of different types of childcare on children's development, the fact that Newton addressed this question with the data available to date is super helpful and eye-opening.
I borrowed this book from the library first and have since bought a copy myself, as I can see myself referring to it from now (age 9 weeks) throughout toddlerhood. If you are a new parent, you know you get a ton of advice from every direction, this book is going to help you stay sane, centered, and confident about your actions and the choices you make.
The book really opened my eyes to the importance of attachment, it seems like a given, but the author really digs into the psychological effect of failing to have that secure attachment. I've been doing a lot of therapy work and learning how addiction/self esteem issues/codependency can come out of failing to feel secure/loved/attached/worthwhile/valued. This book will help you create that secure attachment every child needs.
Some chapters are broken out by age pre-baby, newborn, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months, 9 months, 12 months, 18 months, 2 years, 3 years, 4 years and has suggested games to play with your little one, a section on milestones & brain development.
Loved this book, I am going to give it to my friend's who are expecting. There is a great section on father/mother relationships and pregnancy, going back to work and the psychological impact that all of these things can have on your child.
She has written a book that not only illustrats the life long impact and importance of the childs attachment to its primary care giver, but she gives the reader easy tools and methods to accomplsh the goal.
Her writing style is poetic and lyrical. A truly extraordinary read!
When my sister became pregnant with her first child I bought her this book. She read it & I couldn't help, but read it as well. It was so helpful in those early months because, as we quickly learned there are so many misconceptions & many people seem to have opinions about how to raise a child. The book was so helpful in learning to tune out all the "noise" & bring attention to the biggest tool we all already have, but unfortunately have been taught to ignore. Responding to our natural instinctive feelings that arise when a child is crying out for something. We might not immediately know what the child needs, but key point is that without language & mobility an infant is fully dependent on the caregiver. Also, children don't come into the world with the notion of concepts such as manipulation. We hear things about not "spoiling" a child, letting him or her "cry it out, not carrying him or her too much, etc. However, if a child is crying out for something, by responding to the child's needs we actually teach him/her the skills to be able to moderate his/her own emotions in the long term & at the same time we let the child know that what he/she feels is valid & important. In the long term, this leads to confidence & independence.Read more ›
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Every new parent should read this. I am so glad I was recommended it by a friend now that my baby is only a few months old. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Artemisia
helpful for learning about the development of children, great in a Phases class for an MFT program. Easy read too. not at all like text bookPublished 9 months ago by Jeanne
I do not come from a background in psychology (since this is the language of this book), but the findings on attachment and ones development is astonishing, if you don't have... Read morePublished 9 months ago by ToyToy
Excellent book! I wish every parent could read it. The theories are sound; they have been researched and have been proved. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Robyn Dahlgren
Personnaly, the real life family stories in this book made me feel uncomfortable. They are all very black and white. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Mila
As a psychology student and caregiver who sees Attachment Theory tested and used in many ways, I knew that there was some great information in here for parents who you are afraid... Read morePublished 23 months ago by Lisa WF